@trampledamage, can a user on here do this?
I was under the impression such "friendly reminders" by a user, not a moderator is classified as an infrastructionable offence regardless of the intent is to be helpful.
Okay, so it's been longer than a couple of hours... (but on the upside I've finally got everything completed for my application to get Canadian citizenship and I posted that off today

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Right, so... friendly reminders, mini-modding, telling people what to do etc.
For me it's a matter of tone. Being a moderator gives me the authority to tell people what to do in this forum "don't post on this subject again", no-one else has that authority. Which means that people shouldn't have to deal with other people telling them what to do. However, a request can be made by other people, "hey, we're getting off topic here and it's making things confusing, please can we stick to discussing Morn's audiobook career?"
I realise that this can seem a pointless difference, if I'm the only one with the authority to tell people what to do, then anything from anybody else should be taken as a request. But it does make a difference to the emotional experience of the reader (yes, I was a fuzzy-wuzzy literature major, I do not have a scientific mind!).
Remember that everyone's here just to have fun discussing the books, so if there's something about what someone's talking about or their writing style that irritates you then just scroll on by and leave them alone. But if it's something that's really getting in the way of your ability to have fun, then you can make the request - or message me and ask me, if you think it's serious enough.
Obviously if someone says something that's against the general rules of society - slurs, for example - then notify me AND tell them to knock if off: because otherwise it remains unremarked on if I don't see the notification right away.
Sorry, I didn't realize this was that big of a deal. It just looked like people were getting kind of close to the line, and I just thought I'd speak up before someone stepped over it. It honestly didn't even occur to me that this could be against the rules.
Story ideas are a special case because they do need to be flagged and dealt with as soon as possible and also it's easy to cross the line into getting too specific in your ideas without realising it. So in the case of story ideas I positively encourage you all to point out to posters when it's possible they've written an idea in too specific terms - but you do need to be gentle, assume it's just a mistake, not that their being stupid.
@JD's post was acceptable in this context.
@Dimesdan I know you had a difficult experience with this when I first took over as moderator for this forum. I can't remember what it was now, but I do remember that I was basing my a lot of reaction on the other BBS moderators expectations and as I discovered, in your case they were incorrect (which made my very embarrassed and annoyed with my self). I hope this explanation gives you a better sense of how things stand now.
I'm open to further discussion, so post here if you have questions
