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I found this particular article about social rejection and increased TV watching and how we empathize with TV characters.

Well it explains fanfiction writers like myself. I'm single and admittedly I've not been looking seriously for about a couple years now, figuring if I'm not actively seeking I'll run into the right girl eventually.

Ever notice how it seems the good ones are always taken. Either married, or dating someone. I remember it used to get me so frustrated years ago, but now if I'm talking to a nice girl and she mentions she's with someone it doesn't bother me. I still am cordial, polite, and kind figuring I'll meet someone nice down the road who actually is available.

Meanwhile I just happily go about my life, enjoying my hobbies and being a content bachelor. I found I'm meeting and more freely conversing with more nice girls when I adopted that particular philosophy/mentality. However, I'm still curious why it does seem like the good ones are always taken whenever you're single?
 
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Whoops. I had the wrong link pasted. Give me a second to correct it...Here's the corrected article. My apologies. I accidentally had been writing an email to a friend in another window and watching the aforementioned video in a third one.
 
Tale of the Many Faces... Hmm, why does that sound like something I've actually seen before?
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It was an episode of Are You Afraid of the Dark. I sent the link that I mistakenly put in this thread to a friend of mine.
 
^ but exacerbating things is what I'm best at!

Anyway, yeah, this makes sense. What the article talks about is one facet or escapism, which is the entire reason why fiction exists. Real people can reject you, fictional characters can't (if they do, then you're doing it wrong... dammit, I brought it up again.)
 
Sometimes even enthusiastic TV viewers can't believe how attached they are to their favorite stories, Gabriel said.
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Luckily there's always another poster ready to pull you right back down to Earth again with the usual: "It's just a TV-show"
 
That there is. A perfect compromise is simply writing fanfiction or blog entries or create fansites in support of the show while maintaining well enough in real life.
 
Dingo said:
I found this particular article about social rejection and increased TV watching and how we empathize with TV characters.

Well it explains fanfiction writers like myself. I'm single and admittedly I've not been looking seriously for about a couple years now, figuring if I'm not actively seeking I'll run into the right girl eventually.

Ever notice how it seems the good ones are always taken. Either married, or dating someone. I remember it used to get me so frustrated years ago, but now if I'm talking to a nice girl and she mentions she's with someone it doesn't bother me. I still am cordial, polite, and kind figuring I'll meet someone nice down the road who actually is available.

Meanwhile I just happily go about my life, enjoying my hobbies and being a content bachelor. I found I'm meeting and more freely conversing with more nice girls when I adopted that particular philosophy/mentality. However, I'm still curious why it does seem like the good ones are always taken whenever you're single?
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Or, to translate into a rougher tongue, "why the hell do these women settle on assholes instead of guys who give a damn?" That is a question for the ages. It's not all women, but usually the ones I'm interested who are intelligent in every other way, are with some guy named Jimbob who has never had a job but he wants one some day. He can play the bongos with his knuckles! When he's not calling me a whore, we get along great!

I don't know why those people exist, except to think they don't believe they can have someone better, someone who cares about them and will treat them as equals. I found that recently. A good friend I had actually asked out on a date, and she told me she wasn't really looking, but that I was a very good man and treated her sweetly. Six months later? She's seeing a guy who is missing two of his teeth, wears a dirty wifebeater and gym shorts in the middle of the day, and can burp on command. Lovely.

Oh, and just to clarify: she's intelligent, quick witted and gorgeous.

J.
 
Or, to translate into a rougher tongue, "why the hell do these women settle on assholes instead of guys who give a damn?" That is a question for the ages. It's not all women, but usually the ones I'm interested who are intelligent in every other way, are with some guy named Jimbob who has never had a job but he wants one some day. He can play the bongos with his knuckles! When he's not calling me a whore, we get along great!

I don't know why those people exist, except to think they don't believe they can have someone better, someone who cares about them and will treat them as equals. I found that recently. A good friend I had actually asked out on a date, and she told me she wasn't really looking, but that I was a very good man and treated her sweetly. Six months later? She's seeing a guy who is missing two of his teeth, wears a dirty wifebeater and gym shorts in the middle of the day, and can burp on command. Lovely.

Oh, and just to clarify: she's intelligent, quick witted and gorgeous.

J.
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My sympathies, friend, that royally blows chunks. But in some sense love is blind and not always logical I have discovered.

I remember I once lost a friendship in college. A female friend of mine had a boyfriend that graduated (she dated a senior as a freshman) who simply gave her the cold shoulder after he went out into the world. I was the safe shoulder to cry on and began to eventually fall in love with her.

Sadly before I could 'make my move', she dated someone else and was always telling everyone (I sadly was the first one she told) what a great guy he was. And he was actually a guy headed places. I lost the friendship because I wasn't completely honest with how I felt about her, keeping it hidden, and when she figured it out on her own she severed all contact.

I've since recovered from that incident and now just enjoy my being single without really looking. I'm sure I'll run across someone eventually.
 
Dingo said:
My sympathies, friend, that royally blows chunks. But in some sense love is blind and not always logical I have discovered.

I remember I once lost a friendship in college. A female friend of mine had a boyfriend that graduated (she dated a senior as a freshman) who simply gave her the cold shoulder after he went out into the world. I was the safe shoulder to cry on and began to eventually fall in love with her.

Sadly before I could 'make my move', she dated someone else and was always telling everyone (I sadly was the first one she told) what a great guy he was. And he was actually a guy headed places. I lost the friendship because I wasn't completely honest with how I felt about her, keeping it hidden, and when she figured it out on her own she severed all contact.

I've since recovered from that incident and now just enjoy my being single without really looking. I'm sure I'll run across someone eventually.
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Thank you, and I feel for you. In my case, I don't regret it. I followed through and told her how I felt. The rest was up to her, and that is the way she chose to go. I get down, but I'm never out. I just have to put myself out there to be seen, and just believe that the right person will come along and we will see each other.

J.
 
Thank you, and I feel for you. In my case, I don't regret it. I followed through and told her how I felt. The rest was up to her, and that is the way she chose to go. I get down, but I'm never out. I just have to put myself out there to be seen, and just believe that the right person will come along and we will see each other.
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That's good to hear you're not depressed. I'm glad to hear it. I'm also glad your friend stayed friends instead of just severing all contact with you.

It's interesting how at least my rejection tolerance has risen over the years. Something that would devastate me at twenty-one would only cause me to be mildly hurt at twenty-five.

But yeah, it seems like the good ones are taken or otherwise inaccessible. For instance there was one girl I knew that if I were a civilian (I'm a US servicemember), I would have asked her out in a heartbeat, but unfortunately I'm senior to her, so for discipline and the good of the unit those feelings must go unexplored. At least it serves to be a wonderful muse for a couple fanfics of mine.
 
This, sadly, has happened to me to. Even sadder, he started beating on her. When she was drunk one time, she told me then we should have got together. By then, I had someone and it was too late. Then, even sadder, he was about to start beating on her again one night when she was doing the washing up, and she had a knife in her hand... she didn't even realise what hapd happened... until it was too late and he was on the floor, gone. She did time for that.

I sometimes play the coulda shoulda woulda game, but in the end, she made her own choices about me. Life sucks, then goes on. Incidents like that have innured me to lurve. Besides, I'm married now, for my sins.
 
Besides, I'm married now, for my sins.
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Congratulations friend. Love is a wonderful thing once you've found it and live in a state of conjugal contentedness.

Then, even sadder, he was about to start beating on her again one night when she was doing the washing up, and she had a knife in her hand... she didn't even realise what hapd happened... until it was too late and he was on the floor, gone. She did time for that.
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Why? She was clearly defending herself from an abusive fucktard! Slimy damned magistrates and lawyers!
 
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