Verbally attacked on public transportation today over my appearance

[Velocity]

I've never been attacked (verbally or otherwise) on public transit, but there was this one time in New York City when, as I was emerging from a subway station on Lexington Avenue, my cell phone went off. I was using the TOS communicator noise as a ringtone. Lots of people heard it and started laughing at me. I was rather embarrassed by that.

I would have liked to have that ringtone on my flip phone years ago, but nowadays I let my Nerd flag fly by still using the Buffy the Vampire Slayer theme song as my ring tone.

 

[Fantasy Lover]

When I first went to high-school, I was a tomboy. Many people were confused and thought I was a guy, I was called a d-word. And I didn't drink or smoked or went to parties, I found it stupid that had to do all of those things to be popular.

But I was sick and tired by the hurtful comments of my appearance, I grew out my bowl cut, I started wearing more feminine clothes with a bit of cleavage. No dice, by the time I graduated my popularity increased enough to stop being called d-word, but not enough to get the boys attention. They still saw me as a d-word, not as the woman I've become

 

[The Ghoul Next Door]

When I first went to high-school, I was a tomboy. Many people were confused and thought I was a guy, I was called a d-word. And I didn't drink or smoked or went to parties, I found it stupid that had to do all of those things to be popular.

But I was sick and tired by the hurtful comments of my appearance, I grew out my bowl cut, I started wearing more feminine clothes with a bit of cleavage. No dice, by the time I graduated my popularity increased enough to stop being called d-word, but not enough to get the boys attention. They still saw me as a d-word, not as the woman I've become

First, thank you for sharing your personal experience.

However, please be aware that we don't allow slurs here. I understand that you were just relaying that they actually used that slur against you, but the word itself is still not permitted.

I don't think there was malicious intent here, so rather than issue a warning, I have just edited your post to remove the slur, but in such a way so that people can still intuit what the slur was that was used against you. If you don't like that particular formation, and want to edit it to a non-slur equivalent, please feel free.

 

[Fantasy Lover]

I see, sorry for that

 

[Laughing Dragon]

I am very sorry this has happened to you.