Your appearance

[Mr. B]

My appearance is important enough for me to shave and shower regularly and iron my clothes... but not enough to buckle down and lose the 40 pounds I shouldn't have. ...and I'm certain my appearance is the prevailing factor in how others treat me. That's the way the world works.

 

[Amaris]

I hope you don't mind, Kestra.

I'm an overweight, hideous person, and yeah, it affects me. Most people won't even give me the time of day because of it. I've never had a girlfriend, never even been kissed. It's a major contributor to my depression.

My weight's been a contributing factor to my depression at times as well. My appearance in general has a huge effect on my self-esteem, but I'm trying to control what I can and let go of what I can't. That's the best we can do, sometimes.

I tend not to make superficial comments on pictures people post especially if I don't know them well because it's creepy. However, I don't recall you ever posting a picture that shows you to be overweight. Are you sure this isn't an "all in your mind" thing? Bad self-image?

It must be, because she is very beautiful.

 

[Kestra]

Thanks guys, I appreciate the honesty and the reality check. I don't mind because I know you're just looking out for me.

I know I'm not super overweight, but for my bone structure and my height, I'm not at a good weight. I mean, I definitely have issues with self-image stemming from remarks and appearances of family members, but also from an objective standpoint, I should lose some weight. Indians are at a really high risk for heart disease and often recommended to keep an even lower BMI than average. And whatever else I've been, I've definitely never been skinny!

My eating habits have been really difficult to change but since our move to the city it's been easier for me to be active. Weight-loss is slow and frustrating, but then I remember that I'm trying to be healthy, not just look better or fit into certain clothes. And I know that numbers on a scale don't mean anything unless taken into context.

I'm trying to keep sane and not get too obsessed, which is difficult for me. So I do appreciate the comments, because I need to remind myself that I'm not some huge blob, I just could stand to take some inches off.

 

[JonathonWally]

I'm an overweight, hideous person, and yeah, it affects me. Most people won't even give me the time of day because of it. I've never had a girlfriend, never even been kissed. It's a major contributor to my depression.

Hmm well being overweight isn't a permanent condition...i know, I have the before and after to prove it in my album.

RAMA

My appearance is important enough for me to shave and shower regularly and iron my clothes... but not enough to buckle down and lose the 40 pounds I shouldn't have. ...and I'm certain my appearance is the prevailing factor in how others treat me. That's the way the world works.

I hear you guys, I gained about 20lbs recently, had a bad case of shingles, quit smoking, quit medication, and then got really bad poison ivy, so I put on weight, and because of the shingles, wasn't able to exercise, at all. Bummed me out big time. But, I can finally get back to the gym this week, if not next.

So even though it's June already, I'm not giving up, gonna get my toned up summer body, even if it takes till September.


As for my appearance, one word; rugged

 

[Rek]

I wonder how many people struggle on my flip side of the coin - I can't gain weight, my parents tried to "faten me up" once but I didn't gain a single pound. I can only gain muscle mass but I've always been too lazy to work out, so I have very little of that rather then the natural muscle I grew without lifting a pinky.

 

[Mr. B]

I think I'd rather have that problem.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

Looking at some of my childhood photos, I have come to the realisation that I have clearly underestimated my looks for all these years.

I just hope my new-found self esteem doesn't lead to narcissistic hubris, Michael Winner style, in the appearance department. I'll need to keep my game up, big-time.

 

[Kestra]

I wonder how many people struggle on my flip side of the coin - I can't gain weight, my parents tried to "faten me up" once but I didn't gain a single pound. I can only gain muscle mass but I've always been too lazy to work out, so I have very little of that rather then the natural muscle I grew without lifting a pinky.

My husband was like that for many, many years. I swear anything he ate just somehow magically converted into muscle. I was so jealous! He still has a good metabolism, but now that we're a bit older he has put on a few pounds. He's still underweight, but less so than he was before.

I'm sure some people are just like that, especially when they're younger. I don't think it's all that uncommon.

 

[Rek]

It might not be too uncommon. But there a strange thing I've noticed in my family. All the women in my family are obese, fat or chubby. I've never met a women in my family, even distant relatives that arn't fat. Whereas the men are normally normal weight. I'm the only one I know thats underweight, though. I'm 120 pounds.

 

[captcalhoun]

i look alright. i try to look tidy at work. i keep my hair cropped short because it takes less effort to deal with and i shave because i hate the itch from a beard. other than that, i don't care much.

 

[Pingfah]

I am the second most beautiful person on the planet.

You flatter me sir.

 

[Tom Riley]

I wonder how many people struggle on my flip side of the coin - I can't gain weight, my parents tried to "faten me up" once but I didn't gain a single pound. I can only gain muscle mass but I've always been too lazy to work out, so I have very little of that rather then the natural muscle I grew without lifting a pinky.

It might not be too uncommon. But there a strange thing I've noticed in my family. All the women in my family are obese, fat or chubby. I've never met a women in my family, even distant relatives that arn't fat. Whereas the men are normally normal weight. I'm the only one I know thats underweight, though. I'm 120 pounds.

I'm sorry but are you one of my other personalities that I am not yet aware of??

No, but that really does describe me to a T. The only exception to the women in my family is my older sister, but she busts her ass to get herself like that.

Me? I'm 5'8", 115 lbs. I eat a lot, I don't gain weight, and although I could get toned really easily I just never get around to it...

I'm very pale, and I used to be really goofy looking but luckily I've grown into my looks and I feel I look a lot better now. The braces helped soooo much... I didn't get them until the end of my junior year of high school, and they didn't come off until the summer after my freshmen year of college, () but it was worth it. It has helped a lot with my self esteem and I've gotta say, the way a person thinks about themselves has a big effect on their appearance. Nowadays I'd say I'm a pretty good looking guy. Not the best, but certainly good enough.

 

[The First Joel]

I could do without this gut. Since I made some changes to my diet recently, I feel I've lost a little weight. Actually I'm not really sure, as I haven't weight myself in a few months.

 

[Goji]

My appearance is and has always been awful and that does affect me. But it's something you learn to live with.

 

[mari]

I wonder how many people struggle on my flip side of the coin - I can't gain weight, my parents tried to "faten me up" once but I didn't gain a single pound. I can only gain muscle mass but I've always been too lazy to work out, so I have very little of that rather then the natural muscle I grew without lifting a pinky.

My husband was like that for many, many years. I swear anything he ate just somehow magically converted into muscle. I was so jealous! He still has a good metabolism, but now that we're a bit older he has put on a few pounds. He's still underweight, but less so than he was before.

I'm sure some people are just like that, especially when they're younger. I don't think it's all that uncommon.

My sister is like that, the only way she gains weight is to lift weights... she's under 5' and maybe 100 pounds on a "fat" day. Our mother was similar until she started having kids, then BOOM, thighs and belly. Shorty will probably gain weight when she's older, she's only 24.

As for me, I started packing on weight in middle school and got up to around 220 (I'm 5' 2") before dropping a lot... down to 147 most days, now, and working on getting to 130. I have to balance my food and exercise carefully, though. Too much exercise and (this must be a family thing) I gain muscle and can't get my thighs into my pants, even though the waist fits fine.

 

[Yeoman Randi]

I look damn good.

Okay, that is an exaggeration.. but I recently lost 40 pounds and am terribly pleased with myself.

That's awesome!! Good for you!!!
I've recently lost 23 pounds and would like to lose another 15. These last 15 are really really hard to get off. It's making me cranky.

I'm an overweight, hideous person, and yeah, it affects me. Most people won't even give me the time of day because of it. I've never had a girlfriend, never even been kissed. It's a major contributor to my depression.

{{[squish}}} I saw your picture in one of the other threads (the ketchup pic). I think you are absolutely adorable. I know men don't necessarily like hearing that they are 'adorable', but women LOVE adorable, and you are!

I'm okay looking, I guess.

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You are MUCH MUCH more than that.

I am the second most beautiful person on the planet.

Randy, you make me smile every single day of my life.

My self-esteem got a lot better once I cut my hair short, and I think my appearance contributed to my depression as well (I'm not depressed anymore). I think short hair fits better to my personality.

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Same thing for me. I felt like my long hair dragged me down. It was great when i was young, but these days long hair does nothing for my appearance. I feel a lot more spry with the short hair.

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Nowadays I'd say I'm a pretty good looking guy. Not the best, but certainly good enough.

You are GORGEOUS!!!!! Mrs. Robinson knows.

My appearance is and has always been awful and that does affect me. But it's something you learn to live with.

{{squish}} I've seen your picture and you are very very good looking. I wish you didn't feel this way about yourself. From what i've read about you and your life, i think you are amazing!!

 

[Shazam!]

Looking at some of my childhood photos, I have come to the realisation that I have clearly underestimated my looks for all these years.

LOL Yeah, I'm not allowed to look at pictures of me when I was young as they make me turn all the lights out and sit alone in the corner crying.

 

[Jetfire]

I look at myself in the mirror and just want to die, serious...and nice clothes ain't gonna fix it.

 

[Gruß vom Krampus]

Of course, appearance is important. I have to look presentable when I go to work every day, go out, run errands, etc. There's a difference between placing importance on appearance and valuing beauty in general. You can be an average-looking individual AND look presentable. I dress properly and have good personal hygiene and grooming. I'm no Hollywood celebrity, but my parents have blessed me with good enough DNA as to look okay, I suppose. Beauty fades over time.

 

[Haggis and tatties]

I'm an overweight, hideous person, and yeah, it affects me. Most people won't even give me the time of day because of it. I've never had a girlfriend, never even been kissed. It's a major contributor to my depression.

Hmm well being overweight isn't a permanent condition...i know, I have the before and after to prove it in my album.

RAMA

Wow...that's very impressive.