Role reversal

[An Officer]

Inspired by Gaith and the "I want to get married" topic...

How do men feel about women handing over their number, unasked? Imagine a woman approaches you out of the blue, tells you she likes you and wants to get to know you better, then hands over her phone number. Is it a "dear god, thank you" moment, or does it take the fun out? That is, assuming you were interested in the woman in the first place.

Have you, as a man, or a woman, had experience of this happening? And if so, how did it turn out? Did it make any difference to how the romance played out? Is a woman more interesting to you when you've had to chase her? Is their an equal thrill in having a woman pursue you?

 

[Amaris]

Inspired by Gaith and the "I want to get married" topic...

How do men feel about women handing over their number, unasked? Imagine a woman approaches you out of the blue, tells you she likes you and wants to get to know you better, then hands over her phone number. Is it a "dear god, thank you" moment, or does it take the fun out? That is, assuming you were interested in the woman in the first place.

Have you, as a man, or a woman, had experience of this happening? And if so, how did it turn out? Did it make any difference to how the romance played out? Is a woman more interesting to you when you've had to chase her? Is their an equal thrill in having a woman pursue you?

It sounds like fun. I have no problems asking or being asked. Someone asks me out and gives me their number? They've probably been drinking heavily. That aside, it would be fun, at least to me. It has happened before.

 

[Shatnertage]

This sort of thing has happened to me before...mostly with guys, but sometimes with women. It's usually flattering, and I pursued things further with a few of the women--though not all of them.

These days, of course, I'd bring my left hand up to my face, not-so-discreetly flashing my wedding ring, and then a bit more discreetly mention in the ensuing conversation that me and my wife are going on a very exciting trip this weekend.

 

[Gaith]

How do men feel about women handing over their number, unasked? Imagine a woman approaches you out of the blue, tells you she likes you and wants to get to know you better, then hands over her phone number. Is it a "dear god, thank you" moment, or does it take the fun out? That is, assuming you were interested in the woman in the first place.

Assuming that, I would be a tad wary/suspicious, as I'm not the most hunky guy, but would also be much more flattered and excited. I'd accept the number graciously and follow SOP from there, Prime Directive of Dating Females and all.

I further don't think it'd detract from the fun one iota, any more than porn can be more fulfilling than actual sex with a not-unattractive woman, just because both adhere to a certain old-fashioned script (though I realize some guys do have trouble with both of these points).

 

[Goji]

I would not for a second believe that they were being genuine. I would probably say thanks and then try and get out of there as quickly as I could.

 

[Australis]

I did have a moment like that where I was caught out and didn't know what to say. A girl I worked with, funny, lively, got on well with her, but I thought it was just... well a work friendship, until she says to me one day, "You know, if you ever split up with your wife, let ,e know, it could be good." I mean, what do you say to that?

 

[Kestra]

I did have a moment like that where I was caught out and didn't know what to say. A girl I worked with, funny, lively, got on well with her, but I thought it was just... well a work friendship, until she says to me one day, "You know, if you ever split up with your wife, let ,e know, it could be good." I mean, what do you say to that?

I'd tell them that it was inappropriate and that saying things like that made me uncomfortable, but I'm a bit harsh in that regard.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I did have a moment like that where I was caught out and didn't know what to say. A girl I worked with, funny, lively, got on well with her, but I thought it was just... well a work friendship, until she says to me one day, "You know, if you ever split up with your wife, let ,e know, it could be good." I mean, what do you say to that?

Threesome.

 

[MetalPants]

It has always been fun when a woman pursues me.

When it comes to this whole romance thing, I am pretty oblivious. I had one girl from one of my college classes just one day give me her number and ask me out for lunch. Another girl, we had been friends for a while and I thought our flirting had been just in jest until the day she grabbed my dick and said it belonged to her.

 

[MANT!]

It happened once..(I was unmarried at the time) I called her later and I found we had NOTHING in common...I dated her a few times, but NO spark... and we gradually dropped out of touch...

When it happened, I was estatic but wary...hence my cautious actions...

 

[Balrog]

Yes, I experienced this.

I married her!

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I'm not bothered by a woman making the first move. Either way's fine with me, though I am usually the initiator.

 

[Kirkman1987]

I have no problem with women pursuing me. I got out of my relationship a few weeks ago, and figured it would be hard to start the dating thing again. To my suprise, a few of my female friends have been swarming me since they found out.

 

[archeryguy1701]

In general, I think it would be a big relief for me. I've never been particularly good at the whole concept of courting/ pursuing, so if a girl were to make the first move and express interest from the get-go, I would absolutely be ok with it. Otherwise, I'm usually stuck guessing, wondering, and in most cases, screwing up.

 

[Sector 7]

FWIW, I have only ever asked one person out... and she said, "You are like a brother to me," then asked me to help her win over my best friend. Hey, I was only 14. Other than that, THEY have always asked ME out. I don't think I'd really know how... sad, huh? When I really fall for someone I become shy... ME!! The guy who is always outgoing turns into a shy wallflower when I have a crush on someone.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Being rather introverted, most of the dates or encounters I've had were initiated by the woman. It's almost always been somebody I already knew at work or through friends. The only time I was approached by a woman I didn't know was at a skating rink when I was a teenager-- and I was with someone. I have been approached by several men at the supermarket, though.

 

[Listener4]

I have no problem with a women being the initiator. And although I dislike talking on the phone, if someone made her interest that obvious, and I was interested, I might pursue it.

 

[scotpens]

. . . Imagine a woman approaches you out of the blue, tells you she likes you and wants to get to know you better, then hands over her phone number. . . Have you, as a man, or a woman, had experience of this happening?

To quote Kylie Minogue: I should be so lucky.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

To quote me: I wish Kylie Minogue would give me her number.

 

[captcalhoun]

i'd be happy, if she was attractive or at least, not a total moose.

then i'd probably start getting paranoid and suspicous and wonder if it was a con.

then i'd probably try getting to know her and seeing if she was genuine before i committed to a date.