But when a label is applied to you, it's demeaning.
Not necessarily, Reapropriation aside (I have sex with other women. Most of the labels that you would consider acceptable descriptors for that, started as attempts to be demeaning), nearly none of us choose most of our labels.
I mean, say you’re a straight, cis, white, male. Whether those labels are correct or not, you hardly
chose those descriptors, did you? Chances are, you’ve never questioned them much at all.
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What’s kinda funny about this ‘You can’t just scream ‘bigot!’ and expect people to learn!,’ is that I have really never seen that happen. Us big and sccaaaaawy SJW types, are usually
very happy to explain their position. With passion. At length.
Nearly the sole exception, is when they catch on to a sea lioning, Which nearly requires a conversation to have already been going on for some time anyway, so the excuse still doesn’t hold up.
Maybe the issue is more that some people hear something like ‘that’s racist’ in response to what they do or say, and just
stop listening.