Been reading Tipping the Velvet?
Victoria Jennifer Johnson (The Ladies' Thread)
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not if the girl swallows.
Well, yes, you are right there.
How so? With a condom, you just have to tie it up after use and throw it away. It gets tricker not getting anything stained without one. Did you mean something else?
I've always insisted on condom use, and have never once felt bad about possibly "inconviencing" a partner. On a different topic, if anyone else has experience with semi-permanent and/or non-hormonal birth control, feel free to share. I've tried the ring and the pill, and while my first experiences with them were fine, my latest go at them was not so great. The nuvaring in particular kept falling out without my knowledge, leaving me unwittingly unprotected against pregnancy. Fortunately, my insistence on condom use saved my ass and I avoided a pregnancy. The nuvaring also started me on a period that did not end for *months*, and I ended up with a trip to the doctor for emergency countermeasures.
I'm looking at the Norplant, as it seems to have the lowest failure rate of everything except permanent sterlization. Anyone have experience with it?
No, I've only seen the TV version. But a friend of mine, who had a preference for her own gender, said it was one of her favourite books.
The TV show is greatly inferior to the novel!
Bears, it's not at all about inconveniencing a guy with putting on a condom. Actually, that can be a very fun part of foreplay. However, most guys I know do find the sensation just not as great with a condom on. Like I said, I've never been with a man who minded wearing one, but I knew that they might have a better experience without.
As for other birth control options, I considered an IUD too. I know most women have no problem with them, but my mother and both my sisters had HORRIBLE experiences with IUDs over the years. My mother became pregnant while wearing one, and it perforated her uterus nearly killing her. My older sister recently got one of the new plastic IUDs and was in horrible pain with severe bleeding for a month. She finally could bare it no longer and had it removed. My younger sister also experienced severe pain and had to have her's removed as well, though she wasn't bleeding. I'm now rather terrified of them!
I'm very happy with it. Then again I suppose choice of contraception depends on your age and your relationship status. I have no plans for further children at all and in my early 40's I'm hoping that this will be the first and last!
I was on the contraceptive injection every 3 months which was ok ~ no periods, no pain for 4 years. Then last year it got horrible. Bleeding constantly for 5/6 months, iron tablets, foul moods and total lack of sex drive. My doctor went on and on about a coil ~ an IUS, plastic instead of copper, and finally in total frustration I broke.
I am not going to lie to you ~ it was a horrendous experience having it fittedand a few tears did leak from my eyes, but Doc was right ~ the bleeding stopped almost immediately and my sex drive rocketed! Now it is Man that needs the iron tablets
I tried to stick to the injections for a year, and I grew a few sizes, bleed constantly for just as long and I felt it was completely useless since I had no sexdrive what s o ever.
Then it took me a year to get back to normal afterwards. Horrible stuff. Wont let it near me again.
It's weird how contraceptives effect women so differently. I think as I'm coming up to "that age" the injections gave up the fight against my hormones.
^ K'Eh, I agree with you on the coil. It' no more fun having it taken out than put in, but it's a wonderful invention. I had the copper coil because I have very light periods anyway, and as a contraceptive it worked very well. When my husband and I decided to try for our third child I had my coil removed in mid-October. Two weeks later I had my last period, and a month later I was looking at the blue lines on the pee stick muttering "You must be effing joking!" Let's just say I fall pregnant very easily. A year later I was back at the doctor's office getting a new coil put in, and the contraceptive doctor (who was not my regular doctor) asked if she had removed my coil not too long ago. I replied, "Yes, a year ago. The baby's name is David, he's 3 months old and please insert my new coil now!" That coil worked perfectly, too.
Oh congratulations macloudt ! It is a foul process but efficient. I just wonder if in 5 years time I will remember to have it replaced ~ after all I struggled with a 3 month appointment
The other thing to remember though tsq is STDs, unfortunately we are seeing them on the rise with young people now.
I think it also shows a measure of respect if a man is prepared to wear a condom especially in the early months of a relationship. It also covers them too (pun totally intended
).Man did suggest that he would have a vasectomy, but with my bleeding etc. it was an answer to both problems to go the IUS way.
Oh, a little off subject, but has anyone ever taken, or thought about taking, an Aids test?
Or are you concerned? Would you consider? Why would you think you would need to?
Odd question, but do your sisters go to the same doctor, by chance?
^Not an odd question, but an obvious line of thinking. And no, they don't go to the same doctor.
Well, of course one wants to use a condom to prevent STDs. In my case I'm referring specifically to monogamous relationships where neither partner has an STD. I've got nothing against condoms. I agree that it is very respectful of a man to be prepared to use one.
The other thing to remember though tsq is STDs, unfortunately we are seeing them on the rise with young people now.
I think it also shows a measure of respect if a man is prepared to wear a condom especially in the early months of a relationship. It also covers them too (pun totally intended
^^That's good to know. No one in my family has used IUD's, so I have no idea how my body might react to one.
ETA: this thread moved a bit while I was composing a response.
As for condoms not feeling as good, maybe I'm just cold and mean but Oh Well. I'm pretty close to some situations where a girl gave into the guy's whining about how condoms suck and now they're both dealing with screaming toddlers and custody fights, or STDs that just won't go away. Oops. One situation is a middle aged family member whose soon-to-be-ex husband gave her an incurable STD. She didn't bother to ask before they commited, he didn't bother to tell.
That's why I've never felt bad about insisting on them or fretted that my partner just isn't enjoying himself as much. I feel that in the scheme of things a bit of reduced spontaneity and sensation is a negligible price to pay for a clean STD panel and reproductive control. If a guy complained to me that condoms just don't feel the same or are inconvienent, he's free to bare-back someone who's not me and deal with the consequences himself, but he's not getting near me as a result.
ETA: this thread moved a bit while I was composing a response.
As for condoms not feeling as good, maybe I'm just cold and mean but Oh Well. I'm pretty close to some situations where a girl gave into the guy's whining about how condoms suck and now they're both dealing with screaming toddlers and custody fights, or STDs that just won't go away. Oops. One situation is a middle aged family member whose soon-to-be-ex husband gave her an incurable STD. She didn't bother to ask before they commited, he didn't bother to tell.
That's why I've never felt bad about insisting on them or fretted that my partner just isn't enjoying himself as much. I feel that in the scheme of things a bit of reduced spontaneity and sensation is a negligible price to pay for a clean STD panel and reproductive control. If a guy complained to me that condoms just don't feel the same or are inconvienent, he's free to bare-back someone who's not me and deal with the consequences himself, but he's not getting near me as a result.
Obvious to some, but not to many. I'm always surprised by the general lack of logical reasoning in people.
That's true, and I'm probably overthinking it, but I do like to be GGG. If a man whined to me about wearing one though, he'd find himself whining his way right out the door.
Obviously, the advantages of condoms outweigh the disadvantages, but it seemed like y'all are putting it as though a condom would make no difference whatsoever, and I felt obligated to inform you otherwise.
Also, three more things:
1. If you're in a very small town/neighbourhood, it sucks buying them because it's almost certain that you'll bump into someone you know.
2. Some people have an intolerance towards certain rubber/plastic components, causing them to get a nasty rash on their private parts, and the only alternative are very very expensive condoms made with some weird naturalist substance which cost like €5 per condom. Of course, this is a special case but shouldn't be disregarded.
3. Manufacturing errors happen more than is often realised, and I'm not talking about a hole in the thing, I'm talking about the ring being smaller than intended, which will often be bypassed easily when putting it on but will often cut bloodflow and be hard to remove... ...to compare how sh*t that is, ladies, I dare you to masturbate with an empty glass bottle without lid... ...the air suction will probably attach the thing and you'll have to have it removed in hospital... ...and that doesnt do any damage, even, whereas cutting the bloodflow for more than 2 minutes can cause acute necrosis, so it's basically sexually lethal.
Yes, they're all not the commonest, or not very concerning, but it adds up, and especially in the case of 2, in your case I wouldn't be so harsh on the guy who'll end up with a genital rash the next day...
Also, three more things:
1. If you're in a very small town/neighbourhood, it sucks buying them because it's almost certain that you'll bump into someone you know.
2. Some people have an intolerance towards certain rubber/plastic components, causing them to get a nasty rash on their private parts, and the only alternative are very very expensive condoms made with some weird naturalist substance which cost like €5 per condom. Of course, this is a special case but shouldn't be disregarded.
3. Manufacturing errors happen more than is often realised, and I'm not talking about a hole in the thing, I'm talking about the ring being smaller than intended, which will often be bypassed easily when putting it on but will often cut bloodflow and be hard to remove... ...to compare how sh*t that is, ladies, I dare you to masturbate with an empty glass bottle without lid... ...the air suction will probably attach the thing and you'll have to have it removed in hospital... ...and that doesnt do any damage, even, whereas cutting the bloodflow for more than 2 minutes can cause acute necrosis, so it's basically sexually lethal.
Yes, they're all not the commonest, or not very concerning, but it adds up, and especially in the case of 2, in your case I wouldn't be so harsh on the guy who'll end up with a genital rash the next day...
^Lambskin condoms are relatively cheap and work for men with latex allergies. They aren't as effective as latex condoms, though, so if one is really concerned he ought to double up, putting a latex over a lambskin.
^Huh?
He means doing what you suggested would remove almost all sensation for the man.
Angela 0077
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Angela 0077
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Geez we are into condoms now.
Okay l think the condom is great if you dont want to get pregnant and also it keeps away certain diseases
i do agree that the condom is a pain and it is a different feeling
But these days there are so many varietys to choose from and l think some men have not gone into trying these different varietys to see if there is any difference.
There is a pill also which is to do with conception pill and you only get four periods a year l was told about this by a person l know who is close and he says that it is available in America l dont know the name but it would be great for us women to try if we can get it
^Yeah, that pill is available here too. But it comes with the same risks as other oral/hormonal contraceptives. I couldn't take it, for one. Again, we need a man pill!!!
Well, I understood that, but I never made an analogy so I don't know what he's referring to there.
Angela 0077
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So that pill is available in America
What is it called meaning the pill
Iit is not available in Austraila or if it is l have never seen it televised or talked about.
I am not sure what feeling men get by using a condom but l think for a woman there is not the same sention as not having a guy wearing one
But like l said there are different ones on the market at different price levels
What is it called meaning the pill
Iit is not available in Austraila or if it is l have never seen it televised or talked about.
I am not sure what feeling men get by using a condom but l think for a woman there is not the same sention as not having a guy wearing one
But like l said there are different ones on the market at different price levels