I think I'm done.

[Trekker4747]

I think I'm done with my life.

Really, I don't know what I have to live for right now. I'm in a nowhere job, I've no opportunities either professionaly or romanticly I've not got anything of what it takes to change any of that.

I'm just... here.

Destined to just be. And nothing more. And as much as I want it to change, and as much as I...

Nevermind.

Fuck it.

 

[ria 75]

Single winter blues.
Take up a charity or something. You'd be amazed to find how happy you'd feel when you see some people are much more unhappy because much more unfortunate, and how good it feels to help people.

 

[An Officer]

Seasonal Affective Disorder. See it for what it is, and don't make too big a deal of it. It will pass. Take more exercise. That should release a few happy hormones.

I'm trying to take my own advice at the moment...

 

[Crusher Disciple]

Or you could buy me a camcorder. That would make both of us happy.

Bomb chicka wow wow!

 

[RoJoHen]

I recommend going for a good long drive, getting angry at all the shitty drivers, and then instead of posting here about them, take that rage and go to the gym!

Exercise is really the only thing that keeps me in good spirits this time of year. Otherwise I get all depressed and mopey.

 

[Gryffindorian]

There, there, Trekker. We've all had our share of good days and bad. Pfft, it seems to me I've had more of a bad year. I'll be honest, there are times when I ask myself, "Can things possibly get any worse than this [situation I'm going through]?"

Our careers don't define our existence; neither do romantic involvements. It's who we are and what we choose to contribute to this world in a positive way. One of my favorite quotes is from Elbert Hubbard: "He has achieved success who has worked hard, laughed often, and loved much."

Life is short and beautiful at the same time. We have so much to live for, and we only get one chance to live in this universe. Try to make a long-term goal (such as helping others, traveling, building something, etc.) and make it your purpose in life.

"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% of what we make of it."

 

[Scout101]

could keep patting you on the head and telling you it'll all be ok, but at least you recognize that there's a problem. And it's not your lack of opportunity, IMO it's that you're too comfortable in your "dead end" life to change. We get all sorts of girl angst threads with you, so there IS opportunity, but in most of them, you hemm and haw, dragging your feet until she gets bored, loses interest, or figures that you aren't interested. You also talk about other lines of work, or going to school, or whatever, even moving somewhere else, but you never take any of that past a message board phase either.

The opportunities are out there, you just have to DO something about it. Which is different than sitting back and complaining about them as life passes you by...

A good first step would be to do whatever is necessary to FINALLY get over your ex-gf. It's been far too long, and that shadow appears to have long outlasted any normal definition of lingering feelings. You seem to use her as either an excuse or a crutch far too often for a relationship that ended that long ago, and wasn't THAT long to begin with...

 

[CaptJimboJones]

Just don't kill yourself on a webcam, please. That little fad is getting awfully disturbing.

 

[RoJoHen]

could keep patting you on the head and telling you it'll all be ok, but at least you recognize that there's a problem. And it's not your lack of opportunity, IMO it's that you're too comfortable in your "dead end" life to change. We get all sorts of girl angst threads with you, so there IS opportunity, but in most of them, you hemm and haw, dragging your feet until she gets bored, loses interest, or figures that you aren't interested. You also talk about other lines of work, or going to school, or whatever, even moving somewhere else, but you never take any of that past a message board phase either.

The opportunities are out there, you just have to DO something about it. Which is different than sitting back and complaining about them as life passes you by...

This is true.

I'm kind of in the same boat. I have no opportunities where I am. I could probably seek some out, but I don't want to. I know that I don't want to stay in this area after my lease is up, so I am avoiding anything that might make any more attached to this place than I already am.

That said, I am PLANNING to leave. I'm not sure where yet, but I have 6 months left in my lease to figure it out. Even if you can't do something to immediately solve the problem, you can at least explore some options and bide your time until you're ready to move on.

But at some point, you just have to cut loose and go.

 

[JuanBolio]

Read a book or somethin'.

 

[JonathonWally]

Create your own excitement.

 

[ManOnTheWave]

Okay. So now you know what you want to change. So start.

 

[Elmo Dukat]

Life is within you. You're not just a log in the river, being shoved this way and that. Change has to come from within.

 

[DanCPA]

Look, I've had a HORRIBLE year.
My life isn't great right now

And then I hear of little girls that are sold by their parents so the rest of the family can eat. I think of all the soldiers in Iraq and around the world sacrificing their lives for us. The billions of people around the world that would do almost anything to live the life you are so depressed about... And then I am thankful to God for everything I do have. I am very blessed and it's only because he has spoiled us with so much that we fret over little details. True love will come along... at least that's what I hope. There are plenty of things we can do to live better lives, and swallowing a plate full of pity isn't it.
Best of luck to you... and don't worry, I too am very depressed Obama won!

 

[Crusher Disciple]

don't worry, I too am very depressed Obama won!

And then he comes here and I rub his face in it.

 

[DanCPA]

don't worry, I too am very depressed Obama won!

And then he comes here and I rub his face in it.

don't you have some french fries to be eating?

 

[ria 75]

A good first step would be to do whatever is necessary to FINALLY get over your ex-gf. It's been far too long, and that shadow appears to have long outlasted any normal definition of lingering feelings. You seem to use her as either an excuse or a crutch far too often for a relationship that ended that long ago, and wasn't THAT long to begin with...

What's the math already? Multiply (half?) the duration of the relationship by 10 and that's the duration of the mourning period. I believe we're way past that. I don't think that's the problem anyway. The ex is at most a symbol of what could be had and is not at hand.

don't worry, I too am very depressed Obama won!

Ah, shut up. That was a happy night for Trekker.

 

[Crusher Disciple]

don't worry, I too am very depressed Obama won!

And then he comes here and I rub his face in it.

don't you have some french fries to be eating?

Already finished 'em. Now I'm working on my "Bunnies for Obama" cross stitch sampler.

 

[nevermore]

If you don't like your life, move. Make a break. Change it. If you feel like you don't have enough options, then move to a big city where there are more varied opportunities and people, whatever, just pick up and find a new perspective.

Also, get a pet. Wonderful for stress relief and distraction from the tedium.

Take up a charity or something. You'd be amazed to find how happy you'd feel when you see some people are much more unhappy because much more unfortunate, and how good it feels to help people.

This is also good advice. It's the holidays, find a soup kitchen or a shelter and kick in some good will.

 

[DanCPA]

Already finished 'em. Now I'm working on my "Bunnies for Obama" cross stitch sampler.

Am I going to get one?
Ya know, you aient doing a great job of consoling me!

Ah, shut up. That was a happy night for Trekker.

I know... I've had plenty of conversations with trekker... and altho I consider him to be one of those crazy liberal loons, I still would like to think of him as a friend. And it further reinforces the fact that we all get a new future on Jan 20th... He gets to be in the majority, I get to be the kid in the back of the classroom throwing spitballs at Obama You can focus on the negatives of everything or you can try to find the positives!