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White self-hatred.... it's impact on mixed race people and families?

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I'm gonna try to take this slowly, but there is a lot to reply to.

I almost regretted raising the topic, such is it's potential for volatility, but so far nobody has been unkind to me.

I've led a long life, with many experiences, it's been hard, I've suffered, and had it's ups and downs; I've become familiar with all kinds of social theories, read about them in depth. I was always broadly sympathetic to socialism, but am very sceptical that you can treat a 'class' as a single unit, even if they are broadly helpful academically. Most academics know they are very fluid. I have policed myself carefully from being a small child, to never speak in a racist or sexist way, to just be compassionate to others.

But I can't get behind showing hate or derision, even in comedy, to a sometimes privileged group, as a way of breaking racism. Good conduct is not something you apply only to the oppressed, but to all. Inflicting pain on others is never acceptable. When I was a practising Buddhist years ago, my Lama pointed out the difference between helpful comedy and unhelpful comedy; one celebrates life and breaks down illusion/prejudices, and the other is about belittling others or resentment. One can reveal the stupidity of our social systems, the other entrenches hate. Buddhism isn't for everyone, but I found those ideas stayed with me as logical.

I am also unsure about how Americans apply the term white. Irish people were once treated as a subhuman race. How can their people share the same history as all other whites? How can a Belorussian or Georgian? The term slave originates from the ethnic name 'Slav', because for many centuries, slaves were white, not even just Slavic, and many living whites who abide in poverty in Europe, are descended from slaves. America broadcasting her idea of who is a descendant of slaves and who isn't onto the world may have hurt their quest for social justice.


I think this comment displays shocking disregard for life.

There is a poster in my workplace that runs off the following stats.

"One in six men will suffer domestic abuse in their lifetime."

"One in five men suffering abuse will do so for more than one year."

"One man is killed every fortnight by a current or ex partner."

[Followed by details of four helplines.]

- The Gender Equality Network, formerly called Women's Network


Women suffer these crimes more than men. But men suffer them too. By arguing that misandry does not exist, when people are suffering, is dangerously cruel to those who are in that group. I can't believe a person who genuinely believes in equality would ever ignore the suffering of ANY group, no matter how disproportionate their incidence (the stats for women are 1 in 4). Here in Britain I hear plenty of casual prejudice toward men in the office; "they can't be trusted", "they are all alike", etc, etc. Do you seriously think this is okay, when I wouldn't care to do it to others, or that it does not engender unconscious bias? In your rush to define a system, you seem to have left out people who don't fit into the definition, as all systems do without allowing for exceptions.

Guilt is not just about past crimes, but also you and I enjoy privilege right now that others don't, and we need to feel guilt for that, because we have to work to change injustice. As a white male especially you have advantages over minorities and women, and not feeling guilt about that is contributing to institutionalized racism, sexism, and other forms of discriminatory oppression. Like a bit part of the whole progressive movement is to help people see this, right?

With respect, I think this lacks compassion for all human beings, as the Buddha might say.

Two wrong do not make a right.

So, I don't think adding psychological problems to another group of people about their identity is right. We all know how gay people have been made to feel about who they are; uncomfortable in their own skin due to society's prejudice. Parents telling them "can't you not be gay", making them feel like an aberration, that they can choose to correct. Causing a self-doubt like that is utterly destructive. Black people know this well too. It's wrong, categorically and utterly. Inflicting it on another group, is also categorically wrong. "Your ancestors are responsible for colonialism", is similar to anti-Semitism, and is also historically incorrect. All humans, man or woman, are descended from imperialists, murderers, rapists, and thieves. If you divide people into convenient but illusionary categories, in order to fight their cause in isolation, it will cause exceptions and injustices. The real battle with injustice is a fight against all prejudice, irrespective of it's origin or target.

I also object to the way the term white is applied.

Say that a person was told "you are white and therefore have historical priviledge" to a person from Belarus or some former Ottoman colony. As far as I know, Eastern Europe was never a participant in transatlantic slavery, but their ethnic group with it's unique history is being lumped as "white". Likewise, a black man living in Northern Nigeria might have historical privilege as a slave-owner of Southern Nigerians, and ethnic groups lumped together as black in US discourse have hugely different origins and history.

I don't know if you are aware of the power and reach of American popular culture, but American narratives of what race is, who is black and who is white, are being thrust onto cultures with very different racial histories to America.

Oh dear, you're posting a very touch subject? When you're aware of concepts of privilege, you'll know there's no such thing as racism against white people, just like there's no such thing as sexism against males. You have to have oppression by a ruling class, always pressing downward to keep people beneath you, it's institutionalized, right? I really do hope a discussion here about such a sensitive topic will be able to remain civil? My feeling though is I recommend you probably really need to do a lot of research about privilege?

Oh white guilt (and male guilt) is so absolutely necessary right now, because of historical oppression of minorities and women, and it's still going on today, so your dominant class totally needs to realize what it's done and figure out how to even things out, and you know there's still such a very long way to go, right? Oh it's totally not at all about self hate, it's about recognizing how white (males) are still dominating in so very many ways.

I will reply to this, in earnest, as I always do, but....

I honestly couldn't tell at the time if this was serious, or a really clever parody.

You told a mixed race man, apparently without irony, "you aren't aware of the concept of privilege", "you need to do more research on privilege", and "you need to recognise how white males still dominate you". Talk about talking down to someone.

But let's move on.

This sounds just like what authors always warned about the Soviet Union's identity politics. That you can't treat groups as absolutes. The Soviets famously demonized a class of land-owning farmer, known as 'Kulaks'. They eventually lynched this former privileged group en masse, having worked the population into a frenzy. I very much doubt that every member of the Kulak class was evil; some were probably compassionate people who suffered themselves in life. You see, I believe in class, and I am a democratic socialist; but individuals must be judged on their own, never in groups, as an essential protection against mass discrimination; this is fundamental to the western way, and has prevented pogroms since the time of the French Revolution. When the Chinese army entered Tibet, they instructed the Tibetans, who were content with their monarchy, that they were "victims of imperialism", and extolled them to see themselves as victims; please don't tell me what a minority like me should feel about identity and privilege; I will make up my own mind.

there's no such thing as racism against white people, just like there's no such thing as sexism against males

Racism was originally a pseudo-scientific idea originating in the 19th century; that some groups on Earth represented a racial category apart from others. Biology has demolished this idea. Racism then came to be applied to people who hated others based on their skin colour, without any theory behind it. In your view, it seems racism no longer means "prejudice based on appearance", but now means "specifically white prejudice, confined to America and Europe, towards minorities", because otherwise your comment makes no sense; Indians are privileged in India, so the potential for a non-white racist to discriminate exists (any Indian can tell you, India has a deep problem with racism, which it is confronting with great gusto as a free democracy). I dispute and reject your definition. For me, as for most people, racism means any discrimination based on ethnic appearance. Note that this does not dispute the existence of privilege, it moves it more properly, onto all power groups.

I don't feel at all comparing sins of other cultures is in any way relevant? I mean, you've got to work on your own problems, right? I feel it's like saying "My neighbor killed his wife, but I'm okay because I'm only beating mine", if I'm making sense?

It is relevant because they are now your culture too.

Global culture, entwined with the west via trade, entertainment and academia, or literally your neighbours.

Here are a couple of facts - in London and New York, the two cultural capitals of Earth - 800 languages are spoken. Is teaching "English guilt" to a class of people from 12 cultures is any longer good enough? Some white pupils are poor and probably descended from slaves of the Saxons - some of the non-white people sitting at the desks had grandfathers who rode on horseback raping and killing minorities - some white people had ancestors who were being shot for their resistance to the British landed elite - some non-white people are descended form a landed elite. How can you group them into privileged and not privileged with such finality, without exceptions?

Prejudice from a minority resulted in 1400 white women being selected for their ethnicity, and raped by Muslim gangs in Rotherham, between 1997 and 2013. Police were reportedly afraid to investigate for fear of being labelled racist. The media also reported them as 'asians' for months, probably out of fear again, despite none of them being Hindu or Buddhist or Taoist, or Vietnamese, Indian or Chinese, which could be seen as deeply unfair and unrepresentative. Even if you disagree with that last part and feel we should all be tarred by the actions of another community, ignoring the prejudices of minorities risks the real suffering of the innocent.

Indian and Chinese Britons/Americans, tend to perform better than the white majority in Britain and America, academically. I'm not sure someone who lives in silicon valley can be grouped as 'white' with a Appalachian living in poverty. Nor an Irishman, who suffered historic anti-Catholic prejudice and racial prejudice.

but as a group yes, guilt is important to feel because it's a group responsibility to do something. You need a feeling of guilt to know wrong has been done and is still being done and needs to be fixed, right?

You should never feel guilt for your identity.

That's self-hate, something black people, gays, etc, are well aware of; your psyche will suffer.

A friend of mine at work says he does not want to have any kids. I asked why, and more or less, the answer was "well, there are too many people in the world" (incorrect Malthusian view, we merely need to be more environmentally sustainable), and "the British are responsible for everything bad" (incorrect). He is Welsh by ethnicity, a formerly colonised group, and intelligent. I feel deeply uncomfortable about this; his British culture has given me so many things I love, from JRR Tolkien, which my mother read to me as a child, to institutions that protect me and allow my atheism, as well as Buddhism, Hinduism and Taoism, etc. It's also not a perfect society (I have been on the bad end of Britain's sadistic unemployment policies), but it's a process. When I, as a non-Muslim, hear people say that British culture is no better or worse than some deeply racist culture like Saudi Arabia that regards atheism, aka my people, as capital criminals, I cannot fathom it; ethics everywhere say suffering is to be avoided, and this is a state that causes deliberate suffering, being compared to one that abolished slavery 200 years ago. If my colleague does not instill his western liberal values into the next generation, there is no guarantee that incoming patriarchal cultures will show anything like the same progressivism that the British have shown minorities and women. You could make a case that this focus on individualism was a result of the Protestant Reformation, or Britain's unique history, or the Scientific Enlightenment; all European phenomena, informed by contact with other cultures. I would say he needs to feel better about himself; understand his place in the world, that he is worth something, and how to be a kind man in face of these attacks on his identity. I have gone through the same battle.

I don't understand why you'd think progressives aren't interested in equality?

Maybe because you don't apply the same standards to the entire globe, or even to all ethnic groups.

The central conceit of the US Constitution, which I think is a remarkable document, historically speaking, coming straight out of the enlightenment, is that rights apply to all humans, or none at all, and that they are natural laws, as far as we can reason. Everyone has a right to life and liberty. I am aware theorists who disagree with any kind of universalism, and their reasons. But I disagree with them utterly, I think it is universal, for all practical purposes.

Perhaps western civilization needs to have greater faith in it's secular and culturally Christian ideals to function healthily, or people start to hate themselves and not take part in the institutions of life; a sense of faith in your civilization's mission gives you the strength to overcome. Americans generally do seem to believe in their ideals, Europeans seem less gung ho, having been fed this narrative that faith in your culture's good, leads to colonialism 2.0.

Political authority is tied to moral authority, if you are genuinely good, genuinely trying to welcome all humans as your equals, then I don't think that a westerner should feel bad about promoting western culture in defiance of say, Musulim theocracy; let those cultures that act with callous institutional evil, reap the rewards; pour money at missionaries and secularists, and show up their hypocrisy. Keep your culture honest, battle prejudice, do your small part as an individual without taking the world's problems on your shoulders, and feel good in yourself.
 
I'm gonna try to take this slowly, but there is a lot to reply to.

I almost regretted raising the topic, such is it's potential for volatility, but so far nobody has been unkind to me.

I've led a long life, with many experiences, it's been hard, I've suffered, and had it's ups and downs; I've become familiar with all kinds of social theories, read about them in depth. I was always broadly sympathetic to socialism, but am very sceptical that you can treat a 'class' as a single unit, even if they are broadly helpful academically. Most academics know they are very fluid. I have policed myself carefully from being a small child, to never speak in a racist or sexist way, to just be compassionate to others.

But I can't get behind showing hate or derision, even in comedy, to a sometimes privileged group, as a way of breaking racism. Good conduct is not something you apply only to the oppressed, but to all. Inflicting pain on others is never acceptable. When I was a practising Buddhist years ago, my Lama pointed out the difference between helpful comedy and unhelpful comedy; one celebrates life and breaks down illusion/prejudices, and the other is about belittling others or resentment. One can reveal the stupidity of our social systems, the other entrenches hate. Buddhism isn't for everyone, but I found those ideas stayed with me as logical.

I am also unsure about how Americans apply the term white. Irish people were once treated as a subhuman race. How can their people share the same history as all other whites? How can a Belorussian or Georgian? The term slave originates from the ethnic name 'Slav', because for many centuries, slaves were white, not even just Slavic, and many living whites who abide in poverty in Europe, are descended from slaves. America broadcasting her idea of who is a descendant of slaves and who isn't onto the world may have hurt their quest for social justice.



I think this comment displays shocking disregard for life.

There is a poster in my workplace that runs off the following stats.

"One in six men will suffer domestic abuse in their lifetime."

"One in five men suffering abuse will do so for more than one year."

"One man is killed every fortnight by a current or ex partner."

[Followed by details of four helplines.]

- The Gender Equality Network, formerly called Women's Network


Women suffer these crimes more than men. But men suffer them too. By arguing that misandry does not exist, when people are suffering, is dangerously cruel to those who are in that group. I can't believe a person who genuinely believes in equality would ever ignore the suffering of ANY group, no matter how disproportionate their incidence (the stats for women are 1 in 4). Here in Britain I hear plenty of casual prejudice toward men in the office; "they can't be trusted", "they are all alike", etc, etc. Do you seriously think this is okay, when I wouldn't care to do it to others, or that it does not engender unconscious bias? In your rush to define a system, you seem to have left out people who don't fit into the definition, as all systems do without allowing for exceptions.



With respect, I think this lacks compassion for all human beings, as the Buddha might say.

Two wrong do not make a right.

So, I don't think adding psychological problems to another group of people about their identity is right. We all know how gay people have been made to feel about who they are; uncomfortable in their own skin due to society's prejudice. Parents telling them "can't you not be gay", making them feel like an aberration, that they can choose to correct. Causing a self-doubt like that is utterly destructive. Black people know this well too. It's wrong, categorically and utterly. Inflicting it on another group, is also categorically wrong. "Your ancestors are responsible for colonialism", is similar to anti-Semitism, and is also historically incorrect. All humans, man or woman, are descended from imperialists, murderers, rapists, and thieves. If you divide people into convenient but illusionary categories, in order to fight their cause in isolation, it will cause exceptions and injustices. The real battle with injustice is a fight against all prejudice, irrespective of it's origin or target.

I also object to the way the term white is applied.

Say that a person was told "you are white and therefore have historical priviledge" to a person from Belarus or some former Ottoman colony. As far as I know, Eastern Europe was never a participant in transatlantic slavery, but their ethnic group with it's unique history is being lumped as "white". Likewise, a black man living in Northern Nigeria might have historical privilege as a slave-owner of Southern Nigerians, and ethnic groups lumped together as black in US discourse have hugely different origins and history.

I don't know if you are aware of the power and reach of American popular culture, but American narratives of what race is, who is black and who is white, are being thrust onto cultures with very different racial histories to America.



I will reply to this, in earnest, as I always do, but....

I honestly couldn't tell at the time if this was serious, or a really clever parody.

You told a mixed race man, apparently without irony, "you aren't aware of the concept of privilege", "you need to do more research on privilege", and "you need to recognise how white males still dominate you". Talk about talking down to someone.

But let's move on.

This sounds just like what authors always warned about the Soviet Union's identity politics. That you can't treat groups as absolutes. The Soviets famously demonized a class of land-owning farmer, known as 'Kulaks'. They eventually lynched this former privileged group en masse, having worked the population into a frenzy. I very much doubt that every member of the Kulak class was evil; some were probably compassionate people who suffered themselves in life. You see, I believe in class, and I am a democratic socialist; but individuals must be judged on their own, never in groups, as an essential protection against mass discrimination; this is fundamental to the western way, and has prevented pogroms since the time of the French Revolution. When the Chinese army entered Tibet, they instructed the Tibetans, who were content with their monarchy, that they were "victims of imperialism", and extolled them to see themselves as victims; please don't tell me what a minority like me should feel about identity and privilege; I will make up my own mind.



Racism was originally a pseudo-scientific idea originating in the 19th century; that some groups on Earth represented a racial category apart from others. Biology has demolished this idea. Racism then came to be applied to people who hated others based on their skin colour, without any theory behind it. In your view, it seems racism no longer means "prejudice based on appearance", but now means "specifically white prejudice, confined to America and Europe, towards minorities", because otherwise your comment makes no sense; Indians are privileged in India, so the potential for a non-white racist to discriminate exists (any Indian can tell you, India has a deep problem with racism, which it is confronting with great gusto as a free democracy). I dispute and reject your definition. For me, as for most people, racism means any discrimination based on ethnic appearance. Note that this does not dispute the existence of privilege, it moves it more properly, onto all power groups.



It is relevant because they are now your culture too.

Global culture, entwined with the west via trade, entertainment and academia, or literally your neighbours.

Here are a couple of facts - in London and New York, the two cultural capitals of Earth - 800 languages are spoken. Is teaching "English guilt" to a class of people from 12 cultures is any longer good enough? Some white pupils are poor and probably descended from slaves of the Saxons - some of the non-white people sitting at the desks had grandfathers who rode on horseback raping and killing minorities - some white people had ancestors who were being shot for their resistance to the British landed elite - some non-white people are descended form a landed elite. How can you group them into privileged and not privileged with such finality, without exceptions?

Prejudice from a minority resulted in 1400 white women being selected for their ethnicity, and raped by Muslim gangs in Rotherham, between 1997 and 2013. Police were reportedly afraid to investigate for fear of being labelled racist. The media also reported them as 'asians' for months, probably out of fear again, despite none of them being Hindu or Buddhist or Taoist, or Vietnamese, Indian or Chinese, which could be seen as deeply unfair and unrepresentative. Even if you disagree with that last part and feel we should all be tarred by the actions of another community, ignoring the prejudices of minorities risks the real suffering of the innocent.

Indian and Chinese Britons/Americans, tend to perform better than the white majority in Britain and America, academically. I'm not sure someone who lives in silicon valley can be grouped as 'white' with a Appalachian living in poverty. Nor an Irishman, who suffered historic anti-Catholic prejudice and racial prejudice.



You should never feel guilt for your identity.

That's self-hate, something black people, gays, etc, are well aware of; your psyche will suffer.

A friend of mine at work says he does not want to have any kids. I asked why, and more or less, the answer was "well, there are too many people in the world" (incorrect Malthusian view, we merely need to be more environmentally sustainable), and "the British are responsible for everything bad" (incorrect). He is Welsh by ethnicity, a formerly colonised group, and intelligent. I feel deeply uncomfortable about this; his British culture has given me so many things I love, from JRR Tolkien, which my mother read to me as a child, to institutions that protect me and allow my atheism, as well as Buddhism, Hinduism and Taoism, etc. It's also not a perfect society (I have been on the bad end of Britain's sadistic unemployment policies), but it's a process. When I, as a non-Muslim, hear people say that British culture is no better or worse than some deeply racist culture like Saudi Arabia that regards atheism, aka my people, as capital criminals, I cannot fathom it; ethics everywhere say suffering is to be avoided, and this is a state that causes deliberate suffering, being compared to one that abolished slavery 200 years ago. If my colleague does not instill his western liberal values into the next generation, there is no guarantee that incoming patriarchal cultures will show anything like the same progressivism that the British have shown minorities and women. You could make a case that this focus on individualism was a result of the Protestant Reformation, or Britain's unique history, or the Scientific Enlightenment; all European phenomena, informed by contact with other cultures. I would say he needs to feel better about himself; understand his place in the world, that he is worth something, and how to be a kind man in face of these attacks on his identity. I have gone through the same battle.



Maybe because you don't apply the same standards to the entire globe, or even to all ethnic groups.

The central conceit of the US Constitution, which I think is a remarkable document, historically speaking, coming straight out of the enlightenment, is that rights apply to all humans, or none at all, and that they are natural laws, as far as we can reason. Everyone has a right to life and liberty. I am aware theorists who disagree with any kind of universalism, and their reasons. But I disagree with them utterly, I think it is universal, for all practical purposes.

Perhaps western civilization needs to have greater faith in it's secular and culturally Christian ideals to function healthily, or people start to hate themselves and not take part in the institutions of life; a sense of faith in your civilization's mission gives you the strength to overcome. Americans generally do seem to believe in their ideals, Europeans seem less gung ho, having been fed this narrative that faith in your culture's good, leads to colonialism 2.0.

Political authority is tied to moral authority, if you are genuinely good, genuinely trying to welcome all humans as your equals, then I don't think that a westerner should feel bad about promoting western culture in defiance of say, Musulim theocracy; let those cultures that act with callous institutional evil, reap the rewards; pour money at missionaries and secularists, and show up their hypocrisy. Keep your culture honest, battle prejudice, do your small part as an individual without taking the world's problems on your shoulders, and feel good in yourself.
I've read this twice already and will need to read it again. It is appreciated that you have taken the time to speak from experience and from genuine learning. I guess that is the greatest lesson we can give because it is real and it is lived.
 
please don't tell me what a minority like me should feel about identity and privilege; I will make up my own mind.
And that's the punchline isn't it. Three pages of (mostly) white people discussing/arguing how white people should or shouldn't feel and act in regards to treatment of minorities, forgetting that minorities are perfectly capable of speaking for themselves on these matters. There's a damn good definition of unconscious racism, right there.

Thank you for your post, @RedDwarf
 
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I feel people are misunderstanding guilt, it's not about self-hatred or anything like that, or wallowing in pity. Feeling guilt is about empathy, and you certainly do need emotion before action. Empathy, not sympathy, drives action. Guilt's totally the right word if it makes you and I feel uncomfortable. Comfort prevents change, right? Oh by no means is white guilt supposed to be about hating yourself or feeling you should be punished, it's about recognizing white privilege we all benefit from and feeling pain other people are suffering from because of racism.
Well, you could have fooled me. Please try to understand this: I DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR WHAT I PERSONALLY DID NOT DO. I BEAR NO RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE ACTIONS OF MY ANCESTORS OR GOVERNMENT ACTIONS THAT OCCURRED BEFORE I WAS OLD ENOUGH TO VOTE, OR EVEN BEFORE I WAS BORN.

NO amount of this nauseating preaching is going to convince me that I'm insufficiently aware that there is oppression in this world, and you're not going to convince me that only white people can be racist and men can't be victims of sexism. That you've kept repeating this is tantamount to calling anyone a liar who has witnessed or experienced these things personally and decided to speak up about it.

White privilege isn't absolute, heavens no, everyone experiences it differently, if you're a poor person you obviously aren't benefiting like rich upper class are.

I can understand I've become a bit of a lightning rod here, I'm sorry for making you all uncomfortable, creating anger is not my intention, but I believe it's very important to combat white denial, which I'm so very sad to say I really see so much of here, I'm deeply saddened, I'd have thought a Star Trek message board would be more woke. I don't hate my own whiteness, and I don't ask any of you to hate yourselves because you're white, I am deeply sorry for not articulating my thoughts well last night.
Then kindly stop doing so, with the proviso that at this point I don't feel uncomfortable. I feel exasperated, as though I'm talking to a brick wall. Others' mileage may vary.

As for this "woke" thing... I first heard this term last night on another forum, and guess what... it's exasperating and frankly insulting there, too, being preached at for things I'm not guilty of doing or thinking.

My biggest fear from this thread was how it turns into white people patting ourselves on our backs saying "it's okay, you and I aren't doing anything wrong, we're victims", and I am really very bothered by that, and I felt someone had to speak up against white denial. My reason for not liking opposition to the word "guilt" because to me it feels like we're saying "As a white person I don't like feeling guilty, it makes me feel uncomfortable, so I'm going to change it to something that doesn't upset me", and I feel that's totally white privilege right there, do you see what I mean? It's what we do, we use our power to change the conversation away from our own discomfort to something we like so we don't have to really face our advantage and really do something about racism.
Has anyone here claimed that white people are, as a single demographic, victims? There are subgroupings who have been, and are, victims. And you're entitled to not like that we're not climbing on the "we're white, therefore we're guilty" bandwagon you're presenting, but given how the thread has gone, it would be logical for you to accept that you're not preaching to the choir here.

Some of us have tried time and again to explain to you what we think about this, how it pertains to our own lives, and you've just dismissed it. Apparently we're supposed to stand up in the court of TrekBBS and declare that "I, ____, am a white person and am therefore full of guilt for pretty much everything bad that ever happened to a non-white person, and even though I may have been the target of non-white racism, I must deny this just because reasons."

@Marynator: I consider myself a feminist, but I don't live on feminist blogs. There's a lot of content on those blogs that I don't relate to, because there's no awareness of a two-way street or any sort of compromise.

I judge people on their behaviors, certain destructive beliefs, and if/how they seek to force those beliefs on me and others like me. I do not give a damn what the color of their skin is, whether it's black, white, red, green, purple, paisley, or plaid. To me a doorknocker is a doorknocker, regardless of external appearance. What they have in common is that they tell me I'm going to hell if I don't believe as they do, and that I'm not a moral person if I don't follow their religion.

I've felt like we've been on opposite sides of my front door in this thread - me as the person who answered the door and you as the person who knocked.

There comes a time when the doorknocker needs to understand that "I don't agree with you" means "stop doubling down" and respect the responses you're given. I don't know how much more most of us can do other than trying to be the best people we can be in our personal lives and being responsible voters. I'm certainly not going to pack up my family and stuff and "go back where I came from." I came from here. I still live in the city where I was born. I had no choice over where I was born, and short of finding a time machine, there's not a damn thing I can do to change anything.
 
My biggest fear from this thread was how it turns into white people patting ourselves on our backs saying "it's okay, you and I aren't doing anything wrong, we're victims", and I am really very bothered by that, and I felt someone had to speak up against white denial. .

It's a tricky one. People don't want to admit their advantages, or don't understand how those advantages exist, so look for a way to cast themselves as the ones that are unfairly treated. "my mate lost a job to positive discrimination etc etc".

On the other hand the lesson about privilege is sometimes badly delivered, ie "shut up white straight person, you have an easy life" when clearly that isn't necessarily true. The more accurate message would be "nothing about being white or straight makes your life more difficult". If a guy is struggling to pay the bills, working a shitty job and living in a bad neighbourhood, then berating him at length about his white cishet privilege may backfire.

It's why I'm sort of torn on this whole "gammon" thing because on the on hand certain people really need to stop being so damn sensitive about a word that has no real power. But on the other hand, they probably wont. :/
 
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It's why I'm sort of torn on this whole "gammon" thing because on the on hand certain people really need to stop being so damn sensitive about a word that has no real power. But on the other hand, they probably wont. :/

Think of it this way; if you called a Black person 'Steak' because of the colour is his skin people wouldn't see it as OK and you would be berated for doing it. That's why it's not OK in my eyes, it's a total double standard.
 
I feel people are misunderstanding guilt, it's not about self-hatred or anything like that, or wallowing in pity. Feeling guilt is about empathy, and you certainly do need emotion before action. Empathy, not sympathy, drives action. Guilt's totally the right word if it makes you and I feel uncomfortable. Comfort prevents change, right? Oh by no means is white guilt supposed to be about hating yourself or feeling you should be punished, it's about recognizing white privilege we all benefit from and feeling pain other people are suffering from because of racism.

White privilege isn't absolute, heavens no, everyone experiences it differently, if you're a poor person you obviously aren't benefiting like rich upper class are.

I can understand I've become a bit of a lightning rod here, I'm sorry for making you all uncomfortable, creating anger is not my intention, but I believe it's very important to combat white denial, which I'm so very sad to say I really see so much of here, I'm deeply saddened, I'd have thought a Star Trek message board would be more woke. I don't hate my own whiteness, and I don't ask any of you to hate yourselves because you're white, I am deeply sorry for not articulating my thoughts well last night.

My biggest fear from this thread was how it turns into white people patting ourselves on our backs saying "it's okay, you and I aren't doing anything wrong, we're victims", and I am really very bothered by that, and I felt someone had to speak up against white denial. My reason for not liking opposition to the word "guilt" because to me it feels like we're saying "As a white person I don't like feeling guilty, it makes me feel uncomfortable, so I'm going to change it to something that doesn't upset me", and I feel that's totally white privilege right there, do you see what I mean? It's what we do, we use our power to change the conversation away from our own discomfort to something we like so we don't have to really face our advantage and really do something about racism.

Please take care.


To me this makes sense. It's basically about taking taking responsibility. To me though I sort of just see it as everyone has different life experiences so how one goes about trying to make a better world is different so I'm not so sure I would worry so much about the label. If someone who votes for leaders who are going to fight for a change then I'm not sure it matters if they use a different label. Everything from Income Inequality to class warfare or social justice then I think those labels work just as well. If someone see's making a better world is by helping out at a soup kitchen or just showing friendship towards someone who is being mistreated it all sort of ends in the same place no matter what labels we use. It really seems to just come down towards trying to be a good person. I'm not sure what more one could ask out of a human being than that. Our scope is kind of limited to what we can do if you don't have power or money. For some the only thing they really have to offer is being a good friend and good to your family and trying to vote for the right candidates. For others they have more to work with. They can start charities or give large sums to them, give money to politicians you think will do good,, Make sure your business doesn't discriminate who you hire and you try to create a safe work space. Everyone can have a good heart but not everyone can contribute the same way.

Of course some might not like the guilt label because of how it makes them feel or they have some kind of insecurity that makes them prefer another label but to me that is kind of okay. Since humans are flawed and or going to have certain hangups then you always got to factor that in as well. It's not just getting a perfect person to do good but your having to get a human being to do good who is going to have some negative baggage that we all have. When people do good I don't think it always comes easy to them. People have to deal with their flaws so doing good all the time can be a struggle and that means they aren't going to win everytime. This is one of the reasons I am always so relucant to judge people, even when they seem to have done something bad. I know their is good in most people but I also know it isn't always going to come out in them. Even good people can make mistakes and do bad things they regret.



Jason
 
That basically is identity politics. It's just treating everyone who is a minority with respect and not passing laws that restrict their ability to be treated equally. You'd think that wouldn't be a big deal or any an issue. But apparently it's a huge controversy.

This is the liberal description of identity politics. After listening to those on the right enough times I think their description is more along this. They see it as a political tactic to basically get people to vote only for social issues that only effect them. That's the impression many have given off. Basically they see it as a fancy new way to say 'wedge issue." They clearly don't mind it when it when it's those on the right who use Identity politics with things like Trump trying to get ride of transgender people in the military or his stance of refuges or calling Mexicans "Murders and thiefs." If this stuff isn't "wedge issues" to get racist whites to vote for them then I don't know what is.

Jason
 
I'm saying that other cultures' past or current crimes don't excuse or affect our own, right?

I don't understand why you'd think progressives aren't interested in equality? We don't have equality right now, there's so far to go, and you have so many people trying to hold on to their privilege, so I really am struggling here? I mean, do you believe there isn't a power imbalance right now?

Oh yes western civilization has accomplished so much, but if you really believe there aren't groups of people who are suffering from a broken system, isn't that like the definition of privilege?

@Mr. Laser Beam not as individuals of course, but as a group yes, guilt is important to feel because it's a group responsibility to do something. You need a feeling of guilt to know wrong has been done and is still being done and needs to be fixed, right? It's not like bad things just happened to minorities and women in our society, bad things were done to them, right?

There will never be equality.
Everyone is different. Everyone experiences different emotions even from seemingly the same occurance.
How can there be equality when every person has different abilities?

Some person may think that they didn't get the job, promotion, scholarship, fellowship, etc. (endless list) because they are, white, black, Asian, tall, skinny, fat, etc. the list is endless.
And they may be 100% right or 100% wrong.
But then they THINK
That certain 'some reason'
And it perpetuates
Until they have a chip on their shoulder which WILL in fact effect others around them and which may very likely
CAUSE shat ever might have been a misperception (wrong) thought on the first place to become an issue in reality later.

I've spoken to people before and they haveSAID to me, "well, I thought you would think that because I'm a Mexican."

That person is projecting THEIR thought
Onto me, unwarranted.
I think that is in reality about 90% of racism, sexism, gay ism, etc, the latest is endless.
 
This is the liberal description of identity politics. After listening to those on the right enough times I think their description is more along this. They see it as a political tactic to basically get people to vote only for social issues that only effect them. That's the impression many have given off. Basically they see it as a fancy new way to say 'wedge issue." They clearly don't mind it when it when it's those on the right who use Identity politics with things like Trump trying to get ride of transgender people in the military or his stance of refuges or calling Mexicans "Murders and thiefs." If this stuff isn't "wedge issues" to get racist whites to vote for them then I don't know what is.

Jason

He didn't say Mexicans are murders and thieves, he said MS13 are animals.
MS 13 are animals.
People who enter into the country illegally
Are criminsls though.

The military doesn't need to have transgender people. The government doesn't need to be responsible for paying for their hormone/testosterone treatment or Sexual reassignment surgery.
The military doesn't permit people with myriad of medical conditions to join.
Likewise psychological conditions either.
Bad eye sight, poor hearing, cancers, missing or low functioning limbs, prior injuries, knee injuries, artificial limbs or replacements, illnesses, kidney disease, heart problems, intestinal disorders, lung problems. The list is extensive.
 
I'm gonna try to take this slowly, but there is a lot to reply to.

I almost regretted raising the topic, such is it's potential for volatility, but so far nobody has been unkind to me.

I've led a long life, with many experiences, it's been hard, I've suffered, and had it's ups and downs; I've become familiar with all kinds of social theories, read about them in depth. I was always broadly sympathetic to socialism, but am very sceptical that you can treat a 'class' as a single unit, even if they are broadly helpful academically. Most academics know they are very fluid. I have policed myself carefully from being a small child, to never speak in a racist or sexist way, to just be compassionate to others.

But I can't get behind showing hate or derision, even in comedy, to a sometimes privileged group, as a way of breaking racism. Good conduct is not something you apply only to the oppressed, but to all. Inflicting pain on others is never acceptable. When I was a practising Buddhist years ago, my Lama pointed out the difference between helpful comedy and unhelpful comedy; one celebrates life and breaks down illusion/prejudices, and the other is about belittling others or resentment. One can reveal the stupidity of our social systems, the other entrenches hate. Buddhism isn't for everyone, but I found those ideas stayed with me as logical.

I am also unsure about how Americans apply the term white. Irish people were once treated as a subhuman race. How can their people share the same history as all other whites? How can a Belorussian or Georgian? The term slave originates from the ethnic name 'Slav', because for many centuries, slaves were white, not even just Slavic, and many living whites who abide in poverty in Europe, are descended from slaves. America broadcasting her idea of who is a descendant of slaves and who isn't onto the world may have hurt their quest for social justice.



I think this comment displays shocking disregard for life.

There is a poster in my workplace that runs off the following stats.

"One in six men will suffer domestic abuse in their lifetime."

"One in five men suffering abuse will do so for more than one year."

"One man is killed every fortnight by a current or ex partner."

[Followed by details of four helplines.]

- The Gender Equality Network, formerly called Women's Network


Women suffer these crimes more than men. But men suffer them too. By arguing that misandry does not exist, when people are suffering, is dangerously cruel to those who are in that group. I can't believe a person who genuinely believes in equality would ever ignore the suffering of ANY group, no matter how disproportionate their incidence (the stats for women are 1 in 4). Here in Britain I hear plenty of casual prejudice toward men in the office; "they can't be trusted", "they are all alike", etc, etc. Do you seriously think this is okay, when I wouldn't care to do it to others, or that it does not engender unconscious bias? In your rush to define a system, you seem to have left out people who don't fit into the definition, as all systems do without allowing for exceptions.



With respect, I think this lacks compassion for all human beings, as the Buddha might say.

Two wrong do not make a right.

So, I don't think adding psychological problems to another group of people about their identity is right. We all know how gay people have been made to feel about who they are; uncomfortable in their own skin due to society's prejudice. Parents telling them "can't you not be gay", making them feel like an aberration, that they can choose to correct. Causing a self-doubt like that is utterly destructive. Black people know this well too. It's wrong, categorically and utterly. Inflicting it on another group, is also categorically wrong. "Your ancestors are responsible for colonialism", is similar to anti-Semitism, and is also historically incorrect. All humans, man or woman, are descended from imperialists, murderers, rapists, and thieves. If you divide people into convenient but illusionary categories, in order to fight their cause in isolation, it will cause exceptions and injustices. The real battle with injustice is a fight against all prejudice, irrespective of it's origin or target.

I also object to the way the term white is applied.

Say that a person was told "you are white and therefore have historical priviledge" to a person from Belarus or some former Ottoman colony. As far as I know, Eastern Europe was never a participant in transatlantic slavery, but their ethnic group with it's unique history is being lumped as "white". Likewise, a black man living in Northern Nigeria might have historical privilege as a slave-owner of Southern Nigerians, and ethnic groups lumped together as black in US discourse have hugely different origins and history.

I don't know if you are aware of the power and reach of American popular culture, but American narratives of what race is, who is black and who is white, are being thrust onto cultures with very different racial histories to America.



I will reply to this, in earnest, as I always do, but....

I honestly couldn't tell at the time if this was serious, or a really clever parody.

You told a mixed race man, apparently without irony, "you aren't aware of the concept of privilege", "you need to do more research on privilege", and "you need to recognise how white males still dominate you". Talk about talking down to someone.

But let's move on.

This sounds just like what authors always warned about the Soviet Union's identity politics. That you can't treat groups as absolutes. The Soviets famously demonized a class of land-owning farmer, known as 'Kulaks'. They eventually lynched this former privileged group en masse, having worked the population into a frenzy. I very much doubt that every member of the Kulak class was evil; some were probably compassionate people who suffered themselves in life. You see, I believe in class, and I am a democratic socialist; but individuals must be judged on their own, never in groups, as an essential protection against mass discrimination; this is fundamental to the western way, and has prevented pogroms since the time of the French Revolution. When the Chinese army entered Tibet, they instructed the Tibetans, who were content with their monarchy, that they were "victims of imperialism", and extolled them to see themselves as victims; please don't tell me what a minority like me should feel about identity and privilege; I will make up my own mind.



Racism was originally a pseudo-scientific idea originating in the 19th century; that some groups on Earth represented a racial category apart from others. Biology has demolished this idea. Racism then came to be applied to people who hated others based on their skin colour, without any theory behind it. In your view, it seems racism no longer means "prejudice based on appearance", but now means "specifically white prejudice, confined to America and Europe, towards minorities", because otherwise your comment makes no sense; Indians are privileged in India, so the potential for a non-white racist to discriminate exists (any Indian can tell you, India has a deep problem with racism, which it is confronting with great gusto as a free democracy). I dispute and reject your definition. For me, as for most people, racism means any discrimination based on ethnic appearance. Note that this does not dispute the existence of privilege, it moves it more properly, onto all power groups.



It is relevant because they are now your culture too.

Global culture, entwined with the west via trade, entertainment and academia, or literally your neighbours.

Here are a couple of facts - in London and New York, the two cultural capitals of Earth - 800 languages are spoken. Is teaching "English guilt" to a class of people from 12 cultures is any longer good enough? Some white pupils are poor and probably descended from slaves of the Saxons - some of the non-white people sitting at the desks had grandfathers who rode on horseback raping and killing minorities - some white people had ancestors who were being shot for their resistance to the British landed elite - some non-white people are descended form a landed elite. How can you group them into privileged and not privileged with such finality, without exceptions?

Prejudice from a minority resulted in 1400 white women being selected for their ethnicity, and raped by Muslim gangs in Rotherham, between 1997 and 2013. Police were reportedly afraid to investigate for fear of being labelled racist. The media also reported them as 'asians' for months, probably out of fear again, despite none of them being Hindu or Buddhist or Taoist, or Vietnamese, Indian or Chinese, which could be seen as deeply unfair and unrepresentative. Even if you disagree with that last part and feel we should all be tarred by the actions of another community, ignoring the prejudices of minorities risks the real suffering of the innocent.

Indian and Chinese Britons/Americans, tend to perform better than the white majority in Britain and America, academically. I'm not sure someone who lives in silicon valley can be grouped as 'white' with a Appalachian living in poverty. Nor an Irishman, who suffered historic anti-Catholic prejudice and racial prejudice.



You should never feel guilt for your identity.

That's self-hate, something black people, gays, etc, are well aware of; your psyche will suffer.

A friend of mine at work says he does not want to have any kids. I asked why, and more or less, the answer was "well, there are too many people in the world" (incorrect Malthusian view, we merely need to be more environmentally sustainable), and "the British are responsible for everything bad" (incorrect). He is Welsh by ethnicity, a formerly colonised group, and intelligent. I feel deeply uncomfortable about this; his British culture has given me so many things I love, from JRR Tolkien, which my mother read to me as a child, to institutions that protect me and allow my atheism, as well as Buddhism, Hinduism and Taoism, etc. It's also not a perfect society (I have been on the bad end of Britain's sadistic unemployment policies), but it's a process. When I, as a non-Muslim, hear people say that British culture is no better or worse than some deeply racist culture like Saudi Arabia that regards atheism, aka my people, as capital criminals, I cannot fathom it; ethics everywhere say suffering is to be avoided, and this is a state that causes deliberate suffering, being compared to one that abolished slavery 200 years ago. If my colleague does not instill his western liberal values into the next generation, there is no guarantee that incoming patriarchal cultures will show anything like the same progressivism that the British have shown minorities and women. You could make a case that this focus on individualism was a result of the Protestant Reformation, or Britain's unique history, or the Scientific Enlightenment; all European phenomena, informed by contact with other cultures. I would say he needs to feel better about himself; understand his place in the world, that he is worth something, and how to be a kind man in face of these attacks on his identity. I have gone through the same battle.



Maybe because you don't apply the same standards to the entire globe, or even to all ethnic groups.

The central conceit of the US Constitution, which I think is a remarkable document, historically speaking, coming straight out of the enlightenment, is that rights apply to all humans, or none at all, and that they are natural laws, as far as we can reason. Everyone has a right to life and liberty. I am aware theorists who disagree with any kind of universalism, and their reasons. But I disagree with them utterly, I think it is universal, for all practical purposes.

Perhaps western civilization needs to have greater faith in it's secular and culturally Christian ideals to function healthily, or people start to hate themselves and not take part in the institutions of life; a sense of faith in your civilization's mission gives you the strength to overcome. Americans generally do seem to believe in their ideals, Europeans seem less gung ho, having been fed this narrative that faith in your culture's good, leads to colonialism 2.0.

Political authority is tied to moral authority, if you are genuinely good, genuinely trying to welcome all humans as your equals, then I don't think that a westerner should feel bad about promoting western culture in defiance of say, Musulim theocracy; let those cultures that act with callous institutional evil, reap the rewards; pour money at missionaries and secularists, and show up their hypocrisy. Keep your culture honest, battle prejudice, do your small part as an individual without taking the world's problems on your shoulders, and feel good in yourself.
Despite having some thoughts on the topic, I've stayed out of this thread so far because, to be honest, when I saw the subject matter I anticipated there would be a lot of problems in this thread and that I might have to step in as a mod, so I didn't want to wade too deep into the argument. And while it has understandably gotten a little heated at times, I am extremely pleased with how civil everyone has been and how it hasn't resorted to stereotypes being thrown around as invective or excuses.

I disagree with some of what you say in your post, but I do appreciate the rational and in-depth manner in which you've made your argument, and I am grateful for your perspective and historical knowledge. At the same time I disagree with some of what Marynator has to say as well, especially about feeling "guilt" purely for the circumstances of your birth or actions that weren't your own (which doesn't mean that one is not fully aware of the concept of privilege or inequality), but appreciate her comprehensive responses as well, if not exactly the tone of it sometimes, as Timewalker pointed out in her well-made points. I find myself gravitating between both sides of the argument and having a hybrid viewpoint.

So, I just wanted to thank everyone in the thread for what has been an interesting and refreshing discussion so far, when I prematurely expected a TrekBBS Trainwreck™. It's given me and I suspect others a lot to think about. :techman:

ETA: I was typing this up before the post above mine by Nakita Akita was visible to me, so I am not including that one, since it bucks the trend.
 
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I have no feelings of guilt over cultural affiliation and, even after reading through this thread, I have no reasonable idea why I should. I feel sorry for those that do, as they''ll most likely carry that cross the rest of their life.
 
He didn't say Mexicans are murders and thieves, he said MS13 are animals.
MS 13 are animals.
People who enter into the country illegally
Are criminsls though.

The military doesn't need to have transgender people. The government doesn't need to be responsible for paying for their hormone/testosterone treatment or Sexual reassignment surgery.
The military doesn't permit people with myriad of medical conditions to join.
Likewise psychological conditions either.
Bad eye sight, poor hearing, cancers, missing or low functioning limbs, prior injuries, knee injuries, artificial limbs or replacements, illnesses, kidney disease, heart problems, intestinal disorders, lung problems. The list is extensive.
This post is profoundly ignorant of transgender issues and disrespectful of transgender service men and women who have already been serving with distinction before this shamefully got turned into a baseless wedge issue that even the Pentagon didn't agree with, before being forced into applying discriminatory policies by the Trump Administration.

It's also factually inaccurate about Trump's comments when he announced his candidacy, which stated that Mexicans in general were sending us their worst people, their drug dealers, murderers, and rapists. It was a incredibly bigoted remark intended to play upon his base's xenophobia, and he has continued saying bigoted things about Mexicans and others ever since.

So, for trying to derail what has been a productive discussion with lies and offensive comments, you've earned an Infraction for Trolling. Comments to PM.

And I know the natural response is going to be for everyone to rebut or agree with the post I'm quoting, but it's really not the subject matter of the thread, so please don't give in to the attempt to derail.
 
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Because I am fully British (and have a very RP accent), my Ventures (in a banterish way) do like to remind me of all the crap the Empire did to the island of Ireland over the years. And Mrs-Dimesdan does like to point out when we're out about where certain acts were carried out in the city centre, including where the giant spike is now was Nelsons Pillar.



I would argue that cricket
This post is profoundly ignorant of transgender issues and disrespectful of transgender service men and women who have already been serving with distinction before this shamefully got turned into a baseless wedge issue that even the Pentagon didn't agree with, before being forced into applying discriminatory policies by the Trump Administration.

It's also factually inaccurate about Trump's comments when he announced his candidacy, which stated that Mexicans in general were sending us their worst people, their drug dealers, murderers, and rapists. It was a incredibly bigoted remark intended to play upon his base's xenophobia, and he has continued saying bigoted things about Mexicans and others ever since.

So, for trying to derail what has been a productive discussion with lies and offensive comments, you've earned an Infraction for Trolling. Comments to PM.

And I know the natural response is going to be for everyone to rebut or agree with the post I'm quoting, but it's really not the subject matter of the thread, so please don't give in to the attempt to derail.

For the record I am a USARMY vet.
1987-1991. 76J10.
 
I judge people as individuals and by who they are, not what they are. If you go back far enough, everyone's ancestors are guilty of something.

Nothing can be done about the past. Something can be done about right now. Something can be done about the future. Trying to make sure there's equality and equity across racial and gender lines is what should be striven for.

Yep. I feel no white guilt (although I'm sad that bad things were done) and I think judging people of 100+ years ago by today's attitudes is wrong.

After reading a lot about how people were treated during World War II, I came to the conclusion (as a teen), that humanity of any race or from any country can do awful things. It's a sad commentary on humanity. We're not immune today either. We may not hold slaves (thank God!) but people are still in slavery in other parts of the world - or in the US via trafficking. Some people are just ghastly. :(

As for racism and sexism? I spent a good amount of years when I was in a neighborhood where I was a minority and I can say that when one is a minority anywhere, one can get the short end of the stick. I've been called many names in my time (and shrugged them off and didn't even both to reply) and it's an unpleasant part of life. It seems that everywhere, too many people look down on those different than they are. In S Florida, many white disdained the Hispanics (and Miami). In North Dakota, it was the First Peoples who came in for abuse. In my hometown, if you were in a white neighborhood, they weren't thrilled with blacks. If you were in a Black neighborhood, there was a disdain toward whites. Hell, I was in a hotel last month and the Hispanic room cleaner shocked me with a negative comment about black people.

Men come in for abuse, especially these days.

I realize that many people are not jackasses like this. But there are too many people in the world who think that they are better than (fill-in-the-group) and others who think that they are entitled to tell people what to think and how to live. They can both fuck off.

Here is what I truly think. Nice people = awesome. Mean/bad people = must avoid. Nothing else matters. Not ethnicity, nor nationality, nor sex.
 
He didn't say Mexicans are murders and thieves, he said MS13 are animals.
MS 13 are animals.
People who enter into the country illegally
Are criminsls though.

The military doesn't need to have transgender people. The government doesn't need to be responsible for paying for their hormone/testosterone treatment or Sexual reassignment surgery.
The military doesn't permit people with myriad of medical conditions to join.
Likewise psychological conditions either.
Bad eye sight, poor hearing, cancers, missing or low functioning limbs, prior injuries, knee injuries, artificial limbs or replacements, illnesses, kidney disease, heart problems, intestinal disorders, lung problems. The list is extensive.

All of which in some way impinge on their ability to do their job, being transgender doesn't. On the contrary I'd say being openly transgender is a distinct sign of courage, an attribute generally valued in soldiers.

As for the cost of hormones? Seriously? The US military pays vastly more on viagra for sexual dysfunction seemingly without it being an issue, strangely here in the UK with our comparatively tiny military we seem to be able to accommodate transgender soldiers without it being an issue, we're grateful for their service rather than treating them as though we're somehow doing them a favour allowing them to put their lives on the line.
 
And? That doesn't give you a free pass on insulting other veterans and active duty soldiers who are transgender. There were plenty of vets who used their status to justify excluding black people from serving alongside whites too. Doesn't make it okay.
I don't have any problem with Trannsgender people, at all. I feel bad for them.
I think it must be sad or frustrating to spend your life feeling like you're in the wrong body.
On that same vein I feel bad for people without legs, or that have /had cancer or lung disease or breathing issues or artritis.
But it doesn't mean they should be in the military. Often if a person presents with the above issues they are given a medical discharge. You can get treatment in the military( honestly though if you can Avoid that, it is usually in your best interest to do so)
I just think that transgender issues should be dealt with in the same fashion. I believe that reassignment surgery would be considered elective surgery and I also believe that they must take medications to maintain their secondary sex characteristics.
The military will perform some surgeries to correct an injury, like say if a person got shot through the face and lost his/her nose.
They came into the service with a nose, they get to leave with a nose. (For example)
But, say I wanted to go from an A cup to a D cup, the Army would not pay for that. But if I was someplace and got shot, removing my A cup, the Army may try to give me surgery to restore my A cup.
From my perspective medical care for a transgender reassignment and maintenance should not be paid for by the military.

I never said that there was any issue with block people. Not sure where that idea came from.
 
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