Isn't that the problem of all miraculous births from history: the woman never consents? Whether or not they could have explored this dimension more than they did (other than saying Sarah never chose Joseph), the story reflects common features of myth that are otherwise accepted (unfortunately) within most cultures.
In the arguably most famous one of them all, the Christmas story, Mary consents to her becoming pregnant before it happens. Though perhaps if you try to read it as 'unfriendly' as possible, you could read it as a submission, I suppose ( "I am the Lord's servant," Mary answered (to the angel). "May your word to me be fulfilled." ).
How we look at (this Annunciation part of) the story, if it had been part of the earliest versions or not doesn't matter. Even if you'd make the worst possible case assumption such as: this is an embellishment made as late as the 3rd or 4th century, and it was mainly included with political motives to show that women should submit themselves or something like that, it still proves that people thought it was important enough to have her going along willingly written
into it- and it never got edited out again.
In
the Reckoning - an silly episode, if you ask me, it looks as if both the Prophets and the Wraiths use humans -both male and female- mostly as pawns anyway. Even though the Prophet one declares of Kira's body 'this vessel is willing', we don't know if it's true, or if Kira even ever gave the Prophet permission on a conscious level (though I think Kira probably
would have consented if asked). Jake is assumed seized without his consent just because it's the appropriate Evil thing to do for a Wraith, of course. Earlier in the episode, the Sisko smashes a priceless historical artefact 'in an uncontrollable urge' (which later turns out to be the Prophets' doing), which brings him into trouble with the Bajoran clergy. And of course, the battle took place on the middle of the promenade, amongst mortals who had no need to be involved anyway, while the Prophet and the Wraith probably could have chosen any interdimensional theatre for their epic battle - unless of course it was always the
intention the mortals would interfere to save their lives. No matter how you turn the issue - neither Prophets nor Wraiths seem very
considerate about lower life forms in this one.