A lot of the negativity surrounding Nemesis had to do with things surrounding it. I can only speak for myself, but this was my train of thought back in 2002: Rick Berman needed to go, Insurrection halted any momentum First Contact built up for the TNG Movies, I stopped watching Star Trek three years earlier, and I was more interested in seeing the new James Bond, Harry Potter, and Lord of the Rings movies that month. "Oh, yeah, and then there's Nemesis... " So I went in not expecting much and my opinion was pretty much a foregone conclusion. Then the film tanked so badly, it put and end to the Star Trek movies. And I thought to myself, "Even though TNG isn't my favorite Star Trek series, it deserved to go out better than this!" I didn't bother to watch the movie again until 2010. I treated Nemesis like the Batman & Robin of Star Trek. So when the 2009 Film came around, I was hoping it would like like Star Trek's Batman Begins. I know I'm not the only one here who saw things that way.I'm surprised at all the people putting it below Nemesis!
By the way, if anyone's wondering about whether it'll make it easier to eventually count up the results if they stick to the exact format used in the original post, the answer's 'yes'.
Fast forward to today and none of those external things matter anymore. Rick Berman's gone. Those other franchises I've mentioned have ended or moved on. Star Trek is back. TNG got another shot. And now, when I watch it, it's more like, "Ehh, it's just another Star Trek movie." Which is better than "This is the one that ended it all!"
With Into Darkness, Kirk's really immature, which is part of his character arc but doesn't mean I love it, we've got a Khan who doesn't feel like Khan, a lot of constant non-stop action, over-emotional Spock, they kept doing callbacks to TWOK which didn't make Into Darkness look favorable in comparison, and Admiral Marcus does nothing for me. What I don't like about Into Darkness has to do with the film itself. What I didn't like about Nemesis had to do with external factors that have nothing to do with the actual film itself, but things surrounding it.
By the way, having once been a "Hater" myself during the waning days of the Berman Era, I can call "Haters" today on what they're doing with Kurtzman Trek. I know how they think, because I used to be one of them. If you go in not wanting to like something, or not expecting to, you're not going in with an open mind, and you'll end up with a self-fulfilling prophecy of thinking, "This sucks!"