Mental Wellness Support Group

[JD]

I'm trying, that's part of why I've been trying to make a point of stopping and talking to more people on my bike rides. And after the first few people had been nice that made it a little easier for me to keep trying. I almost talked to new people at a couple places where I stopped today, but didn't get a chance to.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

JD, I’m wondering if you could do what I do. When I’m feeling twitchy, I try and make a mental list to see what it is that actually has my anxiety up. If I figure it out, I can generally talk myself back to calm. What makes you anxious about people?

 

[bdub76]

I guess one of the big reasons I haven't is because it's really only in those certain situations, and as long as I avoid those situations, I'm fine. And I might actually be getting a bit better, on my bike rides I've been talking to more people, and when people have been around when I've been petting or watching the horses, I've actually been able to stay calm and stay put, and haven't been panicking and taking off the moment I see them.

The earlier in life you learn to socialize the better. It’s much harder to learn social skills as an adult than as a kid. As a kid you’re learning with everyone else. As an adult, you’re expected to have already figured this stuff out. People will be much shorter with you and put up with far less the older they get.

I’d see someone for help if you’re already over the age of 25. You’ll need to learn the skills that you should have learned earlier. And this is probably the least awkward way to do it.

Were you given the opportunity to avoid socializing as a kid?

 

[Commander Troi]

Damn, I hate depression. It's such a fog to fight through.

***HUGS***

 

[JD]

The earlier in life you learn to socialize the better. It’s much harder to learn social skills as an adult than as a kid. As a kid you’re learning with everyone else. As an adult, you’re expected to have already figured this stuff out. People will be much shorter with you and put up with far less the older they get.

I’d see someone for help if you’re already over the age of 25. You’ll need to learn the skills that you should have learned earlier. And this is probably the least awkward way to do it.

Were you given the opportunity to avoid socializing as a kid?

I socialized as a kid, I had friends and played with other kids in the neighborhood, but I was picked on a lot and picked on a lot at school for being a nerd, so that might be part of what made me want to have less to do with people.

JD, I’m wondering if you could do what I do. When I’m feeling twitchy, I try and make a mental list to see what it is that actually has my anxiety up. If I figure it out, I can generally talk myself back to calm. What makes you anxious about people?

I don't really know, I think of it comes down to not knowing what's going to happen, or how they're going to react me.
I've never really gave a thought of thought to why exactly I feel this way, it's how it goes for me.

 

[Bynar0110]

I just want to apologize for my last post.

 

[cosmic mouse]

compassion fatigue is a chronic reality....

 

[Commander Troi]

I just want to apologize for my last post.

No apologies necessary.

 

[fireproof78]

I just want to apologize for my last post.

Not needed. Hope you are doing better.

compassion fatigue is a chronic reality....

It is. And it sucks.

 

[Bynar0110]

Not needed. Hope you are doing better.

mentally I'm doing better. I have pinched nerves in my neck

 

[Commander Troi]

Ouch!

 

[fireproof78]

mentally I'm doing better. I have pinched nerves in my neck

Dang Vulcans!

 

[Bynar0110]

Deeply depressed but I'm not going to hurt myself in anyway t

 

[fireproof78]

Deeply depressed but I'm not going to hurt myself in anyway t

Glad to hear it, about the not hurting yourself bit, not the depression part. I am similarly depressed and fighting through it. You're not alone, my friend!

 

[Bynar0110]

I do feel very hopeless (not suicidal)

 

[Commander Troi]

I've been feeling down yesterday and today. At least I have the tools now to understand that it will pass.

 

[fireproof78]

I do feel very hopeless (not suicidal)

Similar feelings. Feel very stuck (for a shit ton of reasons not going in to here). The best I can say is that you matter, and no one else is like you. Thank you for being brave enough to share :-)

I've been feeling down yesterday and today. At least I have the tools now to understand that it will pass.

*hugs for you!* My turn on this one

 

[Bynar0110]

I'm 9n the brink of maybe ending up homeless

 

[fireproof78]

I'm 9n the brink of maybe ending up homeless

Damn. Anything we can do to help?

 

[Bynar0110]

Not at moment, but i will try keep in touch if the situation changes.