Where are my friends?!

[RoJoHen]

Because people don't give a fuck about friendships, more so if they are younger. They will make plans with you 1-2 a year when they are lonely or bored and have an hour or so to kill.

That's all well and good for some of my friends that live farther away. But the friends I'm talking about literally live on the other side of town, and I know for a fact that they have nothing better going on.

Because they aren't your friends.

I was friends with a lot of college students, and I understand college gets in the way, but one I haven't seen since last June, there was no summer school, I live in a place he can to drive near to get home, but we still don't hang out. Why? Because he was only a friend when he needed something from me, now that he doesn't we are no longer friends. I was just a fill in for another friend to move back in with him.

I only see another when there is a school break, not because he's busy, because he really isn't, he sits at homes and has "parties" with his "friends", but because no one else is around so I'm better than nothing.

These people aren't your friends, ditch them and try tofind real friends. Yes it's very hard to do, but you need to try it.

And I should add that during the time since last June I have seen a good friend who is a TA in grad school for some type of atom physics In June, would have at Thanksgiving but I was sick, and Christmas. He lives 450 miles away and I have seen him more than someone who lives and works in towns I go to at least once a week.

So these people are just assholes.

Since you don't know anything about my friends other than me being bored over the weekend, you really have no room to talk about whether they are or aren't my "real friends."

For the record, I went out with them last week. I was just REALLY bored the last couple days and wanted to hang out with them again.

 

[Captain_Nick]

I am half-tempted to go out and crash a college party. I live about 2 blocks from my old campus. I could easily be the creepy old guy.

Do it, it is so awesome. I play the 'creepy old guy' role to perfection, it's so much fun

 

[Finn]

Because people don't give a fuck about friendships, more so if they are younger. They will make plans with you 1-2 a year when they are lonely or bored and have an hour or so to kill.

That's all well and good for some of my friends that live farther away. But the friends I'm talking about literally live on the other side of town, and I know for a fact that they have nothing better going on.

Because they aren't your friends.

I was friends with a lot of college students, and I understand college gets in the way, but one I haven't seen since last June, there was no summer school, I live in a place he can to drive near to get home, but we still don't hang out. Why? Because he was only a friend when he needed something from me, now that he doesn't we are no longer friends. I was just a fill in for another friend to move back in with him.

I only see another when there is a school break, not because he's busy, because he really isn't, he sits at homes and has "parties" with his "friends", but because no one else is around so I'm better than nothing.

These people aren't your friends, ditch them and try tofind real friends. Yes it's very hard to do, but you need to try it.

And I should add that during the time since last June I have seen a good friend who is a TA in grad school for some type of atom physics In June, would have at Thanksgiving but I was sick, and Christmas. He lives 450 miles away and I have seen him more than someone who lives and works in towns I go to at least once a week.

So these people are just assholes.

Wow, strong and harsh words for people that you don't know. The OP didn't actually give you the rap sheet for each of them. Some of them might have families or other responsibilities that keeps them from hanging with RoJoHen often.

I have a good friend who lives about 30 miles from here, and I haven't seen him since last May. He's married with two young boys. Yet he's going to be one of my groomsmen.


Just...wow

 

[RoJoHen]

That's all well and good for some of my friends that live farther away. But the friends I'm talking about literally live on the other side of town, and I know for a fact that they have nothing better going on.

Because they aren't your friends.

I was friends with a lot of college students, and I understand college gets in the way, but one I haven't seen since last June, there was no summer school, I live in a place he can to drive near to get home, but we still don't hang out. Why? Because he was only a friend when he needed something from me, now that he doesn't we are no longer friends. I was just a fill in for another friend to move back in with him.

I only see another when there is a school break, not because he's busy, because he really isn't, he sits at homes and has "parties" with his "friends", but because no one else is around so I'm better than nothing.

These people aren't your friends, ditch them and try tofind real friends. Yes it's very hard to do, but you need to try it.

And I should add that during the time since last June I have seen a good friend who is a TA in grad school for some type of atom physics In June, would have at Thanksgiving but I was sick, and Christmas. He lives 450 miles away and I have seen him more than someone who lives and works in towns I go to at least once a week.

So these people are just assholes.

Wow, strong and harsh words for people that you don't know. The OP didn't actually give you the rap sheet for each of them. Some of them might have families or other responsibilities that keeps them from hanging with RoJoHen often.

Yeah, my thread was just a result of me being bored. I have nothing against any of my friends. The timing of things simply doesn't always work out. I really wanted to go out and have some fun this weekend, but my friends were unable to join me. There are plenty of times when my friends want to hang out with me but I am unable. It happens. I just needed to rant.

 

[Jetfire]

Maybe you need to find yourself a hobby.

 

[Captain_Nick]

May I make some recommendations in that regard.

- trainsets are awesome
- so is buying a 'sports car' and 'doing it up'
- buy a cat, they make for great company
- do some gardening
- go to colleges and peer through the windows of the girls showers

 

[RoJoHen]

May I make some recommendations in that regard.

- trainsets are awesome
- so is buying a 'sports car' and 'doing it up'
- buy a cat, they make for great company
- do some gardening
- go to colleges and peer through the windows of the girls showers

Well, I already have the cat...

 

[bigdaddy]

Yeah, my thread was just a result of me being bored. I have nothing against any of my friends. The timing of things simply doesn't always work out. I really wanted to go out and have some fun this weekend, but my friends were unable to join me. There are plenty of times when my friends want to hang out with me but I am unable. It happens. I just needed to rant.

I swear you said that you knew your friends were around with no plans and they still didn't bother. My mistake.

Yeah I have had some pretty shitty friends.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

There are plenty of times when my friends want to hang out with me but I am unable. It happens. I just needed to rant.

It was a good rant, I enjoyed it.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

"Hip Hip! I'm tired."

Pretty soon, we're all gonna need new hips ...

 

[RJDiogenes]

- go to colleges and peer through the windows of the girls showers

There seems to be a design flaw in the girls' showers of the local colleges here.

 

[barnaclelapse]

"Hip Hip! I'm tired."

Pretty soon, we're all gonna need new hips ...

Or in my case a new back, new knees and probably a new neck.

 

[RoJoHen]

Yeah, my thread was just a result of me being bored. I have nothing against any of my friends. The timing of things simply doesn't always work out. I really wanted to go out and have some fun this weekend, but my friends were unable to join me. There are plenty of times when my friends want to hang out with me but I am unable. It happens. I just needed to rant.

I swear you said that you knew your friends were around with no plans and they still didn't bother. My mistake.

Yeah I have had some pretty shitty friends.

I may have said that, but it's okay. There are times when I have nothing going on and would just rather not hang out with my friends either. People have different schedules, and sometimes it's nice to just have a weekend to yourself. My rant was more about how I wish my friends and I would have those weekends at the same time.

I've had shitty friends, too, but the ones I'm talking about are not them. I just really really really hate being bored.

 

[Timby]

I just really really really hate being bored.

Get involved! The Davenport Jaycees have a very active chapter and a lot of fun activities. Or volunteer! It's very easy to not be bored.

 

[trekkiedane]

I just really really really hate being bored.

AHA.

So we finally got to the core of the problem, and what a whopper it is!

You need to learn how to enjoy not doing anything! -It won't be easy as our modern life (in this western world of ours) is centered on exploiting our addictions whatever they be; tobacco, alcohol, new toys (gadgets), entertainment at the click of a button, junk food delivered at your door within 30 minutes...

Take up whittling, switch off all your electronics and play a few games of manual patience, read a Russian novel, watch a few sunsets (or -rises), read the newspaper... (I've got plenty more )

 

[JarodRussell]

Take up whittling, switch off all your electronics and play a few games of manual patience, read a Russian novel, watch a few sunsets (or -rises), read the newspaper... (I've got plenty more )

But as a man, you can only resort to manual patience so many times.

 

[RoJoHen]

I have no problem not doing anything. I rather enjoy sitting around doing nothing. However, there are times when I wish I was doing something -- with someone -- and I get really frustrated when I can't make that happen.