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Ladies, what do you look for in a man?

Axiom said:
People aren't playthings, they're not conquests or prizes to be won.
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That's how I feel, too. I think it's degrading to men to act like they are. If it's unfair when men do it to women, how can it possibly be right in reverse? Men aren't toys, and "simple" as they claim to be sometimes, and stoic as I think guys like to think they are, they've got hearts that can be broken.
 
Nerys Ghemor said:
Axiom said:
People aren't playthings, they're not conquests or prizes to be won.
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That's how I feel, too. I think it's degrading to men to act like they are. If it's unfair when men do it to women, how can it possibly be right in reverse? Men aren't toys, and "simple" as they claim to be sometimes, and stoic as I think guys like to think they are, they've got hearts that can be broken.
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Yes, they really do.
 
Nerys Ghemor said:
Axiom said:
People aren't playthings, they're not conquests or prizes to be won.
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That's how I feel, too. I think it's degrading to men to act like they are. If it's unfair when men do it to women, how can it possibly be right in reverse? Men aren't toys, and "simple" as they claim to be sometimes, and stoic as I think guys like to think they are, they've got hearts that can be broken.
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To rush to the defense of women ( ;) ), we men often bring this upon ourselves.

We guard against showing our softer sides lest we be judged "pussies" by other men. There is inherent survival value in not being judged "weak". Nor do we want to be excommunicated from our pack.

Some men are able to shake free of the macho, but there is risk in that as well--the risk of losing the "protector" factor that has served us well in attracting mates throughout evolutionary history.

A well adjusted man will find a natural balance. That balance will be attractive to some women, while a few will prefer "less macho" and yet others "more macho".

To put it succinctly: It takes a real man to wear pink.
 
Locutus of Bored said:
Nerys Ghemor said:
But sometimes I think when I meet that right man--it's actually possible I will be the one who decides when it's right to ask him to go out with me. I'm not sure a lot of guys would care for that. But I think that if I'm really comfortable with someone, I would at least be able to imagine myself initiating the relationship.
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On the contrary, I think most guys would find it a refreshing change of pace and for some who get nervous in those situations it would take a lot of the pressure off.
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RoJoHen said:
I would love it girls asked me out.
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Definitely.

To be honest, this should be 50/50. If you find someone of the opposite gender who is attractive to you, you should ask them out, regardless of what gender you are.

It would be a hell of a lot simpler and eliminate the bullshit games both sexes play.

Which is why it probably will never happen. :lol:
 
T'Baio said:
Tall, dark and handsome? Beard or shaved? Hair or bald or doesn't matter? Likes kids? Nice, mean, tips waiters or trips them? Sarcastic, cynical, lazy, motivated or ambitious? Huge dick or no sex drive or only on Saturdays and real fast? Paraplegic, one eared, car driving, bus taking, MD or garbage man? Someone who excuses you when you sneeze?

Your perfect dream man, what's he like?

Just wondering.
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I like men who are not too tall, because I’m not so tall myself (1,65 meters, that’s about 5,4 feet). If I would ever decide to date a basketball player, I’d probably had a problem :lol: .

He has to be a good listener, which doesn’t mean that I want to bore him with endless stories, but I have to able to make an honest conversation. Also, if you like someone I find it naturally that you take an interest in his/her life.

A sense of humour is much appreciated (without being a clown, as one poster above me pointed out.)

He has to be honest without being rude. And he should be patient. I’m a rather closed person and it takes a while ‘till I open up to someone.

And yes, he should help with the housekeeping. Why should I do everything myself? On the other hand, I’m not a very tidy person, so the housekeeping work is certainly limited. If he likes to cook, that would be a really nice bonus, because I’m a lousy chef. But hey, maybe that’s something we could even do together.

About the hair: that always depends. I have to admit, that I'm a bit superficial and that I like men with hair. On the other hand there are some good looking bald men, too.
 
I love that thus far it's mostly men posting in the ladies thread. Have to go check if it's the reverse in the mens thread :lol:

And sorry selina, that's pretty much me according to other people, but I'm 191 cm tall. Too bad since 165 is right there in my preferred zone.
 
selina said:
If he likes to cook, that would be a really nice bonus, because I’m a lousy chef. But hey, maybe that’s something we could even do together.
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That would be nice. I'm horrible at cooking and normally have zero patience with it, but when I work WITH someone, it's fun. I think that could be a nice thing to do when we get off work sometimes--to work on our meal together. :)
 
^ That sounds like a challenge I could get behind. :techman: I've never cooked with anyone before. I've barely cooked by myself. Ever since I tried to make pudding from scratch and somehow ended up with scrambled eggs in the mix :confused: I've kind of lost interest in cooking. :lol:
 
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