Ladies, what do you look for in a man?
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It's not the same thing. But I think it's more desirable to seek good character than just seek money.
^Oh, I agree entirely. And a man's income isn't really important to me. It'd just be a perk. Chock it down to the fact that I have another two weeks until my next paycheck and am feeling the pinch. 
this.
I make a decent living, doing honest labor, and I definitely consider my work ethic to be high.
My job is, OTOH, not considered wealthy or flashy or glamorous. (Nor would I ever want a job that was.) A woman trying to hitch herself to that sort of thing would not work well with me.
Yeah, but I'd MUCH rather have a man who makes an honest living than some trust fund baby who has no clue what the meaning of WORK is.
I can't say that I really care what someone does for a living so long as they're not some corporate CEO or mob lawyer. Work ethic at their job doesn't concern me either. I rarely care what someone does for a living. It's just not something I think about, I guess.
While I certainly believe that to be true, there is the factor of what manner of work a man does. Some aren't as glamorous as others. I mean for various reasons we can't all be surgeons, pilots, or even bank workers.
I can't really see the point in work ethic.
Money, yes.
Enthusiasm for good things & good times & good people, of course.
Work ethic... why, precisely?
Work ethic is pretty unrelated to the other two, so I can't really see the point, myself.
"Saving now for your facelift later"
Catchy, yes?
Money, yes.
Enthusiasm for good things & good times & good people, of course.
Work ethic... why, precisely?
Work ethic is pretty unrelated to the other two, so I can't really see the point, myself.
"Saving now for your facelift later"
Catchy, yes?
^ I can. I have always had a good work ethic, and I'd find it hard to respect, and therefore love, someone who is a complete slacker or expects to just coast by doing the bare minimum to not get fired.
My hubby will never be rich, but he takes great pride in what he does, and is good at it. He's responsible and courteous to the people he works for and with. I think that says a lot about what kind of person he is.
Oh, sure, he comes home and complains about how stupid some of the University staff and profs are, but at work, he's very respectful and conscientious, and strives to do his best. I find that very attractive.
Of course, he LOVES what he does. That really is the key.
My hubby will never be rich, but he takes great pride in what he does, and is good at it. He's responsible and courteous to the people he works for and with. I think that says a lot about what kind of person he is.
Oh, sure, he comes home and complains about how stupid some of the University staff and profs are, but at work, he's very respectful and conscientious, and strives to do his best. I find that very attractive.
Of course, he LOVES what he does. That really is the key.
I respect work ethic myself. I don't want to surround myself with people who do things half-heartedly. I like passion, and if not that, then at least a dedication to doing an excellent job. I don't care so much what a person does, I just hope it is something they derive some pleasure from and that they apply themselves 100% to it.
"Work ethic" is not about enjoying the job you do; it is about the moral benefit accrued from work itself, and the alleged benefit to one's character from working hard. It's essentially a Calvinist Protestant belief that hard work is required for salvation, though can often be expressed in secular terms these days (the idea that working makes you happy, essentially).
I fundamentally reject that. Working hard doesn't make you happy; it keeps you busy and it stops you thinking about much (including maybe remembering you're not happy), but that's not the same thing. Doing something you enjoy, yes, that does make you happy, but that is decidedly unrelated to work ethic and any overlap is more coincidental than not, IMO. I agree that someone should do a job they enjoy, of course.
This a thousand times over. I agree 100% mate.
It's ideal if you can do a job you enjoy--but to be blunt, not everyone gets that opportunity at every point in their working life. And I would not be interested in a man who can't apply himself in the boring/unenjoyable times, and becomes unwilling to contribute his share. That sort of fickleness I do not respect.
And working hard need not mean massive overtime...to my mind it means that you're contributing a reasonable amount of work to the provision of your family and society.
These are NOT bad things, as you seem to have painted them out to be.
That's an opinion, though, and I think, depending on what you've seen, you'll find that people's opinions will vary greatly. Personally, I really couldn't care less if the woman I'm with gives two shits about her job at some corporate business. Hell, I'd like it more if she was fucking the business up.
My dad gave twenty-two loyal years to a bank, worked long hours that he could've spent with me and was kicked to the curb when he was no longer convenient to have around. I'd much rather have had him not give a shit about his job and be home a lot more often.
Well ... yeah. Clearly some of the men posting in this thread don't fit with what some of the women are looking for. Go post in your own thread about the type of woman you want!
Yeah...someone who is unwilling to push themselves to do their best at what they do, within reasonable bounds (I do NOT think that working yourself to death is a good idea--a balance is necessary) or thinks it's funny to use their position to cause trouble instead of taking their job seriously is not the kind of man I am interested in. If he cares more about office pranks than doing a quality job, if he's in a relationship that also becomes a form of selfishness. I hold myself to the same standard and I know it can be done--and I certainly won't accept less.
Needless to say, I do not find any of the male characters on The Office the slightest bit attractive.
Needless to say, I do not find any of the male characters on The Office the slightest bit attractive.