Mental Wellness Support Group

[fireproof78]

The only thing that works for me is to do something else until the urge passes.

I can agree with this, but some urges never complete go away. It's why Freud postulated the idea of sublimation, and finding a more positive outlet for that energy, even if it's temporary.

There's a reason DBT utilizes things like paired muscle relaxation, and intensive exercise to reduce intensity. It gives that outlet, rather than dwelling on the unhelpful.

 

[Commander Troi]

I get that. I have the same problem sometimes. I usually just try to find something else to do.

 

[think]

Deep breathe
Drinking water
Do something different
Gosh there's the fourth D I can't remember ??
Edit Google knows all
Delay
Distractions in general...

I do have a cup with the 4 D's for quitting smoking.. but it's not here right now..

 

[JD]

I have go in to start setting things up for my job at Lowe's tomorrow. I'm trying to be optimistic that this will at least be tolerable, or if nothing else at least better than Wal-Mart, which is a very low bar.

 

[fireproof78]

I have go in to start setting things up for my job at Lowe's tomorrow. I'm trying to be optimistic that this will at least be tolerable, or if nothing else at least better than Wal-Mart, which is a very low bar.

You're not the same person. You have learned, grown and developed over this process. There's no way it can be the same because you're in a different place.

 

[Bynar0110]

I have go in to start setting things up for my job at Lowe's tomorrow. I'm trying to be optimistic that this will at least be tolerable, or if nothing else at least better than Wal-Mart, which is a very low bar.

I recommend looking into getting some good sturdy shoes if you're going to be working the sales floors.

 

[fireproof78]

When I work on my mental health the biggest challenge is focusing on the past. "Old me sucked. Why was I so stupid?" and "I shouldn't have done that." are common extremely negative refrains that go through my head.

News flash: those are completely useless to you going forward. Old me may not have known that, but new me does, and can use that knowledge. If I make a mistake I'm working on being quicker to say "I'll do better next time" rather than dwelling on what it reflects on me from the past.

It's ok to make mistakes; it's even better to apply that knowledge for the future and learn from it.

 

[JD]

My first day at Lowe's went well today.

 

[Bynar0110]

I been getting werid premonitions I'm going to be dead around the year 2032. Its creepy.

 

[wayoung]

Feeling rough lately. Too much stuff going on.

Work
Work issues
Final Exam
Pricing out insulation companies
Have to pull drywall off of basement walls

And then today my fireplace wouldn't work so I had to call in someone tomorrow to look at it AND my holding tank overflowed. I had until Sat before it would according to my tracking and had reached out yesterday to my pumping guy. He said he was booked up until today, so yesterday I did a few more water draining things knowing it would be pumped. And then didn't show up today. And it overflowed. I called twice and sent like 5 texts and ended up going to an after hours emergency pumper which cost double the normal rate.

Part of it is on me, I should have called on Friday but I'm trying to pinch pennies and the water tank is one of my biggest expenses. Part is on him for not messaging that he couldn't come/no showing.

Unfortunately he's also the cheapest guy in town since he has his own lagoon - all the other guys pay him to dump, so they have to charge 30% more, so I have to play nice if I don't want to bankrupt myself paying to have my shit pumped out of the ground.


It's just so much it's overwhelming and I can't do one thing long enough to get it off my plate. And then the fireplace & holding tank today...

I've barely studied for my exam next Friday. I usually go hardcore before them and I've only done a fraction of what I normally do. But I also need to deal with all this garbage that keeps popping up every day.

I know because of my last I don't handle stress as well as other people, that part of my brain and nervous system being burned out. And nothing is an objectively big emergency. But it's all so much at once.

I need stuff to just stop. Let me deal with one thing at a time and then deal with nothing.

 

[Bynar0110]

I feel like S.A.D. has sucked the life out of me like a vampire. I also feeling like I'm jinxing my self having fun and it's going to bite me three fold with some bad like a serious illness or a personal tragic event that will hurt me mentally.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

I’ve been dealing with family drama since last Thanksgiving. I lost my voice that morning and didn’t get it back until July 6th. I blame the family drama for my voice staying gone.

 

[Gingerbread Demon]

I’ve been dealing with family drama since last Thanksgiving. I lost my voice that morning and didn’t get it back until July 6th. I blame the family drama for my voice staying gone.

Aaaaaawww that's not good but hope you are doing better now.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

Aaaaaawww that's not good but hope you are doing better now.

Definitely better. I spoke up and got my voice back.

 

[wayoung]

Booked the insulation company. First part is next week, rest has to wait until I get the drywall removed from the basement.

I wrote my exam this afternoon.

While I was getting the mail the neighbour saw me and wanted to all about stuff he's doing to his property that may affect me and get my input. Really nice guy. Still, I'm still very anti social since my work thing a month ago, and am already stressed for the exam. So my anxiety and awkwardness went up talking to him.

And then he said the former owner (absolute piece of shit, caused a lot of issues for me, accused me of crimes) is back living in the RV on the lot behind me. He was there last year for hunting season I guess he came back for it.


So of course my anxiety went into overdrive. I managed to get back to my home office before a full blown attack.

I worked through it doing work and some more exam prep, although the first exam prep I got wrong because I couldn't focus.

Having lunch now then writing my exam. Hoping to calm down but it's not happening since I'm writing the test.

I have no reason to be this anxious. I got 99% on the last 9 tests I did yesterday (every chapter & exam prep, only one test had one wrong answer, rest were perfect) so I should be able to get 65% on the final (what I need to pass the course) but I'm still super anxious over it and finding out today that asshole behind me (probably until mid December) doesn't help.

Plus everything else on my plate.

I need to calm down to write my exam but needing to calm down is also stressing me out.

I am better than I used to be a year ago. I am waaayyyyyyyyy better than 2 years ago, 3,4,5... but I'm still so messed up. I wish I was normal. Stupid cptsd.

 

[Commander Troi]

"Normal" is just a setting on the washing machine. *HUGS*

 

[wayoung]

Passed the exam but I accidentally did some stuff you aren't supposed to tech wise (I didn't even realize until after the test was over, and I wrote it in full screen so I hope it won't matter) and I don't think it actually took a photo of my ID so I'm half expecting an issue to come up but it's done. The Procter is the scariest thing about the course

 

[Jax]

Just having one of those evenings when a cloud is over you but for no real reason. The problem arises when the cloud stays - it's been a while since that has happened but i'm always wary of it happening. Just a random post - felt good to type out.

Hope everyone is well today.

 

[raneclowd]

Been there do that…I just came out of one of those the other day. Got the surfboard out and rode the wave. Got tossed off, rolled around in the surf and undertow. Next day was better. Glad it didn’t last as long as it has before.

 

[wayoung]

Thought I was getting ahead a bit. Finished my class, attic was done, was ripping out the drywall to insulate. Was going super fast, 2 hours vs two days I thought (saving me $1100 in charges).

Found the drywall was hiding major foundation problems.

$12k repairs, $30k replacement. Not sure which I have to do.