My thoughts on this episode:
I feel like the homophobia moment isn’t terrible in the conception that Joel is the kind of guy who had two good friends (literally two of his ONLY friends) as gay men that he accepted and probably didn’t think of himself as prejudiced but reacted badly when it was his daughter. Particularly when it was associated with the realization Ellie was growing up and becoming a woman, which Joel isn’t ready for with the fact she’s (no matter how much he loves her individually), also a substitute for his dead daughter, Sara. The thing is that Joel almost immediately backpedals and attempts to make amends. Which is a contrast to, well, a huge number of RL parents.
Still, it’s jarring even knowing society was frozen at 2003.
Sadly, I'm sure Ellie is NOT going to be better than Joel and is going to be going down a very dark road trying to avenge him. Joel would be fine with Ellie giving up on the path of revenge and violence. However, she’s already crossed a lot of moral lines torturing Nora before killing her. I don’t see her as turning back despite given a dozen reasons to do so.