Yes but there is a difference between being nervous and saying something which is inappropriate when nervous (and most people will pick up on someone being nervous) and the nervous person will often realise they have said something inappropriate and say sorry and saying something offensive when not nervous.
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Yes but there is a difference between being nervous and saying something which is inappropriate when nervous (and most people will pick up on someone being nervous) and the nervous person will often realise they have said something inappropriate and say sorry and saying something offensive when not nervous.
I'm not as worried about pissing people off in general, it's more about saying something that is accidently interpreted as racist or sexist and gets me a reputation as one of those people who everyone hates.
People change their minds so often about what is or isn't offensive that I never know if they've changed their minds about something else.
For instance, I didn't know until a few months ago that calling Roma or Irish travellers g**** was not appropriate. I'd been using that word casually, and seen other people use it casually for my whole life, until I was reading an article where someone apologized because a book they talked about had that word in the title.
I think many of us think if what we will say will cause offense and try and avoid it but we are always learning and the important thing is once we learn certain language can cause offense is stop using it. If we continue to use it once we learn it causes offense then rightly you a person could be called one of those people.
I would not use the term "rightly", that seems far too judgemental to me. People can change, gawd knows I have evolved.
I'm still having some trouble drawing the dividing line between what genuinely is hurtful to certain groups, even if I am not aware yet that it is and I should learn to respect that, and the abuse of the 'that's offensive, you should be more sensitive!' meme, which I'm sure also exists, though.
Waking up to the Blue Screen of Death and stack error messages when you work entirely online.
How the conversation should go:
(Says unintentionally offensive thing)
“Excuse me, I find that offensive for this reason.”
“I’m sorry, I didn’t realize.”
How it really goes:
(Says unintentionally offensive thing)
“You racist homophobic monster!”
“Quit being oversensitive you snowflake!”
(Says unintentionally offensive thing)
“Excuse me, I find that offensive for this reason.”
“I’m sorry, I didn’t realize.”
How it really goes:
(Says unintentionally offensive thing)
“You racist homophobic monster!”
“Quit being oversensitive you snowflake!”
Shall we gather for whisky and cigars tonight?
Why the fuck do apps keep bugging me to rate them... 
Please rate your BBS experience! Do you love it or hate it?Why the fuck do apps keep bugging me to rate them...
Glad the hear it.
I watch a lot of shows from the '70s and '80s and it amazes me how much stuff was in them that nobody had a problem with at the time, that would be considered horribly offensive today.
I watch the old Match Game a lot, and the host is constantly doing these over top stereotype accents and voices that would probably get him fired today.
It amazes me how often I see someone being told they are being offensive, and instead of apologizing, they double down on it and get even worse.
I don't get that at all. Is it really that hard for people to just apologize and knock it off? Do they have some kind of weird attachment to those words that is so important they can't stop using them?
It's sad how true that is.
A couple times now, I've finally just given in and rated them so they'd stop bugging me. With some apps that pops up pretty every single time you get on.Why the fuck do apps keep bugging me to rate them...
Just for the annoyance factor of being asked often.Words can often hurt far more than sticks and stones as words tend to wound us emotionally and those wounds often never really heal fully.
Speaking only for myself, I find that I actually have to care about the person's respect or opinion for that to be true for me.
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Not having a PC. My tablet is great but for work and gaming, I want my desktop. Plus, all my work documents and all my photos are on my computer; if I've lost them, I'll be really upset.
I hope hubby can save some of it.
I hope hubby can save some of it.
^^ @auntiehill Positive thoughts on that.
Hubby say all of my documents and all of my photos are probably gone.
Currently crying my eyes out.
Currently crying my eyes out.