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I Am Having A Hard Time...

VulcanVixen

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I am having a hard time getting my friends to watch TOS episodes with me. I recently forked over a hefty sum to buy all three remastered seasons (though, I would have much preferred the originals) and NOBODY wants to watch with me (not even my family, for that matter!) They think it's dorky, I personally don't see ANYTHING dorky about it. I feel a little left out sometimes. Even if I mention Star Trek once they say, "There she goes again..." It's all I know... They make me feel like I have leprosy or something.

I just want to know, are there other people who feel left out in their community for being a Star Trek fan?

Then again, I am only 20 and I guess Star Trek is a little ancient for them... ? God, I just need Trekkies in my life!
 
I am having a hard time getting my friends to watch TOS episodes with me.

Your timing may actually be pretty good, since the new movie has generated interest in Star Trek. Perhaps when JJ Abrams movie is out on video, some of your friends will see it, and that will give you an opportunity to show them the "start of it all."

I recently forked over a hefty sum to buy all three remastered seasons (though, I would have much preferred the originals) and NOBODY wants to watch with me (not even my family, for that matter!)

The thing is, that also may work to your advantage. If you do get some friends to watch it, I think they'll be able to get more into it with the more "contemporary" looking special effects.

And as I'm sure you've seen, a lot of cheesetasticness was preserved in the remasters. :bolian:

They think it's dorky, I personally don't see ANYTHING dorky about it. I feel a little left out sometimes. Even if I mention Star Trek once they say, "There she goes again..." It's all I know... They make me feel like I have leprosy or something.

The most important thing, I think, is to feel comfortable in your own skin. You like Star Trek and that's great! That's part of who you are right now. Your friends and family may not get it, it may seem really odd to them, but if they understand you're comfortable with it, even if they don't participate, they'll accept it. And in truth, that's the most important thing, that they except it.

The trick from there is to not try to foist it on your current friends, and just let them know you'd be happy to show them some Trek if they're curious. Perhaps if your friends are just sitting around your place and everyone is bored, you can suggest it as an option. You never know, as dorky as they might think it is, they might get into it.

Case in point: when I wanted to buy the blu-ray of Star Trek TOS season 1, Mrs. Focus all but ridiculed me and my liking for the original series. But as a sci-fi fan and a loving wife, she agreed to sit and watch them with me, poking fun all the while. By the end of the series, she was totally hooked, doing tons of research, and as you've seen in the other thread, made her own starfleet uniform. :)

Then again, I am only 20 and I guess Star Trek is a little ancient for them... ? God, I just need Trekkies in my life!

As I said above, Abram's Trek is really new and young and that can definitely help get some friends to give the old shows a chance. Also, you have this wonderful resource right here, The Internet, where you can find local Star Trek related meet and greets in your area. You're from L.A.? There's a convention in L.A. in November, I believe, around LAX. That might be worth looking into. Try using TrekBBS, Facebook and/or Myspace to find local Trek groups. You never know, a gathering of a dozen or more people at a well trafficked cafe or restaurant or something could be a lot of fun, and introduce you to those people who could be Trekkies in your life!
 
I lost my old viewing partner when I moved closer to the university. It's taking some time to get with a new crowd, there is a trekkie
social group here but no link up yet.
 
I am having a hard time getting my friends to watch TOS episodes with me. I recently forked over a hefty sum to buy all three remastered seasons (though, I would have much preferred the originals) and NOBODY wants to watch with me (not even my family, for that matter!) They think it's dorky, I personally don't see ANYTHING dorky about it. I feel a little left out sometimes. Even if I mention Star Trek once they say, "There she goes again..." It's all I know... They make me feel like I have leprosy or something.

I just want to know, are there other people who feel left out in their community for being a Star Trek fan?

Then again, I am only 20 and I guess Star Trek is a little ancient for them... ? God, I just need Trekkies in my life!

I'd always thought that seeing Shatner's patented acting was enough of a draw even for non-fans to TOS.
 
I am having a hard time getting my friends to watch TOS episodes with me. I recently forked over a hefty sum to buy all three remastered seasons (though, I would have much preferred the originals) and NOBODY wants to watch with me (not even my family, for that matter!) They think it's dorky, I personally don't see ANYTHING dorky about it. I feel a little left out sometimes. Even if I mention Star Trek once they say, "There she goes again..." It's all I know... They make me feel like I have leprosy or something.

I just want to know, are there other people who feel left out in their community for being a Star Trek fan?

Then again, I am only 20 and I guess Star Trek is a little ancient for them... ? God, I just need Trekkies in my life!

I never had a problem watching TOS alone...as a matter of fact I prefer it. Cuts down on all that pesky talking that goes on.
 
I always have to watch alone. My wife used to like Trek (she was a fan of ST from childhood like me, and we watched the movies and TNG together when we were first dating), but she's tired of it now. I hoped to get my daughter into it, but she's not really interested.

It would be more enjoyable to watch it w/ friends, but no one I know is into it. I did recently watch Errand of Mercy from the BD set w/ my sister-in-law. She was curious how the BD would look/sound, and was suitable impressed.

Vixen, I guess I always thought that fans whose friends also like Trek are a rarity. I hope you can find friends to share Trek with, but you might not.

Doug
 
I don't have many Trek-oriented friends, I can tell you that. That's why I come here. My husband likes Trek, but he's not nearly the fan that I am, and I have one friend who is a general scifi fan - she's the one I went with to see XI. My mother is a huge fan...but she lives a couple thousand miles away.

So mostly it's...me. Which is fine since I don't mind at all watching shows by myself (I would have seen XI by myself if necessary) and it doesn't bother me if people think it's dorky. I think Phasers is right - you just have to feel comfortable knowing what you like and why you like it, and if it bothers anybody else, tough.

My advice is: Revel in your geekdom!
 
My husband likes Trek, but he's not nearly the fan that I am
My Wife can geek out occasionally, but yeah, not nearly as profoundly or regularly as I can.:rommie:
But my Son is another story. He already calls out the "Gorn Mountain" whenever he sees it!!!:guffaw:
 
Well, most young people don't have any interest in old Star Trek. They might like the current movie just fine, but that doesn't translate into patience with the idiosyncracies of a nearly fifty-year-old TV series. So if, at the age of twenty, you can find one or two people who share your interest you'll have done really well. You can also, of course, seek out self-selected fans of any age by hanging around places like this or Star Trek conventions.
 
My husband likes Trek, but he's not nearly the fan that I am
My Wife can geek out occasionally, but yeah, not nearly as profoundly or regularly as I can.:rommie:
But my Son is another story. He already calls out the "Gorn Mountain" whenever he sees it!!!:guffaw:


That's pretty much my house. The way I see it is, the only time I really want people around to watch Trek with me is if I'm looking to play the 'Star Trek Drinking Game' that we used to play in the early 90's.

"Kirk flexed...DRINK." :guffaw:
 
It is pretty much the same thing here. PHASERS gave you some great insight...
and if you can't find anyone to enjoy Trek with, well, thats one of the reasons this place is so great! We all love to tawk Trek anytime, anyday!
 
I know, I like watching the series alone, but I want to introduce it to them so we can talk about the show when we hit an awkward silence. I absolutely hate awkward silences, and whenever there is one, I always bring up Star Trek. Yes, I know, totally awkward, these girls would rather listen to me talk about the Jonas Brothers (x.x) than how the Federation defeated the Klingons in episode so-and-so. *sigh* Like Kate, that is why I also come on here, I think I'm begining to be a littler bothersome sometimes, haha... Oh well, I love hearing what you guys have to say. lol

Thanks you guys for your input, you're rather nice :D. I usually get quite the snippy remarks even for the most angelic of questions.
 
You're not the only one. Even my family makes fun of me, and they're fans too (though only of TNG). My friends don't want to watch with me. I prefer to watch alone though. The few trekkie friends I have, we aren't close enough for them to come over and watch with me.

By the way, I'm a seventeen year old, and I can tell you, it's hard to find people my age who are fans, especially of TOS. =D I try not to bring up anything Trek because I just end up causing awkward silences. Not sure why ST has such a stigma about it. I think it's better than talking about the aforementioned Jonas Brothers.

If I lived wherever you do, I`d watch it with you! =)
 
I'm 45 and I can't find anyone to watch with me either. I got use to it. As to filling those awkward silences with talk of Trek, I do that all the time. My 35-45 year old friends just think I'm eccentric. I recently found a Dutch guy who loves to talk about TOS, but still he won't come over to watch with me.

One thing I have found about Trek fans, and I know this is common knowledge, is that we tend to be a bit smarter than most people. Maybe try showing it to the smartest guy you know and see what happens.
 
One thing I have found about Trek fans, and I know this is common knowledge, is that we tend to be a bit smarter than most people. Maybe try showing it to the smartest guy you know and see what happens.

I think it's dangerous to make assumptions like that. For example, I work in IT, and I used to assume that my colleagues are "intelligent" enough to be a skeptic like me, and accept scientific theories while discarding superstitions.

It truly shocks me when I hear them casually talking about ghosts, reincarnation, heaven, "intelligent design" etc. - and they uncritically believe all that stuff!

So, my point is - don't stereotype people.

Having said that, I never really thought about whether Trek fans I've known are more intelligent or not. Thinking back, I guess most have been pretty intelligent, but I wouldn't extrapolate my aquaintances with all Trek fans.

Doug
 
I think trying to sell younger adults on TOS is likely to fail.

Most will not be able to see past the 'oldness' & 'cheapness' of the series. Their loss.

Kids seem to give the STORIES the benefit of the doubt and i've seen many little kids grow into TOS fans.

Ironically they are more willing to just enjoy yhe stories without feeling like---"I shouldn't liike this because it isn't 'state of the art' "
 
Hell, I'd come over and watch with you! Ashamed though I am to admit it, I haven't seen Balance of Terror yet, but I really really want to... and a note to your family: If they don't like Star Trek, then they're :censored: :censored: :censored: with some :censored: :censored: :censored: zebra :censored: :censored: :censored: Final Fantasy :censored: :censored: :censored: Gorn :censored: :censored: :censored: Xbox 360 :censored: :censored: :censored: gasp, pant... you get the point...
 
I have two close friends and my girlfriend, and of those three, only one of my friends is not into Star Trek. He too, finds it "dorky". Of course, he likes rap music, and I find that stupid. My other friend, and my girlfriend are big Star Trek fans. It was the two of them that I went to see Trek XI with. My girlfriend and I watch the DVD's together alot. Particularly now that I recently acquired the TOS Remastered sets and neither of us had seen those when they were on TV.

I've been a Star Trek fan my whole life. I was born the year after TOS was cancelled off NBC, and my mom watched it first run. When I was little, she and I watched the reruns together, and watched TAS in it's first run. Except for the latest movie, she and I saw all of them together at the theater, and watched all the spin-offs together. She lost interest in DS9, but loved TNG, VOYAGER, and ENTERPRISE. She also tried to interest my brother in it, but except for TNG, he throught Star Trek (and by extension, the fans) was beneath him.
 
Hmmmmm... I gotta say, VulcanVixen, if that's you in your avatar photo, you could probably find guys willing to watch the test pattern with you.

Just sayin'...
 
You're not the only one. Even my family makes fun of me, and they're fans too (though only of TNG). My friends don't want to watch with me. I prefer to watch alone though. The few trekkie friends I have, we aren't close enough for them to come over and watch with me.

By the way, I'm a seventeen year old, and I can tell you, it's hard to find people my age who are fans, especially of TOS. =D I try not to bring up anything Trek because I just end up causing awkward silences. Not sure why ST has such a stigma about it. I think it's better than talking about the aforementioned Jonas Brothers.

If I lived wherever you do, I`d watch it with you! =)

Awh, hehe you're super duper! lol I guess we're on the same boat *sigh*, let us revel in our misfortune, lol. I don't know ANY type of trekkie, not even NG ones, it sucks, lol. What's a girl to do? Maybe one day, I'll find a whole colony of trekkers! lol
 
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