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Question of the Day: Are you "truly" happy in your life?

As for me, I'm content. Although I could wish for things to be better, like having a decent job with health coverage, and a soulmate to look up to.

So ... other than no money, no job, no health coverage and no love, you're okay?

Write a book about that and you'll make a fortune. (Of course it will be in the fiction section, though ...)

--Ted
 
Pretty much so. Yeah, there's always little tweaks one can/should do to bring more happiness to their lives, but by and large I'm happy.

I'd be happier, though, if I had more time to enjoy leisurely pursuits. But you play the cards you're dealt.
 
^ If that's the case, why do I keep getting "Joker" and "Rules for Playing Stud Poker"? :lol:


J.
 
Yes. I'm on sort of a "life high" right now. Things have really been looking up for me these days and I'm incredibly thankful for everything I have.
 
J, Good to see you are a fighter, I am also. You know you don't fail till you quit, and your still hanging in there. Oh by the way, I liked your (not being computer literate, I don't know what to call it, so please bear with me, okay?) picture that flashed and changes the saying on the side of your post, it was great. I am new here and from the U.S. Silvana
 
As for me, I'm content. Although I could wish for things to be better, like having a decent job with health coverage, and a soulmate to look up to.

So ... other than no money, no job, no health coverage and no love, you're okay?

Write a book about that and you'll make a fortune. (Of course it will be in the fiction section, though ...)

--Ted
TG, your idea was great, I see only one problem. Where does he get the money to publish the book? It is quite expensive to do. Silvana
 
As for me, I'm content. Although I could wish for things to be better, like having a decent job with health coverage, and a soulmate to look up to.

So ... other than no money, no job, no health coverage and no love, you're okay?

Write a book about that and you'll make a fortune. (Of course it will be in the fiction section, though ...)

--Ted
TG, your idea was great, I see only one problem. Where does he get the money to publish the book? It is quite expensive to do. Silvana
Spartacus,
you must never give up hope on a soul mate, or anything else, as things can change in a moment. . You have not failed till you quit, and my moto is, never quit. Remember failure is success turned inside out, so you must never quit. In the words of a good friend of mine who is usually right, This too shall pass. My best, Silvana
 
Re: I think what Edward James Olmos , is doing is Great!!

I have been reading how Edward James Olmos, is going after Shane Senter , a man who sold tickets to a JumpConConvention, featuring many actors, and then, after selling the ticket to people all over the U.S., Shane Senter cancelled all 13 Conventions, in different states, without refunding people:eek::shifty:. Edward James Olmos is now going after him legally, that man you have to admire, he is a fighter:techman:. Edward James Olmos was the first actor who stepped up to the plate and said how he felt. Edward James Olmos, has my vote:bolian:. He is concerned for what Shane Senter did to the actors but, he is also concerned for the fans too, who lost money:bolian::). Any thoughts on Edward James Olmos? I think he is a GREAT man. Silvana
 
^^ Hi, Silvana. Welcome to TrekBBS and thanks for Posting. Please remember to not Post more than twice in a row. You can use the Edit button to combine your Posts. Thank you. :)
 
If I was truly happy, I'd have achieved everything I wanted to achieve, have no further aspirations in life, no drive, no means or willingness to improve myself or my lot, and I'd be content with everything there is. In that case, the only thing to look forward to therefore is death.
Actually, the thing to look forward to at that point is immortality, so you can bask in True Happiness forever. :D
That's the pitfall of Immortality: True Happiness™ would give way to True Boredom™ very quickly, though. The only way I'd get any form of kick by that point would be to travel the Universe and insult everyone - individually, personally, and in alphabetical order. :bolian:
 
^ :lol:

Happiness doesn't have to be connected to getting things or being somebody. What if you never get there? Then you would never have been happy. Someone could be happy cleaning a toilet, why not? It doesn't mean that's what they always wanted, of course... My point is, I would think happiness would allow you to enjoy most things, even when doing something mundane and repetitive, and so, boredom would never come into the equation. Your mind would always be alive and appreciative.
 
I think I've mentioned this before, but one of my favourite episodes of TV is the finale to Frasier's first season. It's a remarkably layered episode with lots of subtext, done in real-time, but put simply, Frasier gets asked repeatedly: "are you happy?"

Simple question, and one at the heart of psychiatry, which is why I loved seeing the exploration in the episode.

After lots of twists and turns, Frasier ends the episode by saying: "you know, in the greater scheme... yes, I'd say I am."

I'd be "happy" to use this as my answer to the OP's question too.
 
As for me, I'm content. Although I could wish for things to be better, like having a decent job with health coverage, and a soulmate to look up to.

So ... other than no money, no job, no health coverage and no love, you're okay?

Write a book about that and you'll make a fortune. (Of course it will be in the fiction section, though ...)


--Ted


First of all I'd like to thank everyone for their responses and participation in this thread.

I'm okay in the sense that I'm not in any kind of serious financial trouble, even though I've been laid off for three months (I was qualified for EI insurance). Since coming out of college four years ago, I've had steady work in a manufacturing plant and living with my folks made it substantially easier for me to save a decent middle-class income, so I did. The experience I was getting combined with full health benefits and bonuses, and working with fine people was good times. It wasn't long before the economies wrath affected and deprived our company's second shift and me along with it.

Having lost a good job enabled me more time to myself than ever before for leisure and the like. This new way of life is refreshing from the constant overtime with machines and tools, so in a way I'm content. I can't let joblessness make me miserable. Am I concerned if I'll ever find something? Yes, of course. We all need to do something. We can weather the storm - the crippled economy, I'm sure we'll make it, and make it we will.

Back to my original question about happiness, I was referring to the ultimate "true" state of happiness. Now whatever that is, is subject to different interpretation and meaning to each individual. To me it’s when you have a perfect union between two lovers sharing a common purpose in life, and experiencing the world together. That is true happiness to me. Perhaps I should write a book about it like Ted suggested. ;)


So ... other than no money, no job, no health coverage and no love, you're okay?

Write a book about that and you'll make a fortune. (Of course it will be in the fiction section, though ...)

--Ted

TG, your idea was great, I see only one problem. Where does he get the money to publish the book? It is quite expensive to do. Silvana

Spartacus,
you must never give up hope on a soul mate, or anything else, as things can change in a moment. . You have not failed till you quit, and my moto is, never quit. Remember failure is success turned inside out, so you must never quit. In the words of a good friend of mine who is usually right, This too shall pass. My best, Silvana

Most kind, Silvana - thank you. I'll never give up on this hope for anything, as anyone out there should never.
 
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Am I happy? No, not really. All of my plans are up in air--everything I want to do, plan to do with my life--and my life with my husband--are in a holding pattern until we know whether or not we can adopt. I can't make plans or even say for certain what my life will be like next year or even next month.

This waiting is driving me crazy. I wish they'd let us know, one way or another. If we're accepted, then we can start the very long process and at least get it underway. If not---well, then I can get on with my life and at least try to accept it, instead of clinging to some false hope.

Not knowing is the worst.
 
J, Good to see you are a fighter, I am also. You know you don't fail till you quit, and your still hanging in there. Oh by the way, I liked your (not being computer literate, I don't know what to call it, so please bear with me, okay?) picture that flashed and changes the saying on the side of your post, it was great. I am new here and from the U.S. Silvana

Hello Silvana, thank you. You are right, you don't fail until you quit, and I don't know the meaning of the word. Well, okay, I do, but I choose not to comprehend its meaning. :D

Thank you for the compliment. That little flashing picture is called an avatar, and I am fickle in how often I put a new one up, but this is one of my favorites, updated for the way we live today.

Oh, and welcome to the board. :)

Am I happy? No, not really. All of my plans are up in air--everything I want to do, plan to do with my life--and my life with my husband--are in a holding pattern until we know whether or not we can adopt. I can't make plans or even say for certain what my life will be like next year or even next month.

This waiting is driving me crazy. I wish they'd let us know, one way or another. If we're accepted, then we can start the very long process and at least get it underway. If not---well, then I can get on with my life and at least try to accept it, instead of clinging to some false hope.

Not knowing is the worst.

You just keep holding on, Auntiehill (I almost typed out sweetheart. If I do that in the future, please forgive me in advance and I don't mean to offend, as I sometimes use terms of endearment for people I care about or people I wish to comfort.)

You and your husband's time will come. For whatever it's worth, I'm praying that your adoption proceedings happen quickly and you get to bring someone very special into your lives.

J.
 
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