That kind of thought is bigoted, to me. We are supposed to celebrate and respect orientations. I would never call a gay man bigoted for not wanting to date a woman.
I take a huge issue with "celebrate LGBT pride! Respect everyone's orientations!"... "except straight people. Be gay, you not-gay bigots."
It's ACTUALLY ok to be attracted to who you are attracted to, and not be attracted to who you are not. Whatever combination that is is actually entirely irrelevant.
"You know, I've scored a perfect 0 on the
Kinley scale. I would bang a horta if they assured me he was male. But it is absolutely inconceivable to me to have sex with a being of the female sex/gender. Sorry. But feel free to call me when you find a male host. Bye!"
Now that would have been honest!
Now do this, but make Crusher a lesbian who rejects a cis man host.
Does that still read as acceptable?
Now... there's a slightly more philosophical question in there that is interesting and happens in real life already but could be exacerbated by sci-fi. I'll use my example. I'm a straight male. I have absolutely no romantic or sexual interest in men, or to be particularly specific, "people of any gender that have a penis". It's just not for me. I might be attracted to like, 95% of someone who does, but the 5% is a deal breaker for me. Not interested. There's nothing wrong with that person in any way, I just am not personally interested. Now if this person had surgery done? Possibly. I don't really care about chromosomes. I have to admit that i've never actually seen what that might look like. I would guess that if it's essentially indistinguishable... sure? That would probably be ok?
The more interesting are the sci-fi questions. I love my fiance very much. If some kind of transporter accident occurred and put her consciousness into Danny Devito, things are certainly going to change. There is still love. I still love that person, but the love would certainly be a different kind of love. This is exactly the kind of thing Crusher felt in this episode. It is a human thing, spoken as people speak and not necessarily meaning "literally every single member of the human race", but humans as a generalization.
Is that so? Man, you’re full of some of the wildest hot takes I’ve seen in a while, I must admit. At the risk of sending us down another side discussion, how is it overused and incorrectly used?
Exactly as discussed. A phobia is being afraid of something.
Not liking something isn't being afraid of it. It
could be. Sometimes it is. Not always. Saying something so incredibly shocking and controversial as "i'm straight and wouldn't date a man" isn't homophobic. It's not even, like, wrong in any way. There ARE people who say it's homophobic. Even if you want to say it's bigoted (it's not), it's not a phobia. I'm not afraid of dating men. I'm not interested in it.
The real tl;dr of it all is Homophobia and bigotry against homosexuals is not the same thing. They can sometimes go hand in hand, but not always. One can be bigoted against LGBT people and not be afraid of them. One can also not be bigoted or afraid at all, and be labelled homophobic.
That’s a straw man, because I don’t see anyone who would have seriously wanted her to say something as weirdly specific as that. However, what’s so wrong about starting off with “I personally am not attracted to women”? That would make so much more sense than trying to say that it is something humans just don't do.
Because it was more than that, at least from my perspective. I don't see anything that happened there as strictly an LGBT thing. She was already having trouble accepting that Odan was now in Riker's body. A male, who she was presumably attracted to. That was already causing her distress. Odan getting a new host that was a woman, now yet another change and also an incompatible one, was too much. Yeah, it's very human to not be able to handle to that.
Yeah, but you know, it’s kinda weird that that’s her experience. I mean, she is a middle-aged woman traveling the galaxy together with a 1.000 other people. You’d think her experience would be less similar to that of a typical 90s housewife, no?
That's her experience because that's her orientation... it has literally nothing to do anyone else but her.
But even so, she's flying around on a ship with a thousand people, so statistically there would be like... potentially 6 or 7 people who identify as LGBT. Perhaps actually lower, given that I would suspect people who identify as trans would be lower in the 24th century. While I understand not everyone would want surgery and the like and are comfortable existing as they are, anyone who did want to fully transition to another sex could do so almost effortlessly. We're talking like an afternoon, outpatient procedure.
Given a generally progressive sensibility and "live your life" mentality, I think there's a good chance that "trans" is a rare identity. Someone who has changed their gender is just that now.
I'm going into wild speculation land here, so just want to preface it with that. Gender dysphoria may have different treatments by then as well. This isn't a huge topic of interest of me so I only get what I know from cultural osmosis. From what I understand I don't believe it is considered a mental illness, but it is certainly that requires treatment... that treatment seems to be transitioning. Which, I feel the need to sprinkle in constant disclaimers, is perfectly ok and great and I fully support everyone and their rights to live how they feel. But... is it possible that by the 24th century, there are other treatments? That facet of LGBT may just be less common. That is said with zero editorial on any sort of ethical considerations... I am not versed enough to comment. Merely a speculation. If it's out of line I apologize in advanced and am prepared to remove this section if requested.
I also just want to advertise that like, i'm mostly on your side. I'm American center-left. I believe in equal rights for all. Love who you want. Be who you need to be. Don't feel guilty, or let others make you feel guilty, about that any of that. Gay, straight, bi, pan, things I don't even know about. Everything is completely ok. Live and let live!