I don't believe this is a case of "two wrongs don't make a right." I do believe the pendulum has swung in the direction of having more emphasis on female characters and away from traditional gender role portrayals, but that in of itself isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Modern shows, especially aged ones like Star Trek, need to switch things up to make the material fresh for modern audiences. While I like the character of Elnor I'm also critical of his portrayal in certain aspects. Yet, him being more sensitive, which I'm assuming is partially due to the fact that he was raised by all women, makes the character unique. It's a change from the stoic bad ass swordsman who decapitates his enemies without hesitation.
When he went to hug Seven, it went against the average viewers expectations, yet it fit for the character.
The name "Beautiful Flower" for the male synth could be continuing the theme of shaking up traditional ideas of how we view gender. I myself thought it was interesting in a good way that the male synth had this name. Again, it was unexpected since he was a male and his sister had a more normal traditional, feminine name, but it makes sense. There's already this theme of flowers and names starting with Dahj's origin of her name. And it makes the story more tragic that this delightful, artistic being named "Beautiful Flower" was murdered. It doesn't have quite the same impact if his name had just been something like "Jacub."