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So what's kosher here.

Go ahead and look, but tell her that you're doing so. It'll make the whole scenario much more comfortable.

Always with the helpful comment. :guffaw:

Well, look at it this way: If she pushes them out and says, "Sure. Please be sure to note the shaping and aerodynamics," then you can consider the ice broken. Next step, ask her out.

See? I have his best interests in mind.
 
Go ahead and look, but tell her that you're doing so. It'll make the whole scenario much more comfortable.

Always with the helpful comment. :guffaw:

Well, look at it this way: If she pushes them out and says, "Sure. Please be sure to note the shaping and aerodynamics," then you can consider the ice broken. Next step, ask her out.

See? I have his best interests in mind.

I want to major in mammary aerodynamics...
 
^ Have a strange man twice your size stare at your crotch all day, when you have no clue as to his intent, then get back to us about how that made you feel...
Doesn't matter how it would make me feel. He's free to look wherever he wants. My feelings are not protected by law, nor my emotional comfort.
 
There's no standard that applies to everyone. She doesn't want *everyone* to look at them--they are supposed to interested people she would like. If she likes you, it's OK; if not, it isn't.
 
It's okay up until she says "stop it" or slaps you. Put them on show like that and expect people to not look? That's like putting up a nice Christmas tree in the part -- real facy and pretty -- and telling people not to look at it.
 
^ Have a strange man twice your size stare at your crotch all day, when you have no clue as to his intent, then get back to us about how that made you feel...
Doesn't matter how it would make me feel. He's free to look wherever he wants. My feelings are not protected by law, nor my emotional comfort.

Dude, if you behaved half as anarchic as you claim to believe you have the right to, you'd have the shit pounded out of you weekly. :rolleyes:
 
^ Have a strange man twice your size stare at your crotch all day, when you have no clue as to his intent, then get back to us about how that made you feel...
Doesn't matter how it would make me feel. He's free to look wherever he wants. My feelings are not protected by law, nor my emotional comfort.

Dude, if you behaved half as anarchic as you claim to believe you have the right to, you'd have the shit pounded out of you weekly. :rolleyes:
One of the advantages of being bigger, stronger, and smarter than most people is that few try.
 
DON'T READ THIS POST. I MADE IT VISIBLE TO EVERYONE, BUT YOU SHOULDN'T READ IT BECAUSE, BY DOING SO, YOU'RE INVADING MY PRIVACY.

DON'T READ THIS! DON'T READ THIS! DON'T READ THIS!


Doesn't matter how it would make me feel. He's free to look wherever he wants. My feelings are not protected by law, nor my emotional comfort.

Dude, if you behaved half as anarchic as you claim to believe you have the right to, you'd have the shit pounded out of you weekly. :rolleyes:
One of the advantages of being bigger, stronger, and smarter than most people is that few try.
He does act that way, and he doesn't get weekly beatings. Unlike these "most people," I'm big, strong, and smart enough that I'd probably stand a chance against him. However, he amuses me so I don't feel like making the attempt.
 
^Good idea, then one of you can get signed up for MMA fights, make millions and then lose in 13 seconds to some stand-in they brought in because the guy you were supposed to fight got hurt.
 
If she puts them out in the open for you to see, it's okay to look at them. If she puts them out in the open for you to see and complains when you look at them, it's okay to laugh at her. :D
 
Also, a helpful tip: If you bang the receptionist at the dating service, it'll save you about 4 grand! ;)
 
Well, I looked this gal in the face most of the time, I admit to the occasional glance down but I did it carefully an "hidden" in my talking to her as part of moving my eyes while talking.

It was really hard too because I'm not good at looking people in the eyes/face when talking to them. But, oh my god they were RIGHT THERE. :drool:

Seriously, these babies are burned into my memory.
You shouldn't state at them. You should touch them. Trust me on this ;):cool:
 
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I think it's unreasonable to ask a women to hide herself in baggy or shapeless clothing or else she gets stared at.

However, when they're being obviously displayed, for boob-men a little glancing down is expected. If the woman has a problem with it, then ask her if you wore short-shorts and let your balls hang out a little, would she look or not?

Like Kestra said, the blatant boob-display of others draws the attention of all gazes because it's kind of taboo. So would a blatant display of grape-smuggling or pocket-rocketism. :rommie:
 
Without any details I'm at an apointment today and I'm talking to the gal.

And she's wearing this shirt that... well really shows off her ample breasts.

They're pretty much on display. The shirt buttons up to just under her breasts they're cupped together nicely by her bra and the sides of the shirt, I mean the suckers are right there.

So in this case is it OK to look at them? I mean, she has to know men are going tolook at them when they're on display like that. Would she be "right" to get upset by me looking at her ample clevage when she's on display like this? I'm not saying she's "ask for" getting attacked either verbally or physically, but how upset can she get if a man is staring at her chest when she's putting it out there like that?
So you mean the skin was showing just above the bra ? That invites looking for sure.
Did she actually complain?
As long as you're not staring at them. If you're talking with her, it's normal to be looking at her. Especially if you're not comfortable staring people in the eye. Personally, I'm more uncomfortable if someone stares me in the eye than if they look down.
I prefer that a guy doesn't stare there, but a little looking is understandable. I mean there are women where even I can't help looking.
Oh yeah. I remember, on the underground, sitting across from a girl who was putting them out there. My eyes were also "sucked in" as if they were a TV screen or a fire or something. Orbs just... attract the eye. When they're on display.
But see, if you prefer a guy to not star there why (in theory/sake of discussion) why wear something that draws so much attention to them?
Honestly, they're just big and it's difficult to find a properly fitted top that doesn't draw attention to them. I'd have to walk around in baggy t-shirts all the time if I didn't want to draw any attention at all.
True that for some women it's a curse. Wishing one could make them disappear. I had a hard time being a curvy 16-year-old. Guys my age being completely perturbed (especially when I was younger) and not acting normal with me. Older men staring and even gesturing sometimes. Urgh! And I wasn't showing any skin. I wasn't comfortable showing much cleavage until the age of 25 at least. Having smaller breasts, too.
If she puts them out in the open for you to see, it's okay to look at them. If she puts them out in the open for you to see and complains when you look at them, it's okay to laugh at her. :D
I'd have to agree. I think one can dress in a way that doesn't invite so much staring without resorting to baggy T-shirts. Isn't this winter, anyway? Or was that place overheated?

Also, a helpful tip: If you bang the receptionist at the dating service, it'll save you about 4 grand! ;)
I was wondering where this was. More effective than the therapy suggestion of the other thread. If what you need is a girlfriend, it's a wiser way to spend (or not spend, as suggested above) your money!
 
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