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[RassDavadCaras]

If it was not for Star Trek I would not understand how to take care of my daily struggles, I may have even given up. Without repeating, "Pain is a thing of the mind, The mind can be controlled." and trying to be like a mixture of Spock and Data, I do not know where or who I would be without Spock and Data as my guides.

 

[TribbleFeeder]

If it was not for Star Trek I would not understand how to take care of my daily struggles, I may have even given up. Without repeating, "Pain is a thing of the mind, The mind can be controlled." and trying to be like a mixture of Spock and Data, I do not know where or who I would be without Spock and Data as my guides.

Glad you ended up here.

::hugs::

 

[RassDavadCaras]

I am too, because until I knew about Star Trek I always felt so alone. Now I realize there are so many of us, not just people with an illness like most of us, but lonely people wishing the world would be kinder... I nearly ended it all after being arrested for having an Autistic breakdown in a store, police came and I kept thinking of the episode where Kirk finds the kids who age to death, after they realized he was not a threat, but a poor man with the mind of a child protecting his Tricycle. I was yelling and screaming through tears, so maybe if I got the Kirk right hook I would have deserved it. But then they threw me to the ground and as I calmed down enough to say I have autism, I am so sorry I lost control of my emotions. All I had done was break down in a store because my wallet had been stolen by an employee, on xmas eve no less, and the manager started bullying me. I was living in my car with my mom then and they said you just are scamming us for money. I told them no and he got right in my face, and acted so hatefully I lost it knocked over a glass and started cursing... Once the cops showed up, they treated me as if I was some violent thug... I had done was scream f off, leave me alone, all through tears, then cops show up, and I think they are here to help. I then get thrown down, hogtied and told Autism is not an excuse for being a public nuisance. I realized I had done something wrong, but to abuse me, even when I try to explain what happened...

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Now every time I see this scene, I break down and wonder what happened to our world, why are people in distress seen as threats that need to be treated hatefully and with violence? Why does no one treat them as Kirk did, even if they are a threat at first, he then could see the person was just scared and then they did everything to help him with kindness. Why is that not part of our world? Yes they thought he was a threat at first, but then they listened, then they saw someone who only needed help and compassion... I wrote an article about my story, which I have shared to my profile, if anyone is interested.

 

[Infern0]

Just to let people know I am a licensed Trauma therapist. I can't give therapy over a forum but if anyone would like some free resources or an informal chat im always happy to help.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

Just to let people know I am a licensed Trauma therapist. I can't give therapy over a forum but if anyone would like some free resources or an informal chat im always happy to help.

Anyone who is willing to speak with someone, is already giving that person more help than most therapists I have met. I have found that sometimes a person just needs compassion, sympathy and caring. If you give your time, even if you can't give them the official therapy, just being a supportive friend is just as helpful at times. Infern0, Trek has taught you well like so many here. It is great to see the level of caring for people like us, if only the outside world understood as you all do. Thank the cosmos for Gene Roddenberry.

 

[Infern0]

Anyone who is willing to speak with someone, is already giving that person more help than most therapists I have met. I have found that sometimes a person just needs compassion, sympathy and caring. If you give your time, even if you can't give them the official therapy, just being a supportive friend is just as helpful at times. Infern0, Trek has taught you well like so many here. It is great to see the level of caring for people like us, if only the outside world understood as you all do. Thank the cosmos for Gene Roddenberry.

Sadly there are a lot of poor therapists out there who are only in it for the money, or are simply poorly qualified for the position they are in.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

Sadly there are a lot of poor therapists out there who are only in it for the money, or are simply poorly qualified for the position they are in.

That is why I had to learn to do the work myself, everyone wanted to change me, give me pills, and instead of helping me find a way to be myself and fit in, I was always told I would never fit in unless I acted like everyone else. I was told not to speak in quotes from my favorite media, I was told not to dress a certain way, then I was told when I was hurt that I should not be upset... I learned that all I needed was someone to show me how to control being myself. How I could be me, and simply learn to be palatable to others. Data and Spock really showed me how to be, and once I kept diving for more I found those like Tuvok, who i love nearly as much as Spock. They all have such wonderful things to teach. Most of all, Picard and the show, showed me that it is not crazy to expect people to treat you with respect and caring. They are simply values we are losing, or perhaps never had. Sorry for the long post.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

I hope this is acceptable, but I would like to share a harmful experience that I am truing into a positive one, thanks to Trek and G.R https://megamediaoverload.blogspot.com/2018/06/my-own-abuse-by-police-for-being.html

 

[RassDavadCaras]

Sorry for overposting everyone, sometimes I go on too much. I have never found a place to share who I am, that might interact with me in a positive way, so I tend to go overboard.

 

[Gryffindorian]

No worries. It's not like you're posting every 30 seconds.

I have been so pissy and reactive these past several days. I get irritated or annoyed with mostly trivial offenses, like people not returning my text messages or not saying thank you. It's gotten to the point where I blocked a family member on Facebook and blocked a couple of others on my cell phone. I wonder what's gotten into me lately. The air quality out here in California has been sucky lately due to the wildfires.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

No worries. It's not like you're posting every 30 seconds.

I have been so pissy and reactive these past several days. I get irritated or annoyed with mostly trivial offenses, like people not returning my text messages or not saying thank you. It's gotten to the point where I blocked a family member on Facebook and blocked a couple of others on my cell phone. I wonder what's gotten into me lately. The air quality out here in California has been sucky lately due to the wildfires.

Being autistic I go through that alot, before I knew I was autistic, I pushed away the two people who accepted and loved me without even having to go, but he is autistic, they just went, he is a cool person, you got to know him...I have not felt that since I lost my two best friends 3 years ago. I feel it a little here, thank you all for being so kind.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

This film helped me a lot too, Please Stand By about a girl with autism who is a massive Trekkie and a writer, I had to make a tribute video for it. But please this is not self-promotion, I made this with the intent to help others like myself see that they can push forward higher, and since it is Trek and Mental health related I really hope you do not mind me sharing this.

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[RassDavadCaras]

I wrote a story that was inspired by that film, and the world, and trek, but I feel I have shared too much as it is. So if you are interested it is on my blog and my profile has the link to it.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

There's also a subforum for fanfiction and writers here, I believe. Maybe you'd like to post your story there? There are quite a few professional writers here who can give their feedback and professional advice.
If I understand it correctly, autism is a condition that manifests itself in a range of different ways. Would you be comfortable with explaining exactly how it shows in your case and how you got the diagnosis (from your blog I understand that you only got diagnosed after that incident) ? If you'd rather not it's totally ok
Have you considered showing your blog entry to a human rights organisation or a lawyer? They might perhaps be able to get you compensation.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

I learned through research, I kept being called things that did not fit, then I saw other people with autism, the way their emotions overpower them. Bipolar means you have highs and lows for no reason, I feel more like an empath, if someone is really negative it feels like a punch to the face. I am both over logical and over emotional. I was unsure where to post the story, because it did not feel like fanfiction, I kinda felt like here it fit, but since I was posting so much, it seemed rude and like I just wanted the attention.

 

[Refuge]

I learned through research, I kept being called things that did not fit, then I saw other people with autism, the way their emotions overpower them. Bipolar means you have highs and lows for no reason, I feel more like an empath, if someone is really negative it feels like a punch to the face. I am both over logical and over emotional. I was unsure where to post the story, because it did not feel like fanfiction, I kinda felt like here it fit, but since I was posting so much, it seemed rude and like I just wanted the attention.

Love your avatar!

 

[RassDavadCaras]

Thanks, my best friend looks exactly like spot, not only that our relationship mirrors theirs, and I never noticed it till recently. I go back and forth between feeling like Data, Spock and then at my worst, Lore. I hope no one minds but Star Trek and Please Stand By inspired me to write this. Seeing the way Trek taught people, it inspired me to create a short story that addresses an issue no one sees. IT is not sci-fi, but not only does it feature Trek stuff, but the entire story was also inspired by the way Gene tried to teach us lessons. If this is outline I am very sorry for sharing. This is just the only place that seems to want to listen. https://megamediaoverload.blogspot.com/2018/11/the-deadly-consequences-of.html

 

[Refuge]

Thanks, my best friend looks exactly like spot, not only that our relationship mirrors theirs, and I never noticed it till recently. I go back and forth between feeling like Data, Spock and then at my worst, Lore. I hope no one minds but Star Trek and Please Stand By inspired me to write this. Seeing the way Trek taught people, it inspired me to create a short story that addresses an issue no one sees. IT is not sci-fi, but not only does it feature Trek stuff, but the entire story was also inspired by the way Gene tried to teach us lessons. If this is outline I am very sorry for sharing. This is just the only place that seems to want to listen. https://megamediaoverload.blogspot.com/2018/11/the-deadly-consequences-of.html

That was touching and well written, quite visual. I have an American friend from San Francisco we visited a while back. I recall it was such a windy day and she wanted to take us to see the redwoods (which we did and even got to see a banana slug of all things) and of course the bridge. I just remember opening the car door and it almost slamming by the force of the wind. It was one of those crazy moments where you just laugh because you are IN the moment. Then of course there is Tuvok, my favourite of all Trek characters. So your story was even better for me

 

[Gryffindorian]

It's Thanksgiving Day in the U.S., and while I was enjoying the bountiful feast at home earlier, with two turkeys, a baked ham, several pies, etc., for now I just feel like I want to be left alone in my room. It's funny how I may come off as moody and aloof during holiday gatherings, but I need some "me" time - working out on my elliptical, taking a nap, watching Netflix, etc. while the rest of the family celebrate and take thousands of pictures.

I guess I am feeling moody this evening. One of my sisters invited her boyfriend to Thanksgiving dinner, whom I don't care to interact with. The requisite family picture time has been overdone, and the older I get, the more I dislike seeing my ugly pictures posted on social networking sites.

But at least I'm thankful for the much needed rain out here in California, and all the smoke finally dissipated.

Oh, and my blood sugar, after a 40-minute workout, was in the 240s.

 

[Sibyl]

This was my first holiday without my dad. My mom decided to go to visit and stay with my brother in Colorado, so I'm here with my housemate and there is some strife at the moment.

Not my favorite day ever.