I have told you before. You need professional help. This is depression talking. As Wil Wheaton will tell you, depression LIES.
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Anxiety isn't much better.
I can't emphasize enough the value of therapy. About 2 years ago I had a really bad bout of depression and anxiety after my ex-girlfriend broke up with me. I started watching YouTube videos about getting your ex back and a lot of it was BS and using what I would consider manipulative tactics to try to get your ex back. But there were actually a few good ones mixed in there as well and one in particular was by a psychotherapist and he had a lot of good information about attachment styles and how they affect our relationships later in life. And he strongly encouraged getting therapy. So I did and was very lucky to find an excellent therapist who specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). At first, I admit, all I wanted was my ex back. But I came to realize I had some of my own issues I needed to work on and eventually I moved on from my ex and worked on the things I needed to work on for myself. I continue to see him on a biweekly basis and am actually to the point I'll probably be ready to exit therapy by the end of the year. I found CBT to be very helpful for my anxiety and depression. It's much more than just 'talking' to the therapist. He has taught me skills to basically take apart unhealthy thoughts. It didn't happen overnight, but over time I've learned ways to control my anxious thoughts, and I've found over time I have less and less of those kinds of thoughts.
My current girlfriend has also been incredibly supportive. I can't emphasize enough the importance of family and friends to support you as well.
Another thing I've found helpful is I've been studying up on modern Stoicism (which CBT is actually based on). Now this isn't small -s- stoicism, as in the Mr. Spock type where you maintain a stone cold demeanor and try to control your emotions. This is a much different Stoicism. Basically it's about letting go of things we have no control over (i.e. other people, the weather, situations) and focusing on things you can control, such as your reactions to things and events. In many ways some of the roots of anxiety is worrying about things we have no control over. There are lots of YouTube videos about that, though again, like anything, some videos are better than others. I've also read some books about it. Books based on Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus and Seneca in particular have a lot of good information.
And finally Zen wisdom (based on Buddhism) has been helpful to me. Zen wisdom focuses a lot on mindfulness. Being aware of the moment. Meditation. Journalling. And I actually find in many ways that goes hand in hand with modern Stoicism. Letting go of unhelpful desires. Accepting things as they are. Learning from our mistakes rather than letting them drag us down. It's not about the religion or faith of Buddhism. But about the wisdom and philosophy it teaches that have value for me. And there are videos and books about that.
Those are just some of the things that have helped me on my journey to overcoming my own anxiety. Hopefully it might be of help to others that have experienced anxiety, and depression. I know my own anxiety took me to a very dark place. I basically just existed for weeks. I hope with the skills I've learned from therapy, attachment styles, Stoicism and Zen wisdom that I never see that dark place again. I feel for anyone who finds themselves in that dark place now. You can find your way out, with some help. Try to take comfort in knowing that there are ways out, even when it doesn't feel that way.
My current girlfriend has also been incredibly supportive. I can't emphasize enough the importance of family and friends to support you as well.
Another thing I've found helpful is I've been studying up on modern Stoicism (which CBT is actually based on). Now this isn't small -s- stoicism, as in the Mr. Spock type where you maintain a stone cold demeanor and try to control your emotions. This is a much different Stoicism. Basically it's about letting go of things we have no control over (i.e. other people, the weather, situations) and focusing on things you can control, such as your reactions to things and events. In many ways some of the roots of anxiety is worrying about things we have no control over. There are lots of YouTube videos about that, though again, like anything, some videos are better than others. I've also read some books about it. Books based on Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus and Seneca in particular have a lot of good information.
And finally Zen wisdom (based on Buddhism) has been helpful to me. Zen wisdom focuses a lot on mindfulness. Being aware of the moment. Meditation. Journalling. And I actually find in many ways that goes hand in hand with modern Stoicism. Letting go of unhelpful desires. Accepting things as they are. Learning from our mistakes rather than letting them drag us down. It's not about the religion or faith of Buddhism. But about the wisdom and philosophy it teaches that have value for me. And there are videos and books about that.
Those are just some of the things that have helped me on my journey to overcoming my own anxiety. Hopefully it might be of help to others that have experienced anxiety, and depression. I know my own anxiety took me to a very dark place. I basically just existed for weeks. I hope with the skills I've learned from therapy, attachment styles, Stoicism and Zen wisdom that I never see that dark place again. I feel for anyone who finds themselves in that dark place now. You can find your way out, with some help. Try to take comfort in knowing that there are ways out, even when it doesn't feel that way.
Stoicism is one of my preferred go tos for outside secular philosophy. I utilize it in distress tolerance work with clients.
Highly recommend.
I posted about this in the things that frustrate us thread, but since I'm not sure if everyone here goes in there, I was going to post about it here to.
I went in for my drug screening at my new job, which is at Lowe's, today. I've also been fighting off an infection all week, which meant that I spent the whole time I was there hoping I wasn't going to start puking my guts out, and luckily I didn't.
I went in for my drug screening at my new job, which is at Lowe's, today. I've also been fighting off an infection all week, which meant that I spent the whole time I was there hoping I wasn't going to start puking my guts out, and luckily I didn't.
I was there yesterday. Then I had this today:
People underestimate their value, their impact upon others. But, the truth is, the world is a lesser place when a person is lost. That unique spark, that individual experience, that need to connect, will never appear again. Star Trek, for all its other deficiencies, brings people together to be reminded to cherish moments because they will never come again.
The grass is always greener, I suppose.
Despite the challenges, difficulties, and downright depressing times I'm going through (bills, repairs and more bad news through the weekend) the idea of being the opposite of alive has no appeal.
I'm just frustrated Fireproof. I been in lots of pain with my neck and back and my GP acts like they don't wont to help. I think it's because I'm on Medicaid and my GP sees me as a burden.
I'm frustrated too. I regularly play caregiver for multiple people outside of my job. Often for pain.
I have wished to go back in time for decisions I think are poor.
I get frustrated. I do. This is not for diminish your pain but to acknowledge that you have a place here.
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Then you need another GP. That is some bullshit!
That I totally believe!
Living in Rual Idaho is much the same.
Grateful that COVID force telemedicine to grow as much as it did. Medicaid reimbursements went up slightly, at least for my work. But, they're still among the lowest of the payors.
How does one combat to urges to do things that makes me unhappy and mentally weak as if im not in control despite how hard I resisit.
Lately I been having urges to visit twitch, a website that makes feel unhappy because it serves as a reminder of percious time I wasted, lack of being in control, and an unwanted diversion from things I do enjoy like my writings, or watching old tv shows.
Lately I been having urges to visit twitch, a website that makes feel unhappy because it serves as a reminder of percious time I wasted, lack of being in control, and an unwanted diversion from things I do enjoy like my writings, or watching old tv shows.
I would be curious to know what Twitch did for you at the time? Usually I feel drawn back to bad habits because regardless of how I feel now, there was an appeal to some need I have, either a sense of familiarity, a sense of belonging, or just morbid curiosity as to what's going on there. I recall several sites that were total time wastes that I held on to far to longer after their prime.
If you can identify the need you can probably find a healthier alternative.
The only thing that works for me is to do something else until the urge passes.
The urges never leave. I can't catch a break.
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