This.
That's why Trek 09 is good. It doesn't have a lot of quiet moments but it does have them, and the characters have great heart.
What I appreciate about st09 is that..when vulcan gets destroyed, JJ allows the characters to have a series of quiet moments about it even if, in the reality of the story, a lot of things need to happen yet in a limited screentime.
The fast action pauses. Spock appears on that transport pad with his arm still stretched to desperately try to reach his mother. The camera shows his shocked face as he looks at the pad where his mother should've appeared

. They show Sarek's heartbreaking subtle reaction.. and then Kirk, Sulu..and poor Chekov who.. you just know he feels guilty because he couldn't save Amanda (but it isn't his fault. In fact, the previous scene hints at how hard it was for them to beam Kirk and Sulu on the ship. He miraculously managed to do that, but the exception isn't a rule)
You get that log entry registered by Spock working as the voiceover for the scene in sickbay, and then it fades to him sitting in the captain's chair and then the tender, dignified moment between him and Uhura - that also works as the most effective way to reveal a deeper, intimate,
surprising relationship between the characters that adds an important layer to them (for instance, the fact that from a narrative perspective it says that the characters do have a life - private, emotional - outside of their job and what you were allowed to see of them, or assume about them, up that moment.)
Also, back to the scene in sickbay ..at one point the camera focuses on his lost face.. and the quiet sadness you see in him is so authentic to me. It really conveys how unreal it must feel to him, like he can't even begin to process what happened (for me, it also is one of those moments where he looks so young to me. There are scenes where he's intimidating and sure of himself like old Spock was but there are moments where you are reminded that he's still a young man and that strong facade he puts isn't all of him)
For a moment, behind him, you see his dad looking in his direction as if he wants to go to him but he joins the other vulcans instead. It's little details but they add so much. I never for a moment got the idea the movie was portraying Sarek as cold or a bad father. I actually feel sorry for him too because my impression is he was trying his best but it's very hard for him too, he just expresses that differently. His own arc is resolved when he, lastly, tells Spock that he loved Amanda. That gives them both a lot of closure, IMO, and gives more character growth to Sarek that one would assume. I consider that scene, alone, a key moment for kelvin Spock that made me believe he would never become the same guy tos Spock was, unless the writers wanted him to have an involution.
I think one gotta respect movies for their own genre of course, thus have realistic, reasonable expectations; I understand that they have a very limited screentime (if you think about how much they film but then they have to sacrifice during editing. .), but action scenes and special effects aren't mutually exclusive with the story also having heart. Your need to allow the characters to get quiet, personal moments
too or the audience won't care.
Say what you want about JJ but he gets
that. He actually added that kind of moment regardless the script, while Lin for example removed or minimized them in spite of having a script that originally had more character moments.