I guess couples in the US are way too busy to do that, as the breakup-by-text seems to have become commonplace.
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I guess couples in the US are way too busy to do that, as the breakup-by-text seems to have become commonplace.
That's exactly what happened. Really classy.
Believe it or not, my first (and only) break-up was conveyed to me through a snail-mail letter. Of course than was back in 1995, but that was still the internet age... heck, she and I met on the Internet!
She did live about 200 miles away so (1) wasn't really an option, but a phone call would have been nicer. Oh well, that relationship was headed nowhere fast, so after a couple days I got over it.
That sounds awfully orderly and calm for a breakup!
This may be a cliche, but when I first met my wife and started dating, one of the best nights we had in was a night watching Ghost. Admittedly, I think it's a lot of emotionally manipulative drivel, but on the other hand she really appreciated me sitting through it. Although I don't like that film, it surprisingly makes for a very good date.
I love how this thread slowly evolves from Dating Advice to How to Deal with Breakups.
My husband and I started our relationship long distance when we were at different colleges. One night we were fighting over IM and I felt the conversation was heading towards him dumping me. I called him up and was like "If you're going to dump me, at least have the balls to do it over the phone!"
When my sis was in high school, her boyfriend started not returning calls as often and she had a difficult time getting hold of him. Finally she called his house and when his sister picked up, left a message with her to tell him that it was over.
When my sis was in high school, her boyfriend started not returning calls as often and she had a difficult time getting hold of him. Finally she called his house and when his sister picked up, left a message with her to tell him that it was over.
Perhaps you should divide that into public and private break-ups. There just isn't anything more satisfying that a big noisy public break-up, preferable witnessed by a large group of strangers.
Ooh that's even worse than having someone break up with your voice mail. Having a family member deliver the message. That should probably be 3b on the above list.
I was once told by a friend that he was seeing this girl. I thought I was seeing the girl. She didn't tell me, and didn't tell him she was seeing anyone.
I was too pissed to be sad about that breakup.
To me, breakups are embarrassing enough no matter what side you're on, and I wouldn't want to do one in public.
I posted this on another dating thread but if this is the one we're using, might as well post it here:
I have a question about this. Do Dating sites, like OKCupid really have an impact, or are there better suggestions out there. At this point (Age 27), I'm interested in at least making more friends and seeing where that goes before I seriously consider dating. Also really want to improve my social life. I've heard about clubs and that stuff, and I am shy when it comes to meeting new people, so what would you guys suggest I do.
Oh, and I am still currently looking for work at the moment as well. I'm just tired of feeling like I'm alone all the time and what that social aspect of what happened on the 4th of july or last week at my family camp to continue more.
I have a question about this. Do Dating sites, like OKCupid really have an impact, or are there better suggestions out there. At this point (Age 27), I'm interested in at least making more friends and seeing where that goes before I seriously consider dating. Also really want to improve my social life. I've heard about clubs and that stuff, and I am shy when it comes to meeting new people, so what would you guys suggest I do.
Oh, and I am still currently looking for work at the moment as well. I'm just tired of feeling like I'm alone all the time and what that social aspect of what happened on the 4th of july or last week at my family camp to continue more.
There are a lot of dating sites. They all have their positives and drawbacks. They all have different kinds of people.
Personally, I swear by OKCupid. It has the best rating system I've seen and the kinds of women I've met there tend to be more compatible with me. It is a more "alternative" kind of crowd and I think might be a good fit for a lot of people here.
Most dating sites also have options to meet people just as "friends," so there's no expectation of anything romantic.
Personally, I swear by OKCupid. It has the best rating system I've seen and the kinds of women I've met there tend to be more compatible with me. It is a more "alternative" kind of crowd and I think might be a good fit for a lot of people here.
Most dating sites also have options to meet people just as "friends," so there's no expectation of anything romantic.
Picture her standing no more than three feet away the entire time nagging and criticising endlessly.
Urgh, don't get me started, that's how my last girlfriend broke up
Really? Here's how I see the scale of break-up methods, from "best" to "worst":
1. Face-to-face. Really, this is ideal, but sometimes not gonna happen.
2. Video chat. Don't we love this age of Interwebs? Now you can see someone's face as you dump them and then disconnect when they start to cry.
3. Phone. If you can't do it face-to-face, at least do it by voice.
4. Text message or email. Not at all classy, but hey, at least you sent it to them personally.
5. Facebook status or Twitter post. Extra points if it's public and everyone sees it. Congratulations, you're an asshole.
6. Removing relationship status from Facebook without saying anything. Wow. You must've been a joy to be with.
7. Not saying anything at all, just ignoring phone calls, texts, emails, and knocks at your door. Fuck you.
(Snail mail letters excluded because, let's face it, who does that anymore?)
My ex girlfriend had her mother break up with me for her. That was... awkward. And we were both 22 at the time, so it's not like we were children. I'm wondering where that fits in on the list.
Chloe.
Urgh, don't get me started, that's how my last girlfriend broke up
Really? Here's how I see the scale of break-up methods, from "best" to "worst":
1. Face-to-face. Really, this is ideal, but sometimes not gonna happen.
2. Video chat. Don't we love this age of Interwebs? Now you can see someone's face as you dump them and then disconnect when they start to cry.
3. Phone. If you can't do it face-to-face, at least do it by voice.
4. Text message or email. Not at all classy, but hey, at least you sent it to them personally.
5. Facebook status or Twitter post. Extra points if it's public and everyone sees it. Congratulations, you're an asshole.
6. Removing relationship status from Facebook without saying anything. Wow. You must've been a joy to be with.
7. Not saying anything at all, just ignoring phone calls, texts, emails, and knocks at your door. Fuck you.
(Snail mail letters excluded because, let's face it, who does that anymore?)
My ex girlfriend had her mother break up with me for her. That was... awkward. And we were both 22 at the time, so it's not like we were children. I'm wondering where that fits in on the list.
I totally forgot about the "proxy breakup." I'd put it between 3 and 4, I think.
That's really what I'm looking for at this point. I've signed up and give it some time and see out it goes. Still, anything to improve myself socially at this point is a good thing I guess.
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