It's ALL "real" (or none of it is "real"--depends on one's point of view). Trek is like ice cream--comes in many flavours and individuals often prefer one or a few over the whole range. Nothing wrong with that. But just as pistachio ice cream (despite my utter loathing of it) remains "real ice cream", any and all officially produced Trek is "real Trek".
Try expressing it in terms of flavours you enjoy more (or less) rather than "real Trek" vs. "whatever flavour I don't like so it isn't 'real'". Leads to much less angst and sniping.
Nicely put. And, along the same lines, there's no such thing as "real" STAR TREK fans versus fans who prefer different flavors of Trek.