Argh! That sucks, man!
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I've been so irritated with certain people at work lately. This work friend of mine seems a bit hard to figure out. Some days she's acting warm and friendly, and today, like other days, I sensed she was avoiding me for some reason. I'm usually not the kind of person who plays mind games with others, so I just gave her the cold shoulder. But I still tried my best to stay positive, and most of my work interactions today stayed that way.
We also had a virtual department meeting, and my boss, without any warning, put me on the spot by asking some questions like, "Can you give us some updates on this ..." It bugged the hell out of me because I wasn't even on the agenda. It was a good thing I had the information I needed, but addressing a group like that, especially impromptu, could be quite uncomfortable.
I'm really looking forward to several days off next week to decompress.
We also had a virtual department meeting, and my boss, without any warning, put me on the spot by asking some questions like, "Can you give us some updates on this ..." It bugged the hell out of me because I wasn't even on the agenda. It was a good thing I had the information I needed, but addressing a group like that, especially impromptu, could be quite uncomfortable.
I'm really looking forward to several days off next week to decompress.
After having fruitlessly waited six weeks for the results of the blood test screening me for a genetic predisposition for thrombosis (as feminizing HRT carries an elevated risk of blood clots), I've instead received an e-mail from the clinic... informing me that despite the official medical diagnosis confirming that the treatment is medically necessary, my off-label medication application has been withheld, and they basically implied that all applications for gender-affirming medical treatments have been frozen indefinitely by direct order of the Ministry of Interior. The only thing they can do is ask for my patience as so many patients informed them of withheld treatments that they were forced to start legal proceedings and additionally begin looking for an out-of-country partner clinic that would be willing to issue international prescriptions; other than this, my only option is proving there's an immediate risk of self-harm if I don't receive treatment ASAP.
I don't really feel hopeful about my chances. The last time something like this happened in my country, it was with name and gender change applications; the Office of the Registrar shelved all of them for years doing nothing "pending new legal provisions", which basically amounted to waiting until the government banned the practice outright. Anybody who had an outstanding application submitted before the ban had to go through the entire legal system up to the European Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg, and there are still people who are receiving their new IDs just now after having requested them 5-6 years ago.
Best possible news I could receive literally the day before my birthday, truly.
I don't really feel hopeful about my chances. The last time something like this happened in my country, it was with name and gender change applications; the Office of the Registrar shelved all of them for years doing nothing "pending new legal provisions", which basically amounted to waiting until the government banned the practice outright. Anybody who had an outstanding application submitted before the ban had to go through the entire legal system up to the European Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg, and there are still people who are receiving their new IDs just now after having requested them 5-6 years ago.
Best possible news I could receive literally the day before my birthday, truly.
I'm so sorry! I hope you have a happy birthday as best you can.
Sorry to keep flooding the sub. I'm not getting any less depressed. And yet this weekend I have to somehow do yard work as it's the last for yard waste clean up. And deal with four more appointments for quotes. I was able to eat last night and binged the better portion of a large pizza. Then not eating really since. A little bread. I've done some CBT stuff and it hasn't helped.
This isn't life or limb, it's just money, and shame at being a victim of someone scamming me, but I just can't handle adversity with the cptsd and this is a lot of adversity, destroying my financial plans and requiring immediate decisions.
So much for a relaxing house by the river.
This isn't life or limb, it's just money, and shame at being a victim of someone scamming me, but I just can't handle adversity with the cptsd and this is a lot of adversity, destroying my financial plans and requiring immediate decisions.
So much for a relaxing house by the river.
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I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this. *HUGS*
Take care of yourself and accomplish the little things you can control.
The stress, anxiety and insecurity these past few years is finally taking a toll on me. First I had to deal with 6 months of furlough, within the first three months my union in my city didn't pay my unemployment money because they don't do it anymore so I had to send it to a different county to get my money.
By the time I got it all my savings had been drained, I ate spaghetti for a week, I had to sell my electronical step, I had to change providers to reduce my bills. Thank goodness I still got allowance from mom and grandad, I don't know what else I would have to do I to make ends meet.
I went to a job coach to discuss my options to find a different job, but when I told her about that I wanted to change my job because my job gave me insecurity she said "but life is full of insecurity" and every person I met who was supposed to help me change jobs was as incompetent as her, I feel like I'm out of options, I don't know what else I'm supposed to do and I feel like the people around me can't help me. So I'm going go to a psychiatry to boost my mental health and hopefully I will get beter help from actual professionals
By the time I got it all my savings had been drained, I ate spaghetti for a week, I had to sell my electronical step, I had to change providers to reduce my bills. Thank goodness I still got allowance from mom and grandad, I don't know what else I would have to do I to make ends meet.
I went to a job coach to discuss my options to find a different job, but when I told her about that I wanted to change my job because my job gave me insecurity she said "but life is full of insecurity" and every person I met who was supposed to help me change jobs was as incompetent as her, I feel like I'm out of options, I don't know what else I'm supposed to do and I feel like the people around me can't help me. So I'm going go to a psychiatry to boost my mental health and hopefully I will get beter help from actual professionals
Well, I guess this is it. I've just endured several days of complete non-communication from the clinic beyond the doctor dropping in to the transgender self-help facebook group to berate us for the mere act of discussing the developments and indignantly telling us to "direct our complaints to the provider instead of fear-mongering and peddling conspiracy theories", and the news I've been hearing from other affected people are practically bad on an apocalyptic level. I've learned that despite the doctor telling me that the application for off-label prescriptions is a routine process done for every patient, it's actually something brand new that the clinic preemptively implemented a few weeks ago to avoid potential sanctions for not following regulations to the letter (as they're being very closely scrutinized for being the highest-profile clinic that provides gender-affirming care in the country), and there's a very good chance that this would need to be done individually for every single prescription (e.g. every three months for trans people), which is quite concerning considering they promised a processing time of one week for what was described as a rubber stamp, and now we're potentially looking at having to go through the court system right up to the European Court of Human Rights to get our applications accepted. Some people in the group said the clinic informed them that going forward, every single off-label application would need to pass a merit-based verification that needs to be countersigned by the Hungarian Medical Chamber, which potentially means having to wait several months for a single prescription. Also, most damningly for me, I've heard rumors from a friend that the criteria for prescribing HRT have been strictened, either by the clinic unilaterally, or by the medical authorities issuing new regulations, and going forward, a simple diagnosis of Transsexualism under ICD-10 code F64.0 will no longer be sufficient for a successful application, but a separate diagnosis for gender dysphoria will also be required.
This means that both my medical diagnoses (one by a clinical psychologist and the other by a psychiatrist) have become completely unusable overnight and I will have to retake them. And because you can only be tested for the same mental health condition every three years, I will have to wait until April 2027 to even be tested let alone reapply for HRT, by which point all my medical tests will expire as well, and who knows how much more expensive they'll get in the meantime.
OMG, @SJGardner , I don't even know what to say. This sounds like a nightmare. I'm so sorry you're going through all this.
Got fired and am somehow at peace with this.
My anxiety is running circles around me. I'm stress starving myself and just spent 40 minutes on the line with a suicide hotline.
Oh gods, everyone, I'm so sorry. This all sucks. @SJGardner please hang in there. @Bynar0110 you are NOT worthless! @Turtletrekker please stay with us. @fireproof78 I'm sorry about your job.
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