Do you remember moments when you had felt sharp, intense loneliness? I have quite a few but one of my loneliest moments was in the departure hall waiting for my late night flight after saying goodbye to my family. I'm very close to them but I see them once every 2 years or so.
Your loneliest moments
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All of the time. I frequently feel long bouts of achingly deep loneliness.
I would say the worst moment happened about 18 months ago, but a lot of things conspired against me at the time (which I don't want to go into here).
But to be honest, I can't really feel lonely. Not while all of you are here.
But to be honest, I can't really feel lonely. Not while all of you are here.
I enjoy a bit of solitude (the struggle for me is usually to find it in this crowded world), so I rarely experienced loneliness. The only time I really felt lonely was probably when I moved to my current city, hours away from my family and friends. Thankfully, I was too busy learning stuff at my new job that I rarely had time to dwell on it.
My absolute loneliest moments came when I was 15 and, due to significant stress over several days, had one of my periodic "meltdowns". I ended up saying some very hurtful things; it only lasted literally about 20 seconds before I "snapped out of it", but it was enough to leave me feeling incredibly ashamed. I pretty much isolated myself for a while...part of the problem is my total lack of self-esteem. It all comes from others. If I have pleasant relations with other people, and show them kindness and warmth or humour, etc, I feel worthwhile, if I upset or offend them I feel worthless. So this particular incident left me feeling almost totally worthless and combined with my decision to isolate myself (which itself didn't last too long in the end) I really did feel totally alone.
Other than that, I pretty much always feel lonely, in a far less acute sense.
But that's just due to having rather unique outlooks.
Other than that, I pretty much always feel lonely, in a far less acute sense.
But that's just due to having rather unique outlooks.
I'm almost never alone in a physical sense so I haven't been lonely in that way for a long time, if ever.
A lot of 2008, 2009, and parts of 2010 were incredibly lonely for me. I was rejected by the two people I cared about the most and it was horrible to be constantly surrounded by people yet feel completely alone. I'm doing better now. But I think I'm a different person because of the experience and I feel distant from family and friends because of it.
A lot of 2008, 2009, and parts of 2010 were incredibly lonely for me. I was rejected by the two people I cared about the most and it was horrible to be constantly surrounded by people yet feel completely alone. I'm doing better now. But I think I'm a different person because of the experience and I feel distant from family and friends because of it.
Being stood up last night sure left me feeling lonely.
The last couple years of my marriage. In my experience, it's far worse to feel lonely when you're with someone than to feel lonely alone.
I hate the feeling when I'm waiting for someone and it's getting late. I don't know if I'm being stood up and I just end up feeling stupid.
I agree completely.
Several years ago I had brain surgery. 3 weeks later my 20 year old cat died. The next day, my girlfriend dumped me, and a few days after that my mother (who had been here helping with my recovery) went home.
When I got back home from dropping her off at the airport, my cat's ashes were waiting by the door along with a note from my ex saying that she had come by to pick up her things.
Yeah. Bad day.
When I got back home from dropping her off at the airport, my cat's ashes were waiting by the door along with a note from my ex saying that she had come by to pick up her things.
Yeah. Bad day.
Yikes, Squiggy, I flinched just reading about it.
I was homeless for several weeks as a six-year-old.
Yeah, not something I bring up often, but for a thread so direct in nature it's hard to avoid.
I felt pretty damn lonely.
Yeah, not something I bring up often, but for a thread so direct in nature it's hard to avoid.
I felt pretty damn lonely.
Probably in my teenage years. Thank god they're behind me. I think I had an identity crisis of sorts (which I kept buried and no one knew about), and didn't know which way to go, in terms of culture, religion, sexuality, and all the lovely light stuff! 
Even though it was a tough time, I am happy that I did not compromise myself in any of my core believes, that's probably why it was so tough, the peer pressure from different sides and all that jazz.
I have since felt lonely, but never for any extended period of time. There is an aching sweetness to loneliness sometimes, which I quite enjoy, in a perverse way. It is not anything that frightens or disturbs me. All of the things I am proud of are things I achieved alone. There is tremendous growth and self-awareness that can come from being alone. Since I grew up as an only child to a single-mother, I'm quite used to enjoying my own company, I suppose.
Even though it was a tough time, I am happy that I did not compromise myself in any of my core believes, that's probably why it was so tough, the peer pressure from different sides and all that jazz.I have since felt lonely, but never for any extended period of time. There is an aching sweetness to loneliness sometimes, which I quite enjoy, in a perverse way. It is not anything that frightens or disturbs me. All of the things I am proud of are things I achieved alone. There is tremendous growth and self-awareness that can come from being alone. Since I grew up as an only child to a single-mother, I'm quite used to enjoying my own company, I suppose.
same here, only didn't move.
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