Things that frustrate us all

[Sibyl]

Just know there are people out there that do value you. I know I'm not the nicest person but reading your posts over the past few months has been humbling. You are pretty brave fighting the fight you do.

We all feel that way at one point or another. I tend to fight those feelings with all my strength so that they never last very long but I know that if I let them overwhelm me, I'd be pretty much at the same point you are then. We all deal with that in our own way. Just think that life is short and it will be even shorter if you waste it that way.

@Scribble
Sometimes I read your posts and think “you’re me, that’s how I feel”. You don’t need to get over it, anyone that holds anything against you is a wanker, and being depressed isn’t a crime/sin/shameful/whatever,

Give yourself permission to be you, do something that you love to do even if it feels like a waste of time or an unjustified indulgence, just do it for you. Don’t worry about hurting others, accept that they are them, and you are you (Thor said something Similar to Loki). The depression will pass in time and you will rediscover your up.

My counsellor drscribed depression as anger focused inwards, I think he’s right. Give yourself the space and time to step back and appreciate yourself for what you are and what you know you can do and be.

Take care.

I’m so sorry @Scribble

We love you very much.

I think many of us have had those feelings from time to time, so I doubt you are alone. Most of us likely have periods of times where we suffer from a lack of motivation be that at work or in some other place and where we simply fail to get enjoyment out of the things that normally bring us enjoyment.

As for how others perceive us an our actions, I can fully empathise with that, I wish I had some sage words of advice to give you but one should always try to be themselves constantly thinking about how others view us is likely unhealthy. People will either like you for who you are or not isn't it better to focus on the people who like you for who you are than trying to change too much to please someone else.

I hear you, man. I feel this way most of the time, too--since I was about 10, actually, and I'll be 50 in September. But someone actually married me (shocker!) and I have a cat I truly adore and I have one friend --just one, but one who likes me enough to fly me up to see her next month. It's not a lot but it's something. I'm barely employed, no kids, terrible health, ugly, fat....but there are still good things out there to latch onto--, a pet, a movie, a holiday, a favorite tv show, a game---something. Just go day by day, week by week.

^but you have a great sense of humour and a sparkling personality. What you look like is not important - everyone's looks - good or bad - fall prey to time, very soon. A handsome character is ageless (and always has the perfect weight ) And I totally agree about going on in small steps, day by day. Enjoying the good things is propably the key to surviving the bad ones.

perhaps the root of the problem is that you expect too much of yourself and are subconsciousely aware that you set unreachable goals. I made rather good experiences with dividing huge goals up into small goals I can achieve. Like: titying up a whole aparment is something I don't have the energy for. But tidying up my tiny kitchen or my desk is something I can do and then I have a feeling of success that provides me with the energy to tidy up the next corner. It's similar with social contacts: start small and build.

over here, a big fish chain sells 'fish and chips' (taking the term veeery broadly). They frequently ask their customers "with ketchup or mayonnaise?" - Argh!!!! That's why I make my own F&C. With lots of vinegar! =)

I really do appreciate all of your replies and I'm sorry I didn't say anything yesterday. I'm feeling slightly better this morning after some sleep (and lots of it yesterday during the day, too), but I'll feel better, eventually. I just ran out of forks (please look up the Spoon and Fork theories of personal energy).

I may be totally wrong, but I'm guessing that the reason I'm feeling like a freak lately would turn some of you against me, which is exactly why I'm feeling like a freak. Vicious circle.

My 3d modeling program has had its newest version out for almost a month or so. I've yet to set it up for the way I work, but I did open it yesterday in the hopes that I would reconfigure it. I hope to do that sometime today. I also really, really, really need to call AAA to have my van tire changed. I hope my spare holds air, still. If not, I need to figure out a way of buying a new tire. I need to sell this stupid thing!

My depression is chronic. It's not a come-and-go thing. I'm actually disabled because of it. Like, officially. Do any of you know anyone in the US that was accepted for Social Security Disability Insurance without getting turned down at first and then needing to appeal? How about after not finishing their paperwork and turning in their final info pack? Yeah, I'm f-d in the head. I do know the origins of my depression but have yet to figure out how to rid myself of it. I hope a therapist is able to help me deal with it, but I'm afraid it'll probably be with me fo the rest of my life, however long that is.

 

[Discofan]

@Scribble: I know your situation is complicated. It definitely sounds that way. I don't really know what depression is. I mean I've witnessed it in others but personally, all my periods of discouragement had a very palpable cause and when that caused ceased so did the discouragement, most of the time it ceased before the end of that cause though. I don't know if I making much sense. I do hope I'll never have to face depression the way you do and I don't know if I could manage it as well as you do if I did. Take care.

 

[Sibyl]

@Scribble: I know your situation is complicated. It definitely sounds that way. I don't really know what depression is. I mean I've witnessed it in others but personally, all my periods of discouragement had a very palpable cause and when that caused ceased so did the discouragement, most of the time it ceased before the end of that cause though. I don't know if I making much sense. I do hope I'll never have to face depression the way you do and I don't know if I could manage it as well as you do if I did. Take care.

Thank you for demonstrating an attitude that most people don't. Those that don't have frequent depression tend to think that it's just feeling sad or being too sensitive and that we need to be stronger or, "Just get over it!" with that little exclamation point.

 

[RandyS]

Thank you for demonstrating an attitude that most people don't. Those that don't have frequent depression tend to think that it's just feeling sad or being too sensitive and that we need to be stronger or, "Just get over it!" with that little exclamation point.

Don't you hate when they do that? I've been hearing it alot since being diagnosed with it five years ago. Mostly from acquaintances, but also from friends and seriously, it makes me want to punch them.

 

[NovaStar]

Getting too tired when the day is not over yet. I mean, come on!

 

[RandyS]

Getting too tired when the day is not over yet. I mean, come on!

I sympathize. For me that's a combination of a lifetime of cerebral palsy, getting older, I'll be 50 next year, and the onset of warmer weather. One of the reasons I like the cold weather is that it has the opposite effect on me. I always seem to have more energy in November than I do in May, although the other two problems remain.

 

[NovaStar]

I sympathize. For me that's a combination of a lifetime of cerebral palsy, getting older, I'll be 50 next year, and the onset of warmer weather. One of the reasons I like the cold weather is that it has the opposite effect on me. I always seem to have more energy in November than I do in May, although the other two problems remain.

Sorry to hear you have that. . I thought I had it bad with my own anxiety and depression issues

 

[Avro Arrow]

These last couple days?

Life, the universe and everything.

 

[Gary7]

These last couple days?

Life, the universe and everything.

I don't get sick very often, but when I do... I have a hard time fighting depression. I get really, really down. And when the time comes where I'm healed and feel normal, I'm so very appreciative of being healthy! That good feeling lasts for a good long while. I now try to be very proactive, so that at the first sign of not feeling well, I immediately take zinc lozenges, up my vitamin C intake, some echinacea, hot tea with cardamom, lemon, & honey, and plenty of rest. Sometimes I can shrug off an oncoming cold this way. But back in late Feb/start of March, it didn't work... because I must have caught a nasty bug from someone when I went shopping.

So if you're feeling in good health right now, take a moment, step back, really take it in how good you feel, and appreciate it!

 

[Butters]

When you set off early enough to catch the bus, but not early enough to catch the one that passes you on the way to the bus stop.

 

[Sibyl]

When you set off early enough to catch the bus, but not early enough to catch the one that passes you on the way to the bus stop.

 

[Butters]

Forgetting that double decker buses have low ceilings.

 

[Sibyl]

I woke up at 3 am to the sounds of one of my cats projectile-vomiting.

Then, this morning, I find out our cats found a mouse at some point later in the night. Willow had it a few minutes ago but was just laying there with it in front of her. I checked and the mouse was still breathing and simply playing 'possum. Then the mouse was gone. Someone found it again and now it's outside. I'm sure if it doesn't die of its injuries it'll be back in at some point. I need to find their entry point(s) and seal it (them) off.

 

[NovaStar]

I woke up at 3 am to the sounds of one of my cats projectile-vomiting.

Then, this morning, I find out our cats found a mouse at some point later in the night. Willow had it a few minutes ago but was just laying there with it in front of her. I checked and the mouse was still breathing and simply playing 'possum. Then the mouse was gone. Someone found it again and now it's outside. I'm sure if it doesn't die of its injuries it'll be back in at some point. I need to find their entry point(s) and seal it (them) off.

My cat just ignores mice. But he does like to vomit all of his food a lot. I know the sign when it happens.

 

[Butters]

Finding that you’d already scoffed the leftover chicken from the previous night that you were looking forward to eating when you got home.

 

[RandyS]

These last couple days?

Life, the universe and everything.

I'd suggest relaxing at The Restaurant at the End of the Universe.

 

[Sibyl]

When I hover over the "Like" button here waiting for the reaction icons to pop up so I can choose one.

 

[Kor]

When you change a password after keeping the same one for a long time, but you keep entering the old one out of habit when you go to log in.

Kor

 

[Nakita Akita]

^but you have a great sense of humour and a sparkling personality. What you look like is not important - everyone's looks - good or bad - fall prey to time, very soon. A handsome character is ageless (and always has the perfect weight ) And I totally agree about going on in small steps, day by day. Enjoying the good things is propably the key to surviving the bad ones.

perhaps the root of the problem is that you expect too much of yourself and are subconsciousely aware that you set unreachable goals. I made rather good experiences with dividing huge goals up into small goals I can achieve. Like: titying up a whole aparment is something I don't have the energy for. But tidying up my tiny kitchen or my desk is something I can do and then I have a feeling of success that provides me with the energy to tidy up the next corner. It's similar with social contacts: start small and build.

over here, a big fish chain sells 'fish and chips' (taking the term veeery broadly). They frequently ask their customers "with ketchup or mayonnaise?" - Argh!!!! That's why I make my own F&C. With lots of vinegar! =)

Fish and Chips!!!!!!!!
There is a place near to where my aunt lives that's been there for like 60 years,
They have vinegar and malt vinegar for the fish and chips!
Yum yum!

 

[Nakita Akita]

Knowing that the dog had an accident in the house,
because you can smell it!
But still not being able to find it until you step in it.