To be fair, many a "fight" in the TNG era actually is the continuation of bolstering that began as mere exchange of threats with two ships "peacefully" facing each other. Ships fairly seldom close in for a kill - instead, they approach menacingly in the hopes of making their target agree to their demands, and if that doesn't work,
then they start firing.
With the Romulans, this is especially common. But they and the Klingons also like to use the cloaking device to get very close to their victim before delivering their first shot. Yet how close is close? It isn't often that we would actually see the villains decloak in a picture framed to also include their victim; such imagery more typically involves the villains decloaking in order to threaten and demand.
When both escalating disagreements and surprise attacks feature a "justification" for proximity, there are actually very few fights left where the two sides would approach each other unrealistically close
while firing or
in order to fire. We see unopposed slaughter at close ranges (say, the Klingons swarming around Dukat's ship in "Way of the Warrior"; "Yesterday's
Enterprise" fits that category as well), but that's a safe thing to do as long as it really is unopposed. Although if it were
too safe, Klingons wouldn't do it...
It could be argued that there are "realistic" space fights in Star Trek, too - but since they all involve one ship firing a realistically superior opening volley from a realistically great distance, and the other one ceasing to be, there's no drama involved, as obviously the hero ship cannot be involved.
The fleet battles of DS9 are another matter altogether, as there at least is the justification of swarming around a point target (planet or space station) that is not to be destroyed outright but rather captured as intact as possible.
Timo Saloniemi