Good Point.
The leading context and ultimate action is relevant. In two cases you're working within the moral code of the Klingon Empire, a society that is based on the honor of war and violence. In the case of Kila Marr, she was argued to be in the wrong within the episode. Now imagine Data, Odo, or Spock (Seven being their series equivalent) being talked out of revenge and then beaming back down to go on a killing spree. It's...odd.
Perhaps I'm just being an apologist now, but pulling some questionable, but less blatant, examples out of hundreds of episodes is a bit more forgiving than having three questionable murders in 2 out of 5 episodes of a series so far. I hope the arch of Picard is to go dark and come out of it with everyone improving and getting better. Hard to say at this point if this is the norm or an inflection point.
I don't want to be the grumpy old man, but pulling my subscription is the only vote I have in hoping that one of these seven series, on air or in development, will cater to some thoughtful Trek. I have no problem with the premise of Picard, I think it's quite good less a handful of baffling scenes that I find really hard to excuse. I hope it turns around. I love the character of Picard and hope his sensibilities wear off on those around him.