Count me as one of the people who feel the ship is a character, too.
Our hero ships are more than just a tool. They are the homes of our heroes. They carry us on the journey with them. The crew bonds within them. We bond with the ship because it is there from the very beginning to the very end of the show.
Look at SUPERNATURAL. Baby is VERY MUCH a character and a member of the Winchester family. Janeway in "YEAR OF HELL, PART II" delivered a good speech to Tuvok on this very subject.
And don't tell me it doesn't hurt when we lose our ships. When Kirk blew up the Enterprise in STIII... when the Breen destroy the Defiant... hell, I hated the look of the J.J. Abrams Enterprise, but they destroyed her in such a way that I actually felt sad it was destroyed.
The ships have their own quirks and personalities. Like our cars or trucks that we own... there may be hundreds of thousands of the same model, but each one is different.
Just like people.