I mean, a lot of that really has nothing to do with what you originally said.
Pardon?
I mean, this is just not true. Women are not a monolith that all relate to the same characters. In fact, some men may relate to a female character and vice versa.
I never once said they were a monolith. But there"s a far more consistent distribution with women. Less of the extremes.
It's nothing to do with psychopaths(?) or autism, it's just a fact that women can have personalities that are as different from each other's as men can.
Both psychopathy and autism are on spectrums. And these spectrums span out into the greater population with an obvious gender difference. Obsessiveness and lack of empathy relate to those two traits, it's a pretty well defined line that explains some of the gender extremes. Obsessiveness and a lessor empathy are traits common in a whole lot of men. Women can have both, but it's just way less common. Usually it's one or the other.
With regards to Kirk, Picard, and Sisko: Picard's age and Sisko's fatherhood are important parts of their characters. Their gender is not, nor is it central to Kirk's character.
What you mean is it wouldn't change anything to you. I'm not arguing with you about what you like, more than happy to admit you're unique. This is the distinction. I'm not denying people exist.
For the simple reason I want to be like the male character, I want to emulate them, I emulate people who take on my gender role. I don't ever try to emulate the opposite gender, anymore than I try to emulate the mannerisms of a chinese person. Not because I hate women, not emulating a soccer player doesn't mean I hate soccer players. I just have modeled my life on hockey players etc.
It also goes in both directions, I never ever want to be a neelix, 7of9 or the doctor.
Favorite female characters are consistently, Pulaski/troi/yates/torres/t'pol.
I don't relate but I wish I could do what they do because I can't.
One of the fundamental problems with writing female characters a lot of men like, is that they don't value a girl that can kick but. But it's those qualities that are not common in men that usually move the needle in one way or the other.
This can turn into a long discussion, point is there's no moral high ground in denying people's preferences, nor is it particularly virtuous to manufacture narratives to suggest liking something makes the person evil.
What, specifically, would change if they were female?
You'd be surprised. you may not perceive gender, but people like myself do. I don't know how to even start explaining that. I'm autistic and I have a good sense when people display autistic like traits. Women show way less, and even autistic women like my wife, despite having an autistic temperament still is not like a man. I.e. I'm not a fan of violence/action for an average guy, but I still will watch holocaust documentaries while I'm eating my fruits loops/breakfast and have a perfect day. my wife gets upset with modest levels of violence. For me the violence has to be pretty intense before I even have much of an interest.
Statistically likely and statistically common are not the same thing.
If a female captain objected to children like picard, I wouldn't think it's impossible, it'd be mildly confusing because I never met a woman like that before. Doesn't mean it never happens, but my own grandfather is like picard, I don't have to think to long and hard about someone I know who's a picard. Janeway is just like my Aunt, never needed a moment to think on whether or not she's someone I know.
Not every character has to be relatable, T'pol is interesting to me exactly because she shows enough autistic traits that it is atypical. But the story structure of the character works. Unrionically part of the character's appeal is that she's atypical even among vulcans, and she feels a constant sense of overwhelming pressure coming in from all side. Everyone is brutal to T'pol humans because she's vulcan, vulcan's because she's not vulcan enough. Some people perssure her because she's attractive, some resent her because she's too attractive, and at the end of the day she's second in command and she has to spend all of her time cleaning up messes started by archer/tucker and/or earth-vulcan high command. She's a character that works because she's frickin hot and she's rarely inclined to get in a macho pissing match. Her gender formulates a lot of that structure, and at the end of the day she's basically/entirely an autistic woman.
Regardless, this will be my last post on the topic in this thread. If you wish to continue this discussion, let's take it to a more relevant thread.
It's directly relevant, when you ignore what people want, and you want their money, you run into a problem.
If they made content for me it'd be radically different from what we're getting.
you're no different than the people running these companies. If you think gender isn't important, it's no shock when a massive number of people who do, have no interest in your product.
It'd be 40 minutes of technical discussion and 5 minutes wasted on everything else.
I'm not normal, and a studio would be mentally insane to make a show for me.