This is the BEST time of year to be single, not the worst

[Ethros]

I was watching a bit of some rubbish daytime TV talk show the other day, and on it was a "relationship expert" talking about Valentines Day, and saying how it's such a terrible time for the single, and how its so sad for people to not have dates on February 14.
Now first off, as a single guy I found that pretty offensive and insulting. And secondly, she's talking crap as IMO this is the BEST time of year to be a single guy.


I work in a supermarket, and have just come home from a very long shift today where I was given the job of sorting, arranging and stocking up the flower displays. And believe me we had A LOT delivered this morning. Now of course all the prices get jacked up this week, especially a huge mark up on the roses. And all day I'm just seeing these guys coming in wandering round looking awkward, their faces repulsed by the prices, feeling embarrassed buying cuddly toys and such

Meanwhile my co-worker is stressing out on what to get his girlfriend, how much to spend, what is an appropriate gift, what to do for evening plans, which restaurant to try and book, etc


Anyway, basically I just look on the bright side and think 'thank god I don't have to bother with all this crap.' Most years Valentines Day to me is just like Chinese New Year or Hanukah; it doesn't mean anything and has nothing to do with me.

So any depressed singletons out there, look on the bright side I say

 

[Kemaiku]

Re: This is the BEST time of year to single, not the worst

Still depressed.

 

[RoJoHen]

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I've always hated Valentine's Day, but it has nothing to do with being single. It's absolutely the worst day to work in a restaurant. Yes, it's busy, but it tends to be busy with poor couples that don't normally go out to eat, so the tips end up being terrible.

I won't have to deal with that this year. I'm just going to go home and take a nap.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

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I think it's obnoxious the way some people obsess over Valentine's Day, though the same happens with other holidays, too.

Do what you want to do. If you're with someone who is really high-maintenance and will dump your ass if you don't get an appropriately-expensive gift, well, ugh. I guess you signed up for that, didn't ya?

That makes me kind of sad.

Single people could go to one of those anti-Valentine's Day parties and maybe meet someone.

I'm just taking my girlfriend out to dinner at this place we both like. Plus, I wrote her a fairly embarrassing letter. She already gave me chocolate and one of those talking greeting cards. Fun fact: the chocolate is actually a crucifix, to celebrate Easter. We will eat it together. It seems a bit sacrilegious for an atheist and a Jew to be chowing down on a chocolate Jesus-killer, but we're already gonna burn in hell anyway, might as well go all-out.

Pardon the tangent. Maybe someone will laugh and not hate Valentine's Day so much.

 

[Ethros]

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Anyway for any lurking mods to change the thread title to *be single?

Thanks

 

[SmoothieX]

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I'm going through a divorce right now after an 11 year relationship. It sucks big time. I am not enjoying being single today.

 

[Me-Ike]

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I don't mind Valentine's Day, single or not. If I want to be unhappy about being single, I don't need a special day for it (I see the logical fallacy in there, shush!).
Nor do I think 'thank god' for not being involved in it. I think it's nice for those who enjoy it; personally, I wouldn't expect anything special anyway, so no stress. If I decide to give anything or if I receive anything (even something as small as a 'I'm glad you're here') then yay! a little bit of happiness. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[RoJoHen]

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I think people get way too hung up on their relationship status.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

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I think people get way too hung up on their relationship status.

The phrase "relationship status" makes me think of the one on Facebook, and holy shit, do people ever take that seriously!

 

[RoJoHen]

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I think people get way too hung up on their relationship status.

The phrase "relationship status" makes me think of the one on Facebook, and holy shit, do people ever take that seriously!

When my roommate and his old girlfriend became "official," they had to have a whole separate talk about whether or not they were ready to change their Facebook relationship status. It's one of the most retarded things I've ever heard.

 

[Kelthaz]

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I'm single and I had completely forgotten about Valentine's Day. It's like the Chinese New Year -- cool holiday, but it's not one that applies to me.

 

[Kestra]

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So any depressed singletons out there, look on the bright side I say

I like this sentiment, definitely. But also remember that this day doesn't mean you have to stress out about this stuff. There are a lot of men and women out there that would not pressure their partners over gifts and dinner plans and such.

I'm going through a divorce right now after an 11 year relationship. It sucks big time. I am not enjoying being single today.

I'm really sorry to hear that dude. I know we don't really know each other, but feel free to PM me if you need to talk or just vent.

 

[Holdfast]

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I'm single and I had completely forgotten about Valentine's Day.

I'm glad I'm not the only one; I was listening to the radio this afternoon and a DJ started wittering on about "Valentine's Eve" and that reminded me.

I agree with whoever upthread said these sort of days are more about what you make of them than anything else. I tend to think of Valentine's as a way of business bridging the sales gap between the January sales and Easter, but that's not an opinion held with any sort of tired cynicism to it. If people find it enjoyable, then wonderful! That simply makes it good for two reasons.

If I decide to give anything or if I receive anything (even something as small as a 'I'm glad you're here') then yay! a little bit of happiness. Nothing wrong with that.

Hear that everyone?

All together now... "I'm glad you're here".

 

[CorporalClegg]

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I think it just has to be one of those things you take with a grain of salt.

Have fun with it but don't obsess over it. And there are plenty of ways for single people to have fun on Valentines. I know. I've had plenty of experience.

OTOH I've also had my best date ever on Valentines, but it was eons ago.

The phrase "relationship status" makes me think of the one on Facebook, and holy shit, do people ever take that seriously!

Dear God do they ever. A good friend of mine is no longer my friend just because she got so obsessive about it. The damn thing changed daily.

When I finally got tired of it and confronted her about it with legitimate concern over her well being, she just totally raged at me and pretty much cut all ties.

I wish i could send her a Valentines gift, but alas I no longer have a current address.

 

[Trekker4747]

Valentine's Day sucks.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

Valentine's Day sucks.

This is a shocking turn of events.

 

[RoJoHen]

Valentine's Day sucks.

Only if you spend the day moping about being single. There are plenty of other things to do on Valentine's Day.

 

[Skywalker]

As someone who's currently single and isn't depressed about it at all, I also welcome the relief of not having to stress over what to do for Valentine's Day. Especially with how ridiculous the day's become thanks to a combination of commercialization and peer pressure.

 

[Me-Ike]

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^ There is acutal peer pressure for Valentine's Day? What kind of peers are that? Do people really care that much about what you celebrate or not?

All together now... "I'm glad you're here".

This so goes with my new sig!
Of course, there is a smiley. And there are quotation marks. Hmmm... but no, I like flattering too much to not go with "it's clean" and answer with a girlish yet cute *giggle*.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

Valentine's Day sucks.

Only if you spend the day moping about being single. There are plenty of other things to do on Valentine's Day.

Agreed. I'm not depressed at all about this. No one should be, once they realize the true purpose of this day - to sell candy, cards and flowers. Nothing more.

Valentine's Day is not a celebration of a specific event. It's just the date that Big Hallmark picked. Other than that, it means nothing. (You want to buy stuff for your sweetie? Do it whenever you bloody feel like.) Once we all realize this, the better off we'll be.