Talking About Deep Space Nine

[Kate Nichols]

So, yesterday, my husband was working with clients and we decided to meet for dinner on this way back home at a restaurant near us. I biked down for dinner(we live on a small Florida Island). He told me today that he forgot, but he wanted to do something special for me and was going to encourage me to talk about Deep Space 9 all through dinner. Too Sweet! My husband is not a science fiction enthusiast, although he does like TNG. He likes Picard and Data. Because of me, he has seen a lot of science fiction, more than ever imagined. But, he can't seem to get through ten minutes of Deep Space 9. Our next dinner out, I'm going to remind him of his intention to let me talk about Deep Space 9. Maybe I can get him into him. Anyone else have similar experience with their spouse or significant other?

 

[Nakita Akita]

Me and my BF talk about whatever we want.
If I want to go on and on about Star Trek my BF would listen, or not, ask questions, or not , etc.
It's the same as when he wants to talk about the shows he likes.
He doesn't have to encourage me to talk about stuff.
I'm not sure what you mean that your husband wants to encourage you to talk about your favorite show.
Relationships are give and take.
Being an adult means that you accept that your partner will have differing interests than yourself.
That means you can get a basic understanding of what interests them and ask reasonable questions,make adult comments and listen to what the other person is saying.

If my BF would not "let" me talk about something that interests me.....
Enough said

 

[Kate Nichols]

Your BF????? I'm talking about my husband of 28 years. Maybe someday he will marry you. Or maybe not, as you say. In any case, my husband talks about things that I'm not interested in and I say "I'm good." I just want him to get into it. I'm convinced that if he actually would watch it for a half hour that he would get into it. Time will tell.

 

[Kate Nichols]

Once you are actually married, and no longer have to say BF ha ha. . .. enuf said.

 

[Nakita Akita]

Your BF????? I'm talking about my husband of 28 years. Maybe someday he will marry you. Or maybe not, as you say. In any case, my husband talks about things that I'm not interested in and I say "I'm good." I just want him to get into it. I'm convinced that if he actually would watch it for a half hour that he would get into it. Time will tell.

Me and my BF have been together since 1998.
So over twenty years.
No piece of paper.
We always give time to one another for what the other likes.
He doesn't like Trek, but if it's on and I want to watch he'll watch it. Likewise I'll watch atuff that he likes.
We do a give and take sort of thing.

 

[Nakita Akita]

Once you are actually married, and no longer have to say BF ha ha. . .. enuf said.

I was married before.
My husband died suddenly from a heart attack while on an airplane.

I don't need a piece of paper from the government to dictate my emotions though.

Nor do I need one to tell me when a man is disregarding me as insignificant.
I figured that out when I was about 20
Years old.

 

[Kate Nichols]

Sorry about your husband. As for your current situation, that's your decision and life, but I wouldn't stay with a man who didn't ask me to marry him after a couple of months of dating.

 

[Kate Nichols]

And, as for thoughtfulness, my husband couldn't excel more. I've told this story before. A few years ago, before Netflix, when there were still video stores, my husband and I used to have a movie and pizza night every week. We took turns choosing the movie. One week, it was my turn, but I was making some special appetizers so I asked him to go to the video store alone and get the film. He asked what I wanted to see. I said that I really wanted to see Broback Mountain, but I knew that he may be embarrassed at checking out that movie, so I also told him that I wanted to see Goodnight and Good Luck, about the famous reporter during the Red Scare, Murrow. He went to the store and returned just as I was finishing our delicious repast. I told him to put in the movie. We sat down and I asked him what he had chosen. He said Goodnight and Good Luck. I said Great. I clicked on the movie. It was Broback Mountain.

 

[kkt]

Glad it worked out well for you, Kate, but I wouldn't advise a couple to decide to marry based on only a couple of months of dating. I'd want the initial excitement of a new relationship to settle down for a while and see what the partner is like. Also see each other in different moods, including less than ideal moments.

 

[Tosk]

Some people just never get married. It's neither better or worse than getting married, it's just whatever works best for each couple. I'll be damned if anyone is gonna imply that Kurt and Goldie aren't right.

 

[wissaboo]

My husband will watch tng with me but not ds9

If rather talk about with someone who's interested in ds9 so I don't have to explain the backstory

we got engaged after a few months but I would never imply that it somehow made our relationship more significant than someone else's

Marriage isn't for everyone.

Goldie and Kurt are awesome.

 

[Relayer1]

I found out last week that two old friends are getting married this year. 24 years, a mortgage and two now adult children after they met...

 

[Bad Thoughts]

I'd prefer we did not judge each other's relationships. Yes, I feel that marriage is different than living with one's significant other, but so is having children with a significant other or having children with one's spouse. However, none of that beats the pinnacle of dedication: having children and caring for each other's elderly parents.

My dear wife has probably had enough with science fiction, DS9 in particular. Ever since my son has decided that DS9 is his favorite show (it's already mine), it (along with MASH) has become regular comfort viewing in our house. And he wants to talk DS9 all the time. She'll sit with us and watch.

I don't think it's terribly problematic. There are things we do together. There are things that my son and I do together. There are things that my son and wife do together. And there are things that are about the three of us. Watching TV is such a passive activity that I'm not sure viewing habits really define a strong relationship.

 

[Finn]

Your BF????? I'm talking about my husband of 28 years. Maybe someday he will marry you. Or maybe not, as you say. In any case, my husband talks about things that I'm not interested in and I say "I'm good." I just want him to get into it. I'm convinced that if he actually would watch it for a half hour that he would get into it. Time will tell.

I"m not sure why you needed to respond like that.

Once you are actually married, and no longer have to say BF ha ha. . .. enuf said.

whut?

You may not have meant to, but some of your phrasing did seem indirectly judgemental.


Anyway... the missus rarely watches trek.

 

[Bry_Sinclair]

Someday I hope to find a man that shares my love of DS9, so we can geek out together.

 

[Tosk]

There's a lot of us, you'll definitely find one eventually.

 

[Butters]

My wife’s eyes glaze over when I talk about something that doesn’t interest her and i tend to change the subject at that point. Sometimes I forget that she’s not remotely interested in the latest local historical fact that I’ve uncovered in my research and I’ll inform her with all the glee and excitement of something that actually mattered. But I wouldn’t set out to bore her intentionally, and she wouldn’t stop me talking, but our conversations usually focus on our mutual interests.

DS9 was my wife’s favourite Trek series and I was expecting her to talk it up after watching all of TNG and then starting on the DS9 pilot, but we realised both our tastes had changed since the mid nineties.

 

[Nakita Akita]

My wife’s eyes glaze over when I talk about something that doesn’t interest her and i tend to change the subject at that point. Sometimes I forget that she’s not remotely interested in the latest local historical fact that I’ve uncovered in my research and I’ll inform her with all the glee and excitement of something that actually mattered. But I wouldn’t set out to bore her intentionally, and she wouldn’t stop me talking, but our conversations usually focus on our mutual interests.

DS9 was my wife’s favourite Trek series and I was expecting her to talk it up after watching all of TNG and then starting on the DS9 pilot, but we realised both our tastes had changed since the mid nineties.

Other than the Original series I really don't think that my BF realizes that there are different series

One weekend he was sitting through some episodes, a lot of ones back to back, with me, not a series I even like, Discovery I think, I kept wandering off to play with the dogs, into the kitchen, outside etc.
And he's like" we're finally watching Star Trek and you're not even paying attention."
So I said, " well, I don't like this one"

He said, " you wern't paying attention during the last episode either, I thought this was your favorite show!!??"

It's a give and take.
He makes me sit through his car and knife shows.

 

[topazdemon]

I tell my wife about Star Trek and all my other sci-fi interests. She listens and really does try to keep up, but sometimes she just can't hang.