^ Hm, I actually do see what you're saying. Possibly, Supergirl's writers --always well and honestly intentioned, rarely nuanced or subtle -- could have handled it better. Still, I invite you to give the speech the benefit of the doubt, and to give Nia a little more sympathy. Clumsy or not, the point was not that she was denying James's perspective, but merely expressing her own, from her own very personal experience. It's possible to say, "This is what I feel," without necessarily saying, "You've never felt this."