The problem with the "they're both wrong" interpretation is that at the end of the episode, the only one forced to apologize by the (male) writers is Leah. Geordi NEVER admits to having behaved less than appropriately.
Leah: "
I really owe you an apology" (she mostly doesn't, except that she came there under the false pretense of commending his work, when that was really just a false narrative to get her on board, to ambush & bully him about unapproved changes to her designs)
Geordi: "
No you don't. I should have told you outright" (and admission of guilt about how he should've initially confessed the way he'd already been familiar with her, awkward though that would've also been)
They both had preconceived prejudices about one another, that they acted upon. He let his get FAAAAR more out of hand, so thereby rejects the claim she should apologize & takes responsibility. Could it have been written better? Yeah, but I can barely get thru an episode that couldn't have been, especially by today's standards, hindsight being 20/20 & all.
He lies to her when she asks about the hologram, telling her he was only seeking her friendship.
How'd he lie about the program? As far as is shown, the computer made him one program for Booby Trap, which
IT took too far into personal areas of making intimate contact with him. It caused him to develop feelings about her, but nothing is said that it went any further than that. (Though haters sure love their conjecture that more did)
Him telling her he sought friendship was some cope lol. We know he had deeper feelings too, & it was a kneejerk defensive comment, that isn't entirely fair to her, but he had said the same thing to Guinan too. So it's at least possible & even likely, knowing of his usual integrity as we do, that such an outcome was also within his intentions, were the deeper connection not in the cards. So many people do not want to give him the benefit of the doubt on that.
Her jumping to conclusions about his interactions with the holodeck are valid, given how things developed. Her coming there to surprise ambush him, based on how she'd built him up in her head... not as valid. In that way, she was wrong.
Him hiding the truth, & digging his heels in about it, when it gets outted, is wrong of him & in the end, he knows that, & admits it. She also knows she came there with prejudice & admits that... and they get past it & move on from it congenially. We however, apparently never will
