I was in high school when TNG premiered, but IIRC what cheesed me off most about Wesley was his eager-to-please disposition and what felt like his frequent saving of the ship and his interactions with the senior staff. It wasn't that I was jealous; it was that I thought it was flat-out unrealistic. Where were his friends? How did he spend his time when he wasn't playing Acting Ensign? Are there really teenagers who act this way?
I remember as a child being very curious and interested in my parents' friends, but I certainly had my own friends and interests, especially by the time I was Wesley's age. I may have also been a fairly tightly-wound teenager, but I still had my moments of rebellion/angst/drama as well.
I'm not familiar enough with the Batman comics to know whether the same critiques might apply. IIRC the Adam West series did show that Robin was at least somewhat tuned into his peers, though I wonder whether there was snickering amongst them about his living with an older single man...