Mental Wellness Support Group

[fireproof78]

Oh yeah, I get that, I just feel weird about that because I never do anything like that. It was going to get my number to them, I'd give it to one of the ladies I know to pass it along.
And I've got other options, so I'm not that desperate to work there. To be completely honest, if it came down to it, I'd rather work at the other place. It's bigger, nicer, and I'm more familiar with it since I've been going past it on my bike and driving past on the way to park across the street for years. It was the first place I thought of when I started thinking about the kind of a job, and the only reason I tried the other place is because one of the horse ladies lives there and has her horse there.

Again, completely fair...but, to play devil's advocate a little bit you are taking a new step in to a new work place. Potentially could be beneficial to get your name out there, network with local operators and business owners and learn the lay of the land as it were. And industry like that is usually smaller, and people know other people. It can work to your advantage.

 

[Gryffindorian]

@JD, good luck on your job search. I hope your anxiety doesn't get in the way of getting what you need.

 

[JD]

Thanks. I actually talked to another new lady out walking her horse this morning during my bike. Having the horses around definitely helps with the anxiety.

Again, completely fair...but, to play devil's advocate a little bit you are taking a new step in to a new work place. Potentially could be beneficial to get your name out there, network with local operators and business owners and learn the lay of the land as it were. And industry like that is usually smaller, and people know other people. It can work to your advantage.

I can get that, and I think I've kind of done a little of that just stopping and talking to the people around there on my bike rides.

 

[fireproof78]

I can get that, and I think I've kind of done a little of that just stopping and talking to the people around there on my bike rides.

True. I respect that. Just noting potential options for stated goals that are already outside your comfort zone.

 

[JD]

Oh, I get that, and I do appreciate you trying to help.

 

[fireproof78]

Oh, I get that, and I do appreciate you trying to help.

Trying. Just a reminder that anxiety is going to tell you a lot of shit that isn't true in this process.

 

[Bynar0110]

Good luck with your job hunt JD.

 

[JD]

Thanks.

Trying. Just a reminder that anxiety is going to tell you a lot of shit that isn't true in this process.

I'll try to remember that, and the letter thing isn't really about my axiet.
I'm a little more optimistic about the second place, it's decent sized stables with quite a few horses, mules, and donkeys and I don't see a lot of people cleaning stalls or stuff like that.

 

[Non Sync]

Could always write a thank you note and mail it to him (archaic, I know) thanking him for taking the time with you, and leaving your contact information.

Actually, written thank you notes will often have greater impact because of the extra effort needed.

 

[Skyshadow]

Hello folks, long time lurker and sometimes infrequent poster on the Picard forum.

With it being mental health awareness week, I wanted to share my own story of events that recently (well not this year but since Covid) caused me to very nearly take my own life. I am in a much better place now so talking about this and writing it all done is great therapy, and if nothing else it may offer some help to someone else in a similar situation, if nothing else it may make you realise how influential your words can be for someone teetering on the edge.

I do not seek nor need any comforting words, but of course do not let this stop you from doing so if this is how you choose to react. I am keen for people to see this as the more people that see it, the less chance of this happening again and people getting away with it.

I would add that naturally the trigger warnings are this relates to suicide, but also sexual assault and murder so please consider yourself duly warned before clicking the links if these things potentially might upset you.

https://roguetrader1980.wordpress.c...to-suicide-part-1-teetering-on-the-precipice/

https://roguetrader1980.wordpress.c...missed-journey-to-suicide-part-2-the-trigger/

 

[Gryffindorian]

There's also a thread on mental wellness, found here.

 

[publiusr]

Some help for PTSD perhaps
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-05-mechanism-ptsd-female-brain.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-05-depression-reversing-brain-wrong.html

 

[Bynar0110]

I almost passed out yesterday driving. Panic attacks and hot temps are not fun.

 

[fireproof78]

I almost passed out yesterday driving. Panic attacks and hot temps are not fun.

Shit. Are you ok? Drink lots of water!

 

[Avro Arrow]

Hi @Skyshadow ,

First, I just wanted to say, thank you for sharing your story with us. I know you said that you weren't seeking comforting words, and to be honest, I'm not sure that I have any words that could provide comfort after what you've been through. But I am sorry for all that you have experienced and have had to deal with. I hope that someday you are able to get justice.

As @Gryffindorian mentioned, we do have an ongoing Mental Wellness Support Group thread, and we generally like to have mental health-related topics go there. Normally I would just merge this thread into that one, but in light of UK's current Mental Health Awareness Week, I am amenable to leaving this thread as it's own thread for the duration of the awareness week, and then merging it into the main thread after the week ends on Sunday, May 21.

If you have any concerns about this approach, please feel free to PM me. Or if you don't have enough posts to use PM yet, then you can post in this thread requesting that I PM you.

Please know that the merging of this thread into the other one in a few days' time is in no way intended to minimize your experiences; it is simply for forum housekeeping.

Thank you again for speaking your truth.

 

[Bynar0110]

Shit. Are you ok? Drink lots of water!

I'm okay. I drunk lots of water when I got home.

 

[Skyshadow]

Hi @Skyshadow ,

First, I just wanted to say, thank you for sharing your story with us. I know you said that you weren't seeking comforting words, and to be honest, I'm not sure that I have any words that could provide comfort after what you've been through. But I am sorry for all that you have experienced and have had to deal with. I hope that someday you are able to get justice.

As @Gryffindorian mentioned, we do have an ongoing Mental Wellness Support Group thread, and we generally like to have mental health-related topics go there. Normally I would just merge this thread into that one, but in light of UK's current Mental Health Awareness Week, I am amenable to leaving this thread as it's own thread for the duration of the awareness week, and then merging it into the main thread after the week ends on Sunday, May 21.

If you have any concerns about this approach, please feel free to PM me. Or if you don't have enough posts to use PM yet, then you can post in this thread requesting that I PM you.

Please know that the merging of this thread into the other one in a few days' time is in no way intended to minimize your experiences; it is simply for forum housekeeping.

Thank you again for speaking your truth.

Thanks for the reply, don't worry about merging threads, I was not sure if this would or should be as a standalone but figured I'd post and let modmins determine how it should go.

 

[wayoung]

My bad days are better than my good days even a year ago.

But I still hate my bad days.

I've had a few the last little while. Today especially. Before my bad days I don't sleep well (well, I never sleep well but I sleep much worse). Last night I got a grand total of 4 hours. And of course today I have a lot of anxiety with no specific trigger I'm aware of.

I'm not sure if not sleeping is causing the anxiety or if I'm not sleeping because the anxiety is already starting and I'm just not fully conscious of it yet. I wish I could tell, then I could act appropriately to try and limit effects.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Right after I returned from my Alaska cruise last week, I tested positive for Covid. I started to have cold symptoms while I was still on board (sore throat, runny nose, dry cough), so I didn't think much of it, thinking they were allergy or cold symptoms.

The good thing is, I'm slowly getting better, but I haven't been cleared to return to work yet. Been feeling anxious about work piling up, but at least I've been able to catch up on my work email remotely. There's only so much I can do with only email access.

 

[Commander Troi]

I'm not sure if not sleeping is causing the anxiety or if I'm not sleeping because the anxiety is already starting and I'm just not fully conscious of it yet. I wish I could tell, then I could act appropriately to try and limit effects.

That tends to be a damn chicken & egg issue. Try working one end of the problem and see if it helps. **hugs**

Right after I returned from my Alaska cruise last week, I tested positive for Covid. I started to have cold symptoms while I was still on board (sore throat, runny nose, dry cough), so I didn't think much of it, thinking they were allergy or cold symptoms.

The good thing is, I'm slowly getting better, but I haven't been cleared to return to work yet. Been feeling anxious about work piling up, but at least I've been able to catch up on my work email remotely. There's only so much I can do with only email access.

That sucks! **hugs**