Sparky, my heart goes out to you.
My Dad needs Mojo
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So sorry to hear. My good thoughts and mojo are still on your way to you and your family. You will find the way. Give you wife an extra hug as she sounds a wonder.
Remember the good. And breathe.
Remember the good. And breathe.
Sorry to hear this.
Well, it's all over now. My father passed away Monday January 23rd at 245pm MST. He died like he wanted, at home. We were all around him. My mother was sitting on the bed next to him, I was lying on the bed next to him holding him when he passed. My brother was holding his head.
It was very peaceful. We all just knew on Monday that it was time. We took turns holding his hand and telling him that it was ok to go to sleep and rest. We would be ok, the fight was over and he deserved to sleep now. We spent our time telling him our memories of what we did together. I read him some stories out of the newspaper, and my mom and I tried to read him the comics (comics are hard to read to someone fyi.)
I am tired now. night all.
It was very peaceful. We all just knew on Monday that it was time. We took turns holding his hand and telling him that it was ok to go to sleep and rest. We would be ok, the fight was over and he deserved to sleep now. We spent our time telling him our memories of what we did together. I read him some stories out of the newspaper, and my mom and I tried to read him the comics (comics are hard to read to someone fyi.)
I am tired now. night all.
My condolences to you and your family, Sparky. 
My condolences to your family.
Oh, Sparky!
For some reason, I didn't even see your thread, and now I read it all at once. And now I am in tears. Please accept my deepest condolences.
It all read so familiar. Almost five years ago, my father went into the hospital, not feeling well, and ten days later he was gone. Cancer swept through in a matter of weeks when he was only at "monitor-level" before. And we went through the same roller coaster with the doctors. God! I miss him so much!!!
If you ever want, feel free to pm me.
Again, my deepest and warmest thoughts to you.
For some reason, I didn't even see your thread, and now I read it all at once. And now I am in tears. Please accept my deepest condolences.
It all read so familiar. Almost five years ago, my father went into the hospital, not feeling well, and ten days later he was gone. Cancer swept through in a matter of weeks when he was only at "monitor-level" before. And we went through the same roller coaster with the doctors. God! I miss him so much!!!
If you ever want, feel free to pm me.
Again, my deepest and warmest thoughts to you.
My condolences to you and your family, Sparky.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Sparky.
Nowhere Man
Commodore
Don't worry about the odds, just keep plugging away. You know who else ignored the odds, this guy.
Kirk: I take it the odds are against us in a situation this grim.
Picard: You could say that.
Kirk: You know, if Spock were here, he'd say that I was an irrational, illogical human being by taking on a mission like that. Sounds like fun!
Saavik: Permission to speak freely, sir?
Kirk: Granted.
Saavik: I do not believe this was a fair test of my command abilities.
Kirk: And why not?
Saavik: Because... there was no way to win.
Kirk: A no-win situation is a possibility every commander may face. Has that never occurred to you?
Saavik: No, sir, it has not.
Kirk: And how we deal with death is at least as important as how we deal with life, wouldn't you say?
Saavik: As I indicated, Admiral, that thought had not occurred to me.
Kirk: Well, now you have something new to think about. Carry on.
Saavik: Admiral, may I ask you a question?
Kirk: What's on your mind, Lieutenant?
Saavik: The Kobayashi Maru, sir.
Kirk: Are you asking me if we're playing out that scenario now?
Saavik: On the test, sir... will you tell me what you did? I would really like to know.
McCoy: Lieutenant, you are looking at the only Starfleet cadet who ever beat the no-win scenario.
Saavik: How?
Kirk: I reprogrammed the simulation so it was possible to rescue the ship.
Saavik: What?
David Marcus: He cheated.
Kirk: I changed the conditions of the test; got a commendation for original thinking. I don't like to lose.
Saavik: Then you never faced that situation... faced death.
Kirk: I don't believe in the no-win scenario.
Edit: Oops, I had not seen that your dad had passed. Sorry. Both of my parents died of cancer. My mom died of breast cancer in 09' and my dad of lung cancer in 87'. I was eight when he died and wasn't in the hospital.
I was able to spend time with my mom in her home the last two days of her life. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. Her liver was failing and she was all yellow. She had oxygen in her nose and looked bad. I held her hand and talked to her the whole time. My family was there too. The nurse said she couldn't see, but could hear. I sat there for several hours and just told her all the things I always wanted to and comforted her until she took her last breath. I was devastated and I felt like, "what now, how will I go on." It sucked, but I felt good because I was there. Think of all of the loved ones who die in car wrecks or whatever and you don't even get to say goodbye. You probably feel like the world is crashing in front of you, but all of this will pass. It will get better and easier to deal with. Things won't be the same though, holiday's will change, but you just gotta realize that other people will carry the memory of your dad on and they will share the burden of grief. It's not yours alone. Also, remember, people grieve in different ways, don't get mad if they are not acting in a way you think they should. I had to learn this the hard way. Sorry for your loss.
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^The price of admission is way too steep.
Yep. I want a refund.
It's hard right now, and I'm sure the magnitute of the loss will hit me in the weeks and months to come. But honestly I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. His death was inevitable. We all "knew" this, but we were always holding out hope for the miraculous recovery...right up until the end. I won't patronize anyone anymore by saying "at least you knew". It's not a comfort. It's still just as devastating.
He died as a shell of the man that he was. My father's body died on Monday the 23rd, but who he was died before that.
I cannot ever express how much he meant to me. He would take up every post in every forum. Every site on the internet. Those of you who are unfortunate enough to be in the club know what I mean.
His favourite story to tell us was when he was 4. He lived on the Air Force base in Calgary. He loved planes, so he always wanted to get closer but he was always turned away. One day he was on a tricycle and he tried it again. No one stopped him, he pedalled towards that plane as fast as his little feet could take him. He got up to the foot of the plane when the MP's found him. They proceeded to "chase" him home while he pedalled his ass home as fast as he could.
He always loved to tell us that story. It was the last thing I told him. I told him to keep pedalling towards those planes.
Amen to that, brother. Even when you think you are prepared for it, it's still devastating to you. Yes, knowing ahead of time that it is going to happen makes it easier to deal with, but not by the degree of magnitude that people seem to think that it does.
Oh, and Sparky, any time you want to talk, feel free to shoot me a PM. We're on the same road, man. It's been six weeks, and there has not been a day that has gone by that I haven't thought about him and had that bring a tear to my eye.
Sparky I am so sorry to read this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I will hit hard off and on for the rest of your like. The frequency will lessen, and the coping skills will improve. But a void is a void, unlike the laws of physics, it will remain. I hope you and yours find the good memories outweighing the bad very soon. One day you will head to bed and realize, you didn't morn that day, that will be sad, but that will mean you are getting on. Find it in your own time.
I will hit hard off and on for the rest of your like. The frequency will lessen, and the coping skills will improve. But a void is a void, unlike the laws of physics, it will remain. I hope you and yours find the good memories outweighing the bad very soon. One day you will head to bed and realize, you didn't morn that day, that will be sad, but that will mean you are getting on. Find it in your own time.
