Relationships, people and what makes them tick

[rhubarbodendron]

It's not the looks that matter, as they last only a few years. A Bavarian proverb sums it up rather brutally: beauty dies, acre abides. Not that I'd agree with that - wealth isn't important. Nice to have it, though.
A pretty face may be the first thing that attracts us but - at least as far as I am concerned - the most attractive part of human anatomy in any gender is the brain.

 

[PureCrimson]

It's always been my experience that if you work as friends, offline or on, then a real relationship is more than possible.

Other factors include willingness to expand past that and so many other things, but it's a good baseline gauge.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

Money talks

But it don't sing and dance, and it don't walk.

 

[Pondwater]

Come on, come on, love me for the money...come on, come on, listen to the money talk.

 

[SPCTRE]

To this day, I know so many people who live by "opposites attract". [...]

In my experience, opposites may attract but it is similarities that keep you together.

The studies that I have seen seem to conclude that similarities increase longterm relationship viability, so I'd say science agrees with you (me too, by the way).

Tend your own garden. Complete yourself and then share because you want to, not because you have to.

I think this is very good advice for people who are interested in having meaningful relationships.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

I have a question. Where in the world do you even go to meet people anymore? You don't want to get involved with someone at work so does that mean it all comes down to bars and the internet? What if you don't like to going to bars or clubs?

Fellow bar/club loather reporting in . I meet people in the park, particularly when they are walking dogs (I grew up with dogs and befriend every one I meet which immediately gets me into a chat with their owners). Then there are evening classes and lectures: a good chance to meet people with similar interests. Long travels are also a good way to get to know people. Nobody can sit in a train or plane for hours without exchanging at least a few remarks with his neighbour.
While concerts, libraries, cinemas or theatres are not suitable for making contact (being environments that require silence), exhibitions are a nice way to make acquaintances, particularly if you attend a vernissage/opening night (more people than during normal opening hours, relaxed party-like atmosphere, people being supposed to discuss the artwork).

 

[BillJ]

Don't be afraid to allow each other their own space and life. Also, think through arguments. I always ask myself if an argument is worth whatever has agitated me in a particular moment.

Great sex also helps!

Our 25th wedding anniversary is in October.

 

[1001001]

Don't be afraid to allow each other their own space and life.

"The spaces in between
Leave room for you and I to grow"
- Rush

Our 25th wedding anniversary is in October.

Cheers!


26 in May.

 

[Australis]

Where in the world do you even go to meet people anymore?

I think I know why...

I have no interest in getting laid.

Also I assume many people here have been in multiple realtionships over their lives. Did they find something they loved differently in each seperate romance?

Big assumption. Many people I know have had only one relationship, including myself.

 

[Marynator]

The most important relationships in our lives are not always romantic. Our soul-mate may not even be a spouse.

That's something I really like about the movie "Love, Actually": how it explores various different types of loving relationships (of course most are romantic). I have come to accept that I will end up like Laura Linney's character, and I am alright with that. I think we can find happiness by self-examination, knowing what we really need and want and then finding that in life. It won't be the same for everyone.

I have seen so many people, especially some close family members, live very miserable lives because they are chasing something that isn't for them (because of societal pressure usually).

 

[Haido]

I believe relationships happen for a reason. I never planned any of mine after I was dumped. If it happens, it happens. But there are some factors that would influence my decision. For instance, I couldnt see myself being with anybody who is cruel to animals or is a complete jerk. There are more in depth reasons I won’t mention because i’m a little buzzed right now. I guess it depends on different people and their preferences in a person.