Relationship Status

[RAMA]

I live in one of the least populated areas of NJ

This isn't exactly like saying you live in one of the least populated areas of, say, Algeria, you understand...

If you travel 40 miles North from here, they think my area is basically jungles, seagulls, and ocean. They are mostly right.

RAMA

 

[TrekkieMonster]

So far, I think I am the only widower in the crowd. It was not legal for us to marry, but when he died I still lost my soulmate. Had he not been killed by a distracted driver, we would have had a life long relationship.

That just makes me shudder, and I don't even know the appropriate thing to say to you, except I'm sorry, which I know is so incredibly inadequate.

Married for 13 1/2 years; 6 1/2 legally (I'm one of teh geyz, so we have 2 anniversaries.) Together for almost 19 years.

But I'm, ya know, sort of a black sheep; cuz we all know "my kind" are nothing but promiscuous sluts who can't commit.

I must be a black sheep, too. When I was in a relationship, I never had the desire to look to someone else. I look around at so many gay guys who are sluts and cheaters... and am just not interested. I have always been relationship oriented.

There was a time when it seemed all the gay guys (and gals, for that matter) I knew fit into that categaory, too. Funny thing is, these days, the great majority of the gay men and lesbians I know are in long-term monogamous relationships - may of them with kids. If you looked at a written description of "a day in the life" of most of us, you would be hard pressed to distinguish us from any random suburban (or urban) family with the 2.5 kids, the dog and mortgage.

What's happened to our edgy independence? We've all become so ... normal?!?!

I am going to have sex with my wife in a shower tonight. Then I will snuggle up next to her all night in bed, because I love her more than anything.

Braggart.

 

[kitkat]

I am going to have sex with my wife in a shower tonight. Then I will snuggle up next to her all night in bed, because I love her more than anything.

Niiiiiiiice. Maybe I'll try to be in the shower when my hubby gets home tonight...see what happens....

 

[iguana_tonante]

Not a fan of sex in the shower. It's slippery and you'll end up with a concussion. The kitchen table, on the other hand...

 

[bigdaddy]

Not a fan of sex in the shower. It's slippery and you'll end up with a concussion.

I think your partner needs to teach you the ways of the shower.

 

[bigdaddy]

Not a fan of sex in the shower. It's slippery and you'll end up with a concussion. The kitchen table, on the other hand...

And TrekkieMonster, if you have 2.5 kids I suggest looking for the other half. :-p

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

^ It's not easy for me to find places to meet girls.

Not with that attitude.

Explain.

 

[iguana_tonante]

I think your partner needs to teach you the ways of the shower.

We are both pretty clumsy sometimes, tripping on our feet and bumping against doors... Maybe we just need more protections, but not of the usual kind!

 

[kitkat]

Not a fan of sex in the shower. It's slippery and you'll end up with a concussion. The kitchen table, on the other hand...

Ah yes, good one too. We have a better kitchen table now than we did when we got married too (that thing wobbled like a weeble)...much less likely to topple over.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

Not a fan of sex in the shower. It's slippery and you'll end up with a concussion. The kitchen table, on the other hand...

It also washes away the natural lubrication which is not so good.

 

[Roshi]

Fucked.

 

[RoJoHen]

I think its about attitude..because everyone who thinks what you do here basically is saying the same thing. When you have that mental outlook you're really not going to find much. I live in one of the least populated areas of NJ, and I could find 25 girls in about a day that I'd want to date, and maybe out of that number 1 or 2 would be relationship material. You get out of it what you put into it.

But where are you meeting these girls? I don't even encounter 25 people throughout the day, let alone girls I'd want to date. Maybe there's some crazy social scene that I'm missing out on, but I honestly don't even know where I would go about meeting that many people in a day.

 

[Squiggy]

^ It's not easy for me to find places to meet girls.

Not with that attitude.

Explain.

If you really wanted to date, then you'd find a way. There are tons of places to meet women. Match.com (where I met my love), Yankee Stadium, hell...a bar.

You're never going to find your wife if you're not going to get out there. Take it from me. I used to whine and bitch and moan about never finding anyone. It took me getting out of radio to realize how easy it was!

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I think its about attitude..because everyone who thinks what you do here basically is saying the same thing. When you have that mental outlook you're really not going to find much. I live in one of the least populated areas of NJ, and I could find 25 girls in about a day that I'd want to date, and maybe out of that number 1 or 2 would be relationship material. You get out of it what you put into it.

But where are you meeting these girls? I don't even encounter 25 people throughout the day, let alone girls I'd want to date. Maybe there's some crazy social scene that I'm missing out on, but I honestly don't even know where I would go about meeting that many people in a day.

They're called bars, nightclubs, and family reunions.

 

[RoJoHen]

I think its about attitude..because everyone who thinks what you do here basically is saying the same thing. When you have that mental outlook you're really not going to find much. I live in one of the least populated areas of NJ, and I could find 25 girls in about a day that I'd want to date, and maybe out of that number 1 or 2 would be relationship material. You get out of it what you put into it.

But where are you meeting these girls? I don't even encounter 25 people throughout the day, let alone girls I'd want to date. Maybe there's some crazy social scene that I'm missing out on, but I honestly don't even know where I would go about meeting that many people in a day.

They're called bars, nightclubs, and family reunions.

You clearly aren't from around here.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

But where are you meeting these girls? I don't even encounter 25 people throughout the day, let alone girls I'd want to date. Maybe there's some crazy social scene that I'm missing out on, but I honestly don't even know where I would go about meeting that many people in a day.

They're called bars, nightclubs, and family reunions.

You clearly aren't from around here.

Where are you? Don't feel bad that I don't know, I don't remember most things.

(The "family reunions" bit was also a joke, but I hope everyone knew that.)

 

[RoJoHen]

On the border of Illinois and Iowa. We have lots of bars, but most of them are small and full of gross townies. We don't really have anything I would consider a nightclub.

I see you and RAMA are both from Jersey. Actually, the one time I was out east, my buddy and I went out and were amazed at how attractive the girls were compared to back home.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

It's true. I'm dating a Jersey girl. I'm in so much trouble.

I'm not from New Jersey, it's kind of weird.

 

[RoJoHen]

It was actually mind-boggling how hot the girls were out east. We went out one night in Boston (we took a roadtrip across the east coast) and within 5 minutes each of us had been pulled aside by two separate bachelorette parties! It was crazy. I can actually see how it would be easier to find attractive girls.

We just don't have them here.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I feel your pain, bro. The best thing I can suggest is maybe look for activity groups--local clubs or something. You could always check Craigslist for that sort of thing.

Also, I know people have mixed results with it, but I met this girl on OKCupid. There won't be as many people in your area but it might be worth a shot.