Strictly speaking, they are both from Alaska. Crusher even said their memories were the same, except for those 8 years Tom was Nirvala IV.
From Tom's perspective, Will stole his life, and was a friend to what he viewed as his wife (which I think they were about to ve engaged by the time of that incident), and Tom was the one who rebelled to be a member of the Maquis, not Will.
Defiant is correct. Deanna wasn’t his wife but he considered them inevitably on track to it. I stretched word meaning for rhyming sake.
If you’re writing a poem your word selection naturally goes into metaphor world, I don’t see it as straining meaning. Just selecting language that frames the world how your subject sees it. From his perspective, Will converted his wife to just a friend.