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I am investigating the world of Online Dating.

Facebook is generally for interacting with people you already know in some capacity. Dating sites are for interacting with people you don't.

It's not really any different than meeting someone at work or at a bar, I think.

That's exactly it. The name doesn't really make sense if you think about it... it's not "online dating," it's "online meeting people." You still date them the normal way :p
 
Match.com is funny, as in odd. I window shop there for entertainment, but if you notice, for some odd reason the number of people who have viewed your profile changes strangely. ie, One day you'll log in to see 50 people have seen your profile. Log in three days later, and the number mysteriously has dropped to 48 people. Come back again, and it's back up to 50.

I do the same on Yahoo Personals because sometimes the fake profiles are a hoot. So far, I've spotted two women from my building, at work, on Yahoo. I think they've both found fellers as I've not seen their profiles again.
 
Facebook is generally for interacting with people you already know in some capacity. Dating sites are for interacting with people you don't.

That's what I meant by "matching algorithm".

There's a lot more that goes into that then just an algorithm for giving you percentages. People both present and interact differently as a result... it's a totally different social context.
 
That's exactly it. The name doesn't really make sense if you think about it... it's not "online dating," it's "online meeting people." You still date them the normal way :p

I dunno, I'm sure there are some people that think they have "online girlfriends."
 
Met a girl on match.com a couple of months ago and we're in love. It's hit or miss, but there's hope for everyone.
 
Facebook is generally for interacting with people you already know in some capacity. Dating sites are for interacting with people you don't.

That's what I meant by "matching algorithm".

There's a lot more that goes into that then just an algorithm for giving you percentages. People both present and interact differently as a result... it's a totally different social context.

And that's the part I covered with "expectations". ;)
 
Met a girl on match.com a couple of months ago and we're in love. It's hit or miss, but there's hope for everyone.
Are you saying that being in love with her is "hit or miss"?
No no no, my apologies.

Online dating is hit or miss. You could spend months on any service winking at countless people like me, or you could spend a few days on there and find the love of your life like my girl.
 
Met a girl on match.com a couple of months ago and we're in love. It's hit or miss, but there's hope for everyone.
Are you saying that being in love with her is "hit or miss"?
No no no, my apologies.

Online dating is hit or miss. You could spend months on any service winking at countless people like me, or you could spend a few days on there and find the love of your life like my girl.

Hmmm, I don't know anything about audio/video production and I don't own a kilt. So, I can't find a gal like what you have.

Gawd bless.
 
I actually agree with this and it doesn't really go against my recommendation. You're talking about playful flirting with a network of girls who and friends, where I was talking about guys who specifically crush over a friendship to the point of obsession and emotional turmoil. I have girl friends like the one you are talking about as well but there no "secret crush" going on-- it's just a friendship where mutual attraction is out in the open.

In this case the mutual attraction could go to a relationship, though. But if you mean you become the girl's friend solely BECAUSE you have a crush on her and thus hope to win her over that way, well... it could happen but it's a lot more difficult.

I'm just saying it's a hole I see so many guys fall into. They think because they listen to a girl's problems and become "close" that they have a shot-- where the girl has long pegged the guy as an platonic friend with virtually no relationship future there.

What you're talking about is maintaining healthy friendships with the opposite sex that have potential for something else-- not obsessing over an asexual friendship to your own emotional detriment.
 
Are you saying that being in love with her is "hit or miss"?
No no no, my apologies.

Online dating is hit or miss. You could spend months on any service winking at countless people like me, or you could spend a few days on there and find the love of your life like my girl.

Hmmm, I don't know anything about audio/video production and I don't own a kilt. So, I can't find a gal like what you have.

Gawd bless.

Meh. Anyone can do what I do. Ask around in TNZ, all I do is hold a microphone in NASA's basement. ;)

And you can get a kilt online. They don't have a blood test to see if you're Scottish enough.
 
No no no, my apologies.

Online dating is hit or miss. You could spend months on any service winking at countless people like me, or you could spend a few days on there and find the love of your life like my girl.

Hmmm, I don't know anything about audio/video production and I don't own a kilt. So, I can't find a gal like what you have.

Gawd bless.

Meh. Anyone can do what I do. Ask around in TNZ, all I do is hold a microphone in NASA's basement. ;)

And you can get a kilt online. They don't have a blood test to see if you're Scottish enough.
Irish wear them too, ya know :klingon:

Besides, I'm a Kraut mixed with Polish. I'd have the damned thing on my head in the most exacting manner.
 
I'm just saying it's a hole I see so many guys fall into. They think because they listen to a girl's problems and become "close" that they have a shot-- where the girl has long pegged the guy as an platonic friend with virtually no relationship future there.

What you're talking about is maintaining healthy friendships with the opposite sex that have potential for something else-- not obsessing over an asexual friendship to your own emotional detriment.

You have to be nice and also flirtatious at the same time in a situation like that. You can't be like, "Oh, tell me all your problems!!!!11"
 
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