Is it possible to be friends with an ex?

[bigdaddy]

I'm wondering what everyone thinks about dating and friendships that come from a date or an ex. Has anyone actually had a decent friendship from an ex? Or is there always one person that likes the other in more than a friendly way?

And yes i figured a Star Trek site is the perfect place to ask this, it's not like Trek fans don't fuck.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I have know a few women who have had quite good relationships with ex-husbands. Often the after-marriage friendship has been a better relationship than the marriage ever was.

 

[Maestro]

I don't think it's a good idea.

 

[T'Baio]

I'm best friends with one of my exes, and casual friends with another. No problems.

 

[bigdaddy]

So we have two yes and a no, maybe I should have made a poll.

 

[Nociod]

I think it depends on the reasons for why you broke up.

If you just grew apart, and mutually decided to end the relationship, then yeah, you could possible be friends.

However if the other party were abusive, or cheated or something like that, then nah, I don't see a happy ending.

 

[HighteeHeller]

Sure it`s possible. It can be difficult if you let your emotions effect how you relate to them. But if you have moved on in your heart then there`s no reason that you cant remain friends.

I have been seperated from my husband for three years now, and we are the best of friends. Mind you we are both still single and i am very close with his family, but we have worked together to keep everyone close. For the kids, for ourselves, for his family.
Nevermind we are all going to mexico together in a few weeks. Us, our kids, his parents, aunt, cousin.....ok yeah, we are a little disfunctional.

 

[Chaos Descending]

Lots of things are possible that don't wind up being expedient.

For what ever that's worth.

 

[bigdaddy]

^Yes anything is possible... blah blah blah...

 

[Captain Craig]

I'm best friends with one of my exes, and casual friends with another. No problems.

Same here. I'm best friends with an ex, we still talk weekly.
Casual really good friends with two others, one I see monthly at church even.

I think it depends on the reasons for why you broke up.

If you just grew apart, and mutually decided to end the relationship, then yeah, you could possible be friends.

However if the other party were abusive, or cheated or something like that, then nah, I don't see a happy ending.

And this is why I have those 3 good relationships with my ex's. There is one who cheated on me and I never cared to keep tabs on her talk to her again. She could be wealthy beyond belief or strung out on drugs on the street and I wouldn't know it.

 

[DonIago]

Yes, it's possible.

Of course, there's all kinds of variables that affect -how- possible it is, much less how -advisable-.

Really, kind of an open-ended question here.

 

[Garak]

My exes either love me or freaking hate me, there's really no middle ground there.

Funnily enough, the ex I was closest to and talked to all the time has basically cut off all communication since I found myself a wife, which leads me to believe she was just trying to get back in my pants. When will women learn I'm not just a piece of meat?

 

[RJDiogenes]

I'm still friends with one ex and have completely lost touch with all the others. So, yes, it is possible, but the odds are against it.

 

[sidious618]

Jerry and Elaine!

 

[DonIago]

^(laughs) And we saw how that turned out...

 

[Admiral Buzzkill]

Yeah, as long as you weren't overly fond of one another to begin with.

 

[LaxScrutiny]

Sure it`s possible. It can be difficult if you let your emotions effect how you relate to them. But if you have moved on in your heart then there`s no reason that you cant remain friends.

I have been seperated from my husband for three years now, and we are the best of friends. Mind you we are both still single and i am very close with his family, but we have worked together to keep everyone close. For the kids, for ourselves, for his family.
Nevermind we are all going to mexico together in a few weeks. Us, our kids, his parents, aunt, cousin.....ok yeah, we are a little disfunctional.

Can I come too? I'll bring the kids, my ex, her new lesbian friend, a few of my co-workers...

 

[bigdaddy]

Yeah, as long as you weren't overly fond of one another to begin with.

I'm grateful I never seriously dated him, but there are times I really want to just fuck him.

 

[HighteeHeller]

Sure it`s possible. It can be difficult if you let your emotions effect how you relate to them. But if you have moved on in your heart then there`s no reason that you cant remain friends.

I have been seperated from my husband for three years now, and we are the best of friends. Mind you we are both still single and i am very close with his family, but we have worked together to keep everyone close. For the kids, for ourselves, for his family.
Nevermind we are all going to mexico together in a few weeks. Us, our kids, his parents, aunt, cousin.....ok yeah, we are a little disfunctional.

Can I come too? I'll bring the kids, my ex, her new lesbian friend, a few of my co-workers...

Uh, no.

Love the bit about the ex having a new lesbian friend. Sorry bout your luck.

 

[JiNX-01]

My best friend is still friends with her ex-husband. When he lost his job and became homeless, she let him move back in with her.