Stars Wars seem to make the decision just to consciously use the Stars Wars template whereas when Trek falls back on doing TWOK redux, they kinda lie to themselves and pretend that it's something original.
It's not really a "lie" when the similarities don't extend past the broadest summation of the story outline. If you were really paying attention, for example, you'd notice that STID didn't have anything CLOSE to the same plot as TWOK, and was less similar to that film in structure than, say, TUC or Nemesis. STID is only compared to Wrath of Khan because it has the same villain, but otherwise they have nothing else in common whatsoever.
Here's the thing you don't seem to be getting: Star Trek is most heavily marketing its legacy products from the 1960s, 70s and 80s. Deep Space Nine is HUGELY under-represented in Star Trek materials, and Voyager is hugely over-represented. In other words, instead of throwing their weight behind the new production and saying "This is the direction we're going now, this is what Star Trek looks like," we're still getting the message of "If you liked the new Star Trek movie, you're going to LOVE the classic TV series from 1967!"
Rogue One re-did the troop walkers from "Empire Strikes Back" to create a new version for Rogue One; that new version is in toy stores all over America right now. STB, on the other hand, designed a brand new starbase, redesigned the Enterprise, then BLEW UP the Enterprise and built ANOTHER one:
No toys. Of the Enterprise. No toys of the Enterprise-A. No models of either. No models of Yorktown. No beauty shots of any of these, no high-res images for publicity. We're not even totally sure what the fucking things LOOK LIKE, all we have to go on are screencaps. In fact, to my knowledge not a SINGLE starship from any of the Kelvinverse movies has made it into any of the Ships of the Line calendars in the last seven years. The TOS Enterprise and ships like it had a half dozen entries the same year STID came out.
I just finished wrapping a Nerf Storm Trooper blaster for my son's christmas presents. When has there EVER been a Star Trek themed nerf gun? They haven't released a new hand phaser toy since 2009.
You can buy the nerf gun version of an assault rifle from Halo but nobody sells the phaser rifle from STID.
You can accuse Star Wars of going the "nostalgia" route all you like, but every time they come out with something NEW, it floods the market and sells like crazy. New characters, new ships, new stories. Star Trek comes out with something new, it'll be seven and a half years before anyone but its most loyal fans even know about it.