Your appearance

[Trippy]

Yes, appearance is important (all the 5 senses are in attraction).

I admit to vanity in regards to my hair-my years as a hairstylist gave me that, so my hair is always 'done'. I keep my weight in check (especially after losing 100 lbs!). I wear make-up at work, but even then it's minimilist (good make-up shouldn't look like you are wearing make-up). I paint my toes in the summer (and recently began getting pedicures, which are pure heaven!) and keep my nails short and plain (more easier computer use-and I use the computer at work often).

I like clothes , however have to shop on a budget. At home, I'm in PJ's or jeans, but I have a nice professional wardrobe for work.

I love love LOVE shoes, and have way too many of them

So yes, a well kept individual is percieved in a certain way. I never had to worry about getting a job if a man was interviewing me

 

[K'Ehleyr]

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I love love LOVE shoes, and have way too many of them

I hear you ~ I have a few pairs, but only a couple I can actually walk the 20 minutes into town in comfort

 

[captcalhoun]

i own four pairs of footwear - slippers for home, trainers for out, shoes for work and wellies for snow. what do you need more for?

 

[Trippy]

You obviously aren't a girl.

Or Holdfast.

 

[Holdfast]

You obviously aren't a girl.

Or Holdfast.

Hey, I haven't bought a pair of shoes in almost a year, I don't think (been buying other wardrobe-related things instead... )

 

[AstroSmurf]

You obviously aren't a girl.

Or Holdfast.

Or gay... like me. I have twenty pairs.

 

[thestrangequark]

You obviously aren't a girl.

Or Holdfast.

Or gay... like me. I have twenty pairs.

I have 44.

 

[Lindley]

i own four pairs of footwear - slippers for home, trainers for out, shoes for work and wellies for snow. what do you need more for?

What's the difference between "trainers" and "shoes"?

Are you referring to dress shoes vs sneakers?

 

[RandyS]

I've worn the same pair of shoes for the last six years.

Riding around in a wheelchair does have it's advantages, you know?

 

[AstroSmurf]

You obviously aren't a girl.

Or Holdfast.

Or gay... like me. I have twenty pairs.

I have 44.

Lucky. They don't make a lot of cute guy shoes. You also run into the problem with them all looking more or less the same too. For example, how many pairs of brown dress shoes can a person buy with only the choices of square or round toe, low or high profile, simple or scrolled seaming. I also won't wear anything with tassels on them. My options are so limited. It makes me sad. And I want scads of cute boots but they don't make many of those for guys either.

 

[Captain_Nick]

Taking a pride in your appearance is part of developing your character, and your own unique identity.

You speak well and I agree with your conclusions. However I believe that much of a person's appearance is affected by their mental state, the way they hold themselves, posture etc. Confident people that are up and about or have come to play the game will generally get a better run when interacting with others, I deem.

 

[Goji]

My appearance is and has always been awful and that does affect me. But it's something you learn to live with.

{{squish}} I've seen your picture and you are very very good looking. I wish you didn't feel this way about yourself. From what i've read about you and your life, i think you are amazing!!

Eh, I wish any of that was remotely true. My life would be very, very different than it is now, I'm sure. Anyways, thanks.

 

[Daneel]

My appearance is important to me, sure, but unless I'm going somewhere special (date, job interview, night out, etc.), I usually don't bother doing anything fancy like dressing up nice or styling my hair or what have you -- I'm just far too lazy to bother with all the hassle. As long as I'm presentable and hygienic, that's good enough for me.

As for attractiveness, on a conscious level, I think I'm fairly nice-looking. However, I spent a significant part of my childhood/adolescence somewhat overweight, and of course, the other kids noticed. I was teased over it, and I think that has stayed with me throughout the years. So while consciously I might be aware that I'm not bad-lookin', on a sub-conscious level, I think I still find it hard to believe that other people might find me attractive. Consequently, this has affected my relationships with people, and is probably one of the main reasons why I have such difficulty becoming close to anyone.

Eh, c'est la vie.

 

[jamestyler]

I could do without this gut. Since I made some changes to my diet recently, I feel I've lost a little weight. Actually I'm not really sure, as I haven't weight myself in a few months.

I've made a rule. No matter what - the gut stays. I refuse to live without it.

It's not that I think everyone thinks I'm ugly...I know I am ugly.

Really? You know the preferences of everyone single person on the planet?

Not that I'm point the finger and saying/confirming anyones ugly... but why is it such a bad thing to see yourself as ugly?

I'm far from pretty. Very far from it, in fact. The whole reason I have a beard is that without it, I look like a potato that's been trampled by a horse then nibbled on by an army of mice before finally going mouldy.

Being ugly never bothered me. I've never tried nor claimed to be anything else unless I was taking the piss, I dress like a 90's grunge reject and even though I work out regularly I constantly look out of shape.

I've also never been single for more than a week. Being ugly is never an issue - caring about it is.

i own four pairs of footwear - slippers for home, trainers for out, shoes for work and wellies for snow. what do you need more for?

Exactly. I have even less. I have got it down to one pair of multi-purpose shoes and training boots. I need nothing more.

 

[captcalhoun]

i own four pairs of footwear - slippers for home, trainers for out, shoes for work and wellies for snow. what do you need more for?

What's the difference between "trainers" and "shoes"?

Are you referring to dress shoes vs sneakers?

trainers - sneakers, yes. sports shoes.

shoes - dress shoes, i guess. smart footwear approriate to wearing with a suit.

 

[Shazam!]

What's the difference between "trainers" and "shoes"?

Are you referring to dress shoes vs sneakers?

Trainers are running shoes and that.

Sneakers is an early 90s film.

 

[Jenee]

Really? You know the preferences of everyone single person on the planet?

Not that I'm point the finger and saying/confirming anyones ugly... but why is it such a bad thing to see yourself as ugly?

I'm far from pretty. Very far from it, in fact. The whole reason I have a beard is that without it, I look like a potato that's been trampled by a horse then nibbled on by an army of mice before finally going mouldy.

Being ugly never bothered me. I've never tried nor claimed to be anything else unless I was taking the piss, I dress like a 90's grunge reject and even though I work out regularly I constantly look out of shape.

I've also never been single for more than a week. Being ugly is never an issue - caring about it is.

I don't think "attractiveness" or "ugly" can be ... 'self attributed". It's always from someone else's point of view. Because, obviously, we're all biased toward our own image - regardless of whether that image is positive or negative. Therefore, attractiveness must be a completely outside point of view, even if that outside person is your spouse - but never a brother.

 

[kimc]

You obviously aren't a girl.

Or Holdfast.

Or gay... like me. I have twenty pairs.

I have 44.

I don't have time to count...

 

[kimc]

I used to care, once upon a time. After cancer and a host of other physical ailments though I just don't worry about it any more. If I can see myself in the mirror in the morning, that's good enough for me.

Quoted since this really puts things into perspective.

There's a reason a lot of our moms wouldn't let us out of the house with torn underwear or unbrushed teeth - people will make snap judgements on you based on your appearance. Is it fair? Not always. However, in a world where our brains are being constantly bombarded with new info it's probably necessary.

As for me I think I fall under the "cute" category. In dress I'm either sporty or classic. On days I'm happy and healthy and feeling really comfortable in my skin I can pass for beautiful - but then I think that's the case with all of us when we're at our personal best.

 

[greenguy]

Has anyone here had any cosmetic surgery? I haven't, I (almost certainly) never ever would want to, but I'm really suprised it hasn't come up yet.

Lypo, nose jobs, boob jobs...anyone?

pfft. I won't even wear makeup. I'm certainly not putting myself under the knife.

But you don't need to wear makeup, YR. 20-somethings with brilliant complexions and a lovely personality to match never need to.

You obviously aren't a girl.

Or Holdfast.

Or gay... like me. I have twenty pairs.

I have 44.

I only own three. Time to get a job!