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Your appearance
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Okay, there's one thing I didn't mention in my previous post. I know I said I consider myself okay, but I guess I've often had a low opinion of the way I look. Even when I was younger, in my mid- to late 20s, and probably looked my best back then, I was never really 100% satisfied. 
I always thought, "I could be better; I could be a lot better."
It's not that I want to look like a celebrity, but there has always been that "need" to look more than good--to look awesome. Some of it, I suppose, is vanity or low self-esteem, but it really sucks. When I see a very attractive guy in public, on TV or the Web, I get a mixture of emotions: some envy, a lot of admiration, and perhaps a bit of sadness, too. Though I have to admit, as I get older, that feeling of vanity and self-consciousness starts to dissipate, but it's still there.
I always thought, "I could be better; I could be a lot better."It's not that I want to look like a celebrity, but there has always been that "need" to look more than good--to look awesome. Some of it, I suppose, is vanity or low self-esteem, but it really sucks. When I see a very attractive guy in public, on TV or the Web, I get a mixture of emotions: some envy, a lot of admiration, and perhaps a bit of sadness, too. Though I have to admit, as I get older, that feeling of vanity and self-consciousness starts to dissipate, but it's still there.
I've seen your picture, and I have to disagree with your self-assessment.
On a side note, I think what matters is self-confidence and the feeling of self-worth. Luckily, I have some.
On a side note, I think what matters is self-confidence and the feeling of self-worth. Luckily, I have some.
This is definitely true.
All through my childhood and while I was at university, because my parents made comments about my weight I had no confidence about my appearance and I always felt fat and unattractive.
Looking back on it objectively I can see that by my dress sizes, I was actually thin at university (I lost a lot of weight) - but I never felt it, I always felt fat and ugly.
Now, I am happy and I am verifiably overweight and fat, heavier than I ever was when I was younger. But I like the way I am, and I can look at myself in the mirror and not get depressed.
Funny that
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. We tend to be too hard on ourselves. I remember that "Sunscreen" monologue Baz Luhrmann did back in '90s. "Enjoy the the power and beauty of your youth ... in 20 years you'll look back at photos of youself and realize how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You were not as fat as you imagined." So true.
Robert DeSoto
Lieutenant Commander
It's not that hard to look good. Very few ppl are naturally "ugly". It's how you maintain yourself. Watch your diet, join a gym, buy some nice clothes, and style your hair. Driving a sports car or motorcyle doesn't hurt either. And if your a girl, learn how to do make up. That shit does wonders. Kinda scary actually lol
Would that be the "certain age of sexiness"? Becaue you're a beautiful woman K'Ehleyr. And don't you forget it.Yes appearance is important. I've realised now I am of 'a certain age' there are clothes that I can no longer get away with wearing. I'm leaning more to the 'classic' style, and a lot of black
That's such a shame because you have such a (and I say this is in the least creepy way possible) lovely body. You look great!
And there are a lot of other people who think they look bad but look fabulous. But I can also totally sympathise with your feelings. I know at least K'Ehleyr and a few other women (and dudes) have said I look good in my photos, and I've seldom felt it myself.
Part of that been my almost lifelong struggle with my weight and the depression that is both the source and effect of it. I've basically been thinking I look okay from the neck up and have a hideous body. But now that I've gotten some meds agaisnt my depression that actually also helps me lose some weight, and I've got a fairly physical job that pays well and I enjoy pretty much, I've come to a realization. Yes I'm still overweight. But that doesn't mean I can't be a sexy beast
I've actually been thinking of putting up some new photos, but that will have to wait until later this week when my new glasses arrive.
Keep the thread going people, great subject!
Would that be the "certain age of sexiness"? Becaue you're a beautiful woman K'Ehleyr. And don't you forget it.Yes appearance is important. I've realised now I am of 'a certain age' there are clothes that I can no longer get away with wearing. I'm leaning more to the 'classic' style, and a lot of black
(The agreed fee has been transfered to your paypal account Emher
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But now that I've gotten some meds agaisnt my depression that actually also helps me lose some weight, and I've got a fairly physical job that pays well and I enjoy pretty much, I've come to a realization. Yes I'm still overweight. But that doesn't mean I can't be a sexy beast
I've actually been thinking of putting up some new photos, but that will have to wait until later this week when my new glasses arrive.
In an equally totally non creepy way, I am so pleased to hear this. I've always thought you were a good-looking bloke, and you're definitely a good guy so I'm happy you're feeling good.
J
Jetfire
Guest
My appearance has always suggested I was in the mafia or something.
Scary & Ugly.
Scary & Ugly.
*Ca-tching!*Would that be the "certain age of sexiness"? Becaue you're a beautiful woman K'Ehleyr. And don't you forget it.Yes appearance is important. I've realised now I am of 'a certain age' there are clothes that I can no longer get away with wearing. I'm leaning more to the 'classic' style, and a lot of black
(The agreed fee has been transfered to your paypal account Emher
Aw thanks.But now that I've gotten some meds agaisnt my depression that actually also helps me lose some weight, and I've got a fairly physical job that pays well and I enjoy pretty much, I've come to a realization. Yes I'm still overweight. But that doesn't mean I can't be a sexy beast
I've actually been thinking of putting up some new photos, but that will have to wait until later this week when my new glasses arrive.
In an equally totally non creepy way, I am so pleased to hear this. I've always thought you were a good-looking bloke, and you're definitely a good guy so I'm happy you're feeling good.
I was against getting meds for the longest of time, but now I'm so happy I've started on them since they really do help.
(The agreed fee has been transfered to your paypal account Emher
Just FYI, K, there are some of us who will happily say those things for free.
(The agreed fee has been transfered to your paypal account Emher
Just FYI, K, there are some of us who will happily say those things for free.
Thank you MLB, you are a gentleman
and a very discerning one at that!Emher ~ look forward to the pics and my paypal account is...
I'd say it for free, but if you're handing out cash...
You look positively wonderful!
You look positively wonderful!
Thank you honey, you look marvelous, what have you done to your hair, its gorgeous!
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